i am at the moment in highschool and trying to save myself for marriage, but its hard not to have sex. To help stop this i used to touch, but now i know it is wrong and am trying to stop. i last masturbated 3 weeks ago, and am trying to quit. but i almost think gradual steps would be better. would it be easier to have one last go round with a video tape, then only to a picture, then a girl in a bikini, then just my mind, then be done with it. I am having trouble just stopping, i long for it at times, i sometimes dream about it, i used to only do it once or twice every two weeks. I just am wondering if stopping cold turkey is the way to go.
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He heh.
Quit NOW. You are saying something like a serial killer "who would kill just one more guy and then stop". See what I mean?
It's hard in our years,but pray to god and he will help you..
Quit NOW. You are saying something like a serial killer "who would kill just one more guy and then stop". See what I mean?
It's hard in our years,but pray to god and he will help you..
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allhart
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Nothing is easy about it. Just think about how you dishonor GOD and letting the conviction rule. Decide to fight for GOD. Making a decision not to proceed or ask GOD to bring you a wife. leaving you a way out of the temptation or that his strength will be sufficient. Memorizing scripture having Gods word on your mind at all time. Really helps!!!!!!!
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I don't know...I think this is even worse and frankly sick behavior to have thoughts of the scripture running through your mind while masturbating. No disrespect, but it seems incredibly perverse to me.
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Masturbating is not dishonoring God. Nothing is dishonoring God. Masturbation is dishonoring YOU. You defile temple of your body. You enjoy in lust and fleshy pleasure. It's humiliating yourself. Too bad rare are those who see this.
If it's nothing wrong, why don't you do it in the public? What are you ashamed of then?
If it's nothing wrong, why don't you do it in the public? What are you ashamed of then?
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Surely if you have to think about how you are dishonoring God then the Holy Spirit is not convicting you?
I would say don't listen to what anyone says about whether it is wrong or not bar listening to the Holy Spirit. I think it is OK for some people, and wrong for others, if God is convicting you to stop then think of that every time you want to, if He is not, then don't stress about what someone told you.
I don't have a problem with it, I don't feel at all convicted not to, my fiancee has no problem with it, so I do it. I know people who feel that it is wrong and that God is telling them not to do it.
If you feel that God is telling you to stop, then stop, but if God is not, then do it and don't feel guilt.
I would say don't listen to what anyone says about whether it is wrong or not bar listening to the Holy Spirit. I think it is OK for some people, and wrong for others, if God is convicting you to stop then think of that every time you want to, if He is not, then don't stress about what someone told you.
I don't have a problem with it, I don't feel at all convicted not to, my fiancee has no problem with it, so I do it. I know people who feel that it is wrong and that God is telling them not to do it.
If you feel that God is telling you to stop, then stop, but if God is not, then do it and don't feel guilt.
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Hi, if you really feel it is wrong then stop, cold turkey I guess. I don't know anywhere in the Bible that says it is wrong though, besides the whole lust thing. Just think of it logically, your body is requiring something of you, at your age and it's creating lots of sperm (are we all adults?) to perform what would be your natural needs. At your age it'll be more than normal.
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Why would you need a video/magazine/picture? If you really need to release your tension it would not need encouragement, surely? Why don't you just stick to relieving yourself out of necessity and ditch the lustful aspects i.e. the porn?
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Masturbation is normal and healthy. There is not a single verse in the Bible that speaks against it. If you don't touch you'll have messy wet dreams!
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Now if you have thoughts of scriptures running thru your head while masturbating then you probably have some serious issues.
But go and beat that monkey till he cant get up any more.
But go and beat that monkey till he cant get up any more.
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Funny Then do it in front of God and ask him about it. While your at it you can do it anywhere with no moral thought of where your mind wonders to.Fill your mind with filth you become filthy. I was habitual touch no longer need it for i have put my priority's and morals with GODS help in the right place "I honor GOD"The habit doesn't stop after you get married either and anyone in there right mind that hasn't dealt with this kind of garbage can be emotionally hurt by you playing with your self instead of showing your feelings for the one that loves you and wants you. Don't think your kidding anyone or yourself in life that there is anything wrong with the whole issue
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I did. He said it was cool.
If you feel dirty when you touch, then by all means don't do it. Most people don't have that issue, though. It's a healthy release of tension with a handful of beneficial side-effects.
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Here's what Jesus said in the Gospel of Matthew:
Matthew 5:27-30
27 You have heard that it was said, You shall not commit adultery; 28 but I tell you that everyone who gazes at a woman to lust after her has committed adultery with her already in his heart. 29 If your right eye causes you to stumble, pluck it out and throw it away from you. For it is more profitable for you that one ofyour members should perish, than for your whole body to be cast into Gehenna. 30 If your right hand causes you to stumble, cut it off, and throw it away from you. For it is more profitable for you that one ofyour members should perish, than for your whole body to be cast into Gehenna.
I will leave you to discern the meaning for yourself.
Matthew 5:27-30
27 You have heard that it was said, You shall not commit adultery; 28 but I tell you that everyone who gazes at a woman to lust after her has committed adultery with her already in his heart. 29 If your right eye causes you to stumble, pluck it out and throw it away from you. For it is more profitable for you that one ofyour members should perish, than for your whole body to be cast into Gehenna. 30 If your right hand causes you to stumble, cut it off, and throw it away from you. For it is more profitable for you that one ofyour members should perish, than for your whole body to be cast into Gehenna.
I will leave you to discern the meaning for yourself.
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