Question about pornography - when is it a sin? (woman's perspective)

[zebulun]

Hello,

I just posted this on another thread and realized I may get my answers here better.... I have a question that I would like other Christian's - particularly other Christian woman to help me answer.

I have searched online about pornography addiction and the sin of pornography, but it all seems to revolve around males. I couldn't find anything about woman and pornography (reading, not participating).

So, here is my question - Is this a sin:

If a woman is married and she and her husband read fiction (untrue) pornography - specifically sexual stories that feature only 1 man and 1 woman - is that wrong? I am struggling with this. Hubby and I enjoy reading stories (knowing full well that they are just that - stories)...but I keep thinking about the Bible and about the sin of adultery - I think this would be considered adultery in God's eyes even though it's just the two of us together.

Sin is one of those things that makes one second guess themselves. I know if I feel guilty about something, then most likely it's sin...when I confess something then it's definitely sin. Just because it's not listed specifically in the Bible as sin (i.e. "thou shalt not read dirty stories") doesn't mean it's not sin.

I hope I'm not talking in circles - I just need some guidance...I hope anyone reading this realizes what I'm trying to ask......

I guess in a sentence my question would be: If a married couple (man and woman) are enjoying a sexual story (with no illustrations) together as part of their lovemaking, is that sinful?

Thanks everyone!

 

[BlondieLashes]

Hi. Please see my request for a new forum at http://www.christianforums.com/t1978991

 

[A Brother In Christ]

depend on your woman.

 

[markthomas]

search for 'the marriage bed' on google
maybe that will help answer your question, helped me with some things.

 

[Johnnz]

Because we are so strung up on sex it is something that we don't talk about much with others. Consequently some people turn to various sources to get more information about making sex work in a marriage. Sex can become very dull and routine over time and some people need information on how to change. People read novels, magazines, and may even get into porn in an attempt to learn, or revive some passion and excitement.

I have given pretty direct sexual information to people over the years. I have seen how good information can be so helpful. I have also found that once the initial embarrassment barrier is worked through many people are quite comfortable about talking through sexual issues.

I imagine you and your husband find the information stimulating, possibly informative, and that your sex life gets some benefits from your reading. If that's the case, and provided the material never goes neyond some boundaries, or becomes a substitute for your own intimacy, don't get too worried.

Good sexual information properly used never hurt anyone. Sex is meant to be a fun, pleasurable, intimate, creative, satisfying part of married life. If these elements are not there someone is being short changed out of God's intentions for married sex.

Feel free to PM me if you have any queries about what I have said.

John
NZ
John
NZ

 

[kingzjewel]

i find that the marriage bed is undefiled.... and adultery only comes in if either of you are fantasizing about being with the people in the stories or movies or whatever. you will find very biased info on some sites... we did the same search when we started in our marriage. we found some very left wing views. you have to be careful and discerning when reading other's opinions on this subject. do what feels right to you and your husband.

 

[jfj503]

I struggle with internet porn.I won't go, into great detail.In my opinion, my belief is that porn from a males perspective actually evolves from a lack of intimacy and love
and touching.If you aren't in a loving relationship and aren't touching ,holding or being touched by a woman,your heart can harden up and your lusts can take over.IMO deep hurts can also trigger this...Just MO....

 

[zebulun]

Thanks everyone. I really appreciate the comments and the insights from you all!!