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Prayer for God to send good friends into my life

serenedi

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I feel like the older I get, the harder it is to make friends, but the easier it is to talk to people (ironically). I'm good with acquaintances, but it never seems to go any deeper. Not that I don't try. I really need the joy of deeper friendships. I'm praying God can use me to be a good friend to someone and they accept my friendship and want to be my friend, too. Sorry if this sounds childish. It's just been on my heart lately...I've been feeling lonely for a while now. Thank you in advance for your prayers.
 

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For most people, they experience the same thing as they get older.

The best advice, I can give is definitely do not wait or postpone making friends. And do not be discouraged, it takes time to find friends even good ones.

See what connections your current friend group has, and see if you can expand on that with mutual friends. That is one way I was able to make new friends was through other friends and even family members.
 
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One thing I can share from experience that has caused a portion of friends to abandon or me losing potential friends, is that someone who I barely know would spread false gossip and rumors behind my back to damage my relationships.

I would often have no idea whats going on, or why it is happening. Or why even the person is doing this, do they just like to cause pain to others? I don't know.

When things like that happen under the radar, I don't know what I am supposed to do or what I could of done, or what I even did at all.

That's a big mystery about myself I have always wondered.

The friends I lost from this, I haven't really had a chance to talk to them or had any idea what was going on.

That's one big thing for me that I struggle with, I can make friends but sometimes I lose them because someone else doesn't like me for whatever reason.
 
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Ok lets make this real. "The LORD is far from the wicked: but he heareth the prayer of the righteous." "And this is the confidence that we have toward him, that if we ask anything according to his will he hears us." "But truly God has listened; he has attended to the voice of my prayer" "And it shall come to pass, that before they call, I will answer; and while they are yet speaking, I will hear"

All are in GODS WORD! All are HIS WILL! Having FRIENDS.. is a good thing. He is for. So.. KNOW you are HIS...KNOW He hears..HEARD YOU! KNOW ..I MEAN KNOW! HE WILL answer you. Why HE SAID IT! IF we know He hears us then we know we have the petition/prayers we asked for. His WILL :) IS His word..

I know this works.. my wife job.,. no friends...so we prayed.. HOLY JESUS did she get friends.. you are SO LOVED! This DESIRE? Hello where do you think it came from? Your Father.. so.. before you asked.. He has been working on it.. IN JESUS NAME
 
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I feel like the older I get, the harder it is to make friends, but the easier it is to talk to people (ironically). I'm good with acquaintances, but it never seems to go any deeper. Not that I don't try. I really need the joy of deeper friendships. I'm praying God can use me to be a good friend to someone and they accept my friendship and want to be my friend, too. Sorry if this sounds childish. It's just been on my heart lately...I've been feeling lonely for a while now. Thank you in advance for your prayers.

I'm sorry that you're struggling to make friends right now. I've been there off and on. I have many acquaintances and friends, but it's rare to see any of them. I think we live in a time where we all connect superficially on social media, but hardly know how to go out for a cup of coffee together anymore. It's sad.

About the gossip, I have been in that place where one person was spreading lies about me to damage relationships also. I asked God to vindicate me (King David had the same problem and ask this of God too). I prayed that God would just let people know what the real truth was, and I kept all those relationships open in spite of what they'd been told. I acted as if nothing had been said, treated everyone warmly and lovingly and let them figure it out themselves. Know what? It worked. People can see past the stories to know you for who you really are.

As difficult as it can seem sometimes, the best thing you can do is to think of three people you would love to hang out with, call each up and make a separate date with each one---even if it's just to go out for a cup of coffee.
You will have three events to look forward to, you'll get out, you'll have a few good laughs and you'll be happy that you did it.
I'll pray for you and
I hope you will find your joy again soon. <3
 
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Hi, it is most certainly NOT childish. A little while ago I asked for the same prayer. I used to have good friends, but then we moved to New York. It is a very busy city and it is difficult to make friends, I mean REAL friends. Everyone is always busy and preoccupied with themselves and maintaining connections that lead somewhere career wise. And it's all about the competition, and "I am better than you" attitude as opposed to trying to be friendly. If you'd like I'll be your online friend, you can message me any time, and I will definitely say a prayer for you:)
 
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