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Please pray for my husband and his anger issues

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I am in need of prayer for my husband and his anger issues. I have been trying to talk to him but he has very bad anger, remorse and hate inside of him. He has been lashing out at me and all I've been trying to do is calm him down. Please pray for him for complete and total peace. He needs to seek and accept GOD in his heart. Please pray for him. Thank you
 

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I am in need of prayer for my husband and his anger issues. I have been trying to talk to him but he has very bad anger, remorse and hate inside of him. He has been lashing out at me and all I've been trying to do is calm him down. Please pray for him for complete and total peace. He needs to seek and accept GOD in his heart. Please pray for him. Thank you
What he seeks is a person who listens and agrees.
Could you listen without responding back?
And just ask questions instead?
 
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What he seeks is a person who listens and agrees.
Could you listen without responding back?
And just ask questions instead?

Anger issues aren't about wanting someone to listen. I can't speak for the OP because I don't know exactly what the behavior is but I do know showing aggressive anger is about putting the hurt onto someone else. It's control and dominance.
 
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I am in need of prayer for my husband and his anger issues. I have been trying to talk to him but he has very bad anger, remorse and hate inside of him. He has been lashing out at me and all I've been trying to do is calm him down. Please pray for him for complete and total peace. He needs to seek and accept GOD in his heart. Please pray for him. Thank you

Putting you on the my prayer list. Hopefully your husband also has someone besides you he can talk to as far as friends and relatives go. Getting some kind of counseling also would be preferable, or at least free self help stuff that is on the web. Anger is one thing that can make a bad situation worse, and he needs to learn how to control it and manage his stress.
 
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Anger issues aren't about wanting someone to listen. I can't speak for the OP because I don't know exactly what the behavior is but I do know showing aggressive anger is about putting the hurt onto someone else. It's control and dominance.

Yes. And this is the result of wanting somebody to listen and understand. When people do not listen this causes anger and a desire to find control and dominance where ever one thinks they have control. The cause anger is not being heard and understood on a variety of issues. Listening and hearing by others is the solution.

You don't hit somebody because they are a good listener.

There is a clue there.

Anger-Iceberg-1.png
 
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Anger issues aren't about wanting someone to listen. I can't speak for the OP because I don't know exactly what the behavior is but I do know showing aggressive anger is about putting the hurt onto someone else. It's control and dominance.

Thank you, I totally agree with you. I have just been praying and staying away from him. Maybe the continued prayers will give him peace.
 
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What he seeks is a person who listens and agrees.
Could you listen without responding back?
And just ask questions instead?

I tried that and it didn't work. He just finds more reason to lash out at me. I told him that I didn't want to argue and he still kept arguing with me. I just left him alone and have contined to pray.
 
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I tried that and it didn't work. He just finds more reason to lash out at me. I told him that I didn't want to argue and he still kept arguing with me. I just left him alone and have contined to pray.

I think in moments like these, prayer really will be needed, so I will keep you and your husband in prayers. You remind me of Proverbs 15:1, where it says that a gentle answer turns away wrath. I hope that this verse could help you the next time he lashes out again. People with anger issue will need a lot of patience to deal with, so please do not give up!
 
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