Men, how do you react when another male compliments your wife?

[Niffer]

Where is the "line"?
Do you automatically get involved if a random stranger whistles at your wife?
What about a co-worker commenting on a photo of your wife and telling you she's sexy?
If your co-workers say something dirty about your wife do you stand up to them, or laugh it off?

Where is the line between a simple compliment and some guy drooling over your wife?

Just curious.

- Niff

 

[sdmsanjose]

Men, how do you react when another male compliments your wife?

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Where is the "line"?
Do you automatically get involved if a random stranger whistles at your wife?
What about a co-worker commenting on a photo of your wife and telling you she's sexy?
If your co-workers say something dirty about your wife do you stand up to them, or laugh it off?

Where is the line between a simple compliment and some guy drooling over your wife?

Do you automatically get involved if a random stranger whistles at your wife?
No, but I do not like it as it shows disrespect for me.

What about a co-worker commenting on a photo of your wife and telling you she's sexy?
I have never had that happen but I would tell him that I do not need any of his comments. I would also keep a distance from him

If your co-workers say something dirty about your wife do you stand up to them, or laugh it off?
Well the closest I came to that was when I was when my wife was my girlfriend and a big man put his hands on her. I socked him in the face but he almost whipped me. Fortunately a friend of mine hit him and he stopped fighting with me.

Maybe women like these kinds of reactions from men but as a man it is very disrespectful to have another man talk about your wife/girlfriend in a sexy way. For a man to touch your wife/girlfriend, well that is fighting time in my world!

What about women, how do you react if another woman does the following:

1 If a random woman whistles at your husband?
2 What about a co-worker commenting on a photo of your husband and telling
you he's sexy?
3 If your co-workers say something dirty about your husband

 

[c1ners]

1 If a random woman whistles at your husband?

I would probably glare at the woman and take my husbands hand to let her know that he was taken and then joke with him about it.

2 What about a co-worker commenting on a photo of your husband and telling
you he's sexy?

I'd tell her thank you and say that I also think he's sexy.

3 If your co-workers say something dirty about your husband

That's uncalled for and will get someone a reprimand.

 

[FaithPrevails]

I can tell you how my hubby would respond.

A simple admiration wouldn't bother him, as long as it wasn't demeaning/disrespectful.

Anything said or done that would be demeaning or disrespectful would be addressed immediately. He had a friend who disrespected me a few times in our home - not even in a sexual manner...just being rude, and he stopped inviting him over and eventually stopped hanging out with him all together. He did tell him, too, the few times that he disrespected me that he wasn't allowed to talk to his wife that way.

 

[Conservativation]

Where is the "line"?
Do you automatically get involved if a random stranger whistles at your wife?
What about a co-worker commenting on a photo of your wife and telling you she's sexy?
If your co-workers say something dirty about your wife do you stand up to them, or laugh it off?

Where is the line between a simple compliment and some guy drooling over your wife?

Just curious.

- Niff

Here lets test it

Niffer, you are bright and confident, and very witty, and from whatever pics Ive seen attractive too....

Now go ask your husband

report back!

 

[supersoldier71]

1. Whistle? Take wife by the hand and mad dog the offender. Any kind of catcall would get the same response.
2. "Sexy" is over the line. "Sexy" means that they would like to have sex with my wife. No go. Lost of other adjectives available, pick another.
3. Something dirty...me and somebody are about to have a serious disagreement.

 

[WolfGate]

Where is the "line"?
Do you automatically get involved if a random stranger whistles at your wife?
What about a co-worker commenting on a photo of your wife and telling you she's sexy?
If your co-workers say something dirty about your wife do you stand up to them, or laugh it off?

Where is the line between a simple compliment and some guy drooling over your wife?

Just curious.

- Niff

IMHO, none of these are "compliments". When someone truly compliments my wife, I'm pleased. All of those would be unwelcome.

 

[Paul 5]

Where is the "line"?
Do you automatically get involved if a random stranger whistles at your wife?
What about a co-worker commenting on a photo of your wife and telling you she's sexy?
If your co-workers say something dirty about your wife do you stand up to them, or laugh it off?

Where is the line between a simple compliment and some guy drooling over your wife?

Just curious.

- Niff

A whistle,not really anything because in most cases the person who does the whistle does not even know if the woman is married(it is a silly thing to do). A co-worker saying that your wife is nice looking,even good looking--OK,but not sexy,if the co-worker has a low IQ you might just let it go,otherwise let the fellow know by body language that he is going in the wrong direction. Personally, unless I knew the man and respected him I would not show him a picture of my wife,if you walk up to a bunch of guys telling dirty jokes and show them a picture of your wife in a swimming suit you are asking for trouble.

 

[Niffer]

Here lets test it

Niffer, you are bright and confident, and very witty, and from whatever pics Ive seen attractive too....

Now go ask your husband

report back!

LOL!!
Remi said that he "agrees" with you - and like most men who have commented; it only becomes a problem when a man is disrespectful toward me.
He said all of those were compliments, and didn't sounds disrespectful.

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*laugh* Cons, you're nuts.

Peace,
- Niff

 

[Conservativation]

Just keepin it all real (and using outdated cliches)

 

[FaithPrevails]

Just keepin it all real (and using outdated cliches)

Well, if that's the case, you should have told her she was all that and a bag of chips.

 

[blythe_ann]

Well, if that's the case, you should have told her she was all that and a bag of chips.

Thanks for that

 

[Oblivious]

I would think my DH would be thrilled to have a wife that's such a babe that other men would whistle and compliment her.

Now saying something dirty is just disrespectful IMO. In that scenario, he would probably say something.

 

[Romanseight2005]

Well, He doesn't worry about it. If they are respectful, he likes that his wife is attractive to other men. If they are obviously greedily ogling, you know, eying me up and down, I glare at them.

One time, I was on my porch, and these men were playing basketball nearby. One of them said hi, with a big smile, and sensually asked me to come play with them.

My husband, who had been inside, was in front of me before I could blink. He said,"She's going inside, and you can deal with me."

 

[WalksWithChrist]

I'm thankful I haven't really had to deal with this much. One thing that did happen at work a while back that comes to mind. One of my coworkers ran up to me and said "hey, there's this hot chick at the counter asking for you!" I just smiled at him as his face told the story. "Oh...that's probably your girlfriend, isn't it?"
I thought the situation was hilarious and the look of shock on his face was priceless. He was a very nice guy and didn't mean anything by it.

I did have this guy stalking my wife not long after we met. He would camp out in front of her dorm room if he suspected she was in there but not answering...because she was tired of being stalked! So I had a little manly chat with him. Cleared things right up.
: )

 

[jacks]

It can be Rough!

 

[c1ners]

My husband actually enjoys it. It makes him feel proud that he's got such a sexy wife. Although he's normally too oblivious to notice. He mostly thinks the looks and whistles are going to someone else other then me.

I remember once I had just met a friend of his. This friend went on and on about how pretty I was and how come my husband never told him that I was so pretty, yada yada yada. My husband didn't say anything for a while, but then he said "Come on dude, she's just my wife". Ouch did that hurt!

 

[Niffer]

Remi's a welder, and as such works with very crude, blue-collar guys.
The guys have never been directly rude to me (at least not verbally) but poor Remi really takes a ribbing and has had to tell a few guys to shut their mouths when talking about me.

Remi is about the most non-violent guy in the world, and he's told me it takes a lot for him to just 'walk away' when he really wants to punch them.
That's how bad they were.

Another reason he's so looking forward to working in an office - they can still be crude, but you're much less likely to have porn passed around on an iphone there....

- Niffer

 

[FaithPrevails]

Certain professions do yield a much cruder crowd - sometimes male AND female. I'm sorry he is having to deal with this right now.

 

[Audiomechanic]

Where is the "line"?
Do you automatically get involved if a random stranger whistles at your wife?
What about a co-worker commenting on a photo of your wife and telling you she's sexy?
If your co-workers say something dirty about your wife do you stand up to them, or laugh it off?

Where is the line between a simple compliment and some guy drooling over your wife?

Just curious.

- Niff

How do I react? I don't, unless my wife is offended or hurt. If someone comments on a picture of her and says that she's sexy, I'll usually respond with a, "hell yeah she is."

Whistles, ignore them. If someone is blatantly hitting on my wife, that's a different story. But compliments? I don't worry about them. Compliments from other men about my wife usually make me feel good because I did marry a hot woman.