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Low-Stakes First Dates

jess9450

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I ran across this article randomly a couple of days ago, and it got me thinking about what kinds of activities you coud do on a first date to keep it "low-stakes" - meaning not placing too much pressure on whether or not the date goes a certain way.

Low-stakes First Dates | benjyfeen.com

Does anyone have any other suggestions about activities they'd do on a low-stakes first date? :)
 

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That was very interesting, there is this girl I would like to take out but I'm in a place where I have to take things very slowly because I'm in recovery, so I think I'm just going to ask her if she would like to come for a coffee, so we can get to know each other. Thanks again for putting this on the site, God bless you
 
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My first dates with someone I did not know well consisted of 20 - 30 mins at a coffee shop.

It is more than enough time to get a read on someone - I've even left within 5 mins of meeting someone on more than one occasion.
I'd also arrive early and buy my own coffee, and it would allot me the ability to sit outside and watch his driving IQ. :)

If someone I know, it would depend on them/us. The funnest to me were to the shooting range, or to a museum, picnic at a park, trail walk/ride.
The worst is a fancy meal at an expensive restaurant.
 
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I read 'low-steakes' and I thought of steaks.

Yummy stakes...


If you are a cannibal serial killer, you do not have to worry about where to take her out to - she will be bringing the food.

Ah, so that's what you meant by 'raw meat' in your last thread...
 
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I really liked that blog.

I usually take a girl out for coffee or lunch for a first date. I find it to be casual enough that you it's not awkward afterwards if neither are interested.

On the other hand, if a girl is like me, then she might not figure out that it is a date until it's over or someone points it out to her. It's happened to me a couple times. :o But I don't like to jump to the conclusion that going to lunch or having a drink at a bar with a guy is date, even if he's paying because he just might want to be friends with me.
 
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How about an online Date. Its so low stakes that its hard to even call it a date.

Im sorry im just being a troll right now.


You could always go skating.

:ahah:

I could agree with the coffee "date" thing, but then sometimes it almost feels like an interview, and it could get really awkward lol. I'm someone that likes to keep active in these kinds of situations, so sometimes just sitting in one place with someone feels a little uncomfortable.

Going for a walk sounds like a cool idea too, but I'd do it somewhere we could actually see something interesting at the same time and talk about it.
I like the idea of actually doing something together. The challenge is finding something you'll both enjoy and also allow you to learn more about the other person.
 
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