This day and age all I see is arguments growing as time goes on in a marriage.
I am the type of person who walks away from drama good or bad. Maybe it is perhaps I like a person and it did not work out. I don't see how people do it. I have noticed over the year people distance themselves away from me but I don't care because I am not changing for anyone anymore.
I see it on relatives's eyes when I tell them I am remaining single forever. I have had women who were interested baffled... No one seems to understand. Perhaps all one need is FWB or something and just move forward in life...
If you are happy being single and don't have a big problem with sexual temptation or some kind of burning desire for the type of emotional connection you'd get through marriage or a desire to have kids, then celibacy is a good thing. Some people have a gift to be celibate for life. If that's you, then you can use the extra time you will have to serve and please the Lord.
If celibacy, no kids, etc. isn't for you, then you should marry. You don't have to marry. But you can.
For me, it was worth it. I wasn't cut out for life-long celibacy, no kids, etc. I wanted a wife and kids. Yes, it was definitely worth it for me.
Actually, most people don't get divorced. Many do, but most don't from what I've read. If you want to marry and are afraid of not getting along or divorce, pray, and be very, very careful about mate selection. If you need any pointers, I'd be willing to help and so would several others I'm sure.
You can decrease your chances of divorce by marrying a woman who goes to church regularly and by marrying a virgin. Some wives from certain Asian people-groups have low divorce rates. I was just thinking about the local Indonesian community. They probably have a 100 people. I haven't heard of a single divorce in the past 5 years or so. You can start doing statistics with a sample size of about 30, so I'm guessing that means something, though I don't know what the population is representative of.
I believe in Ephesians 5 type marriages, and I think one of the keys is for each couple to embrace their role. For the man, that means taking on the responsibility to love your wife like Christ loves the church, being a provider, protector, honoring your wife. For the wife, that means submitting to her husband, respecting/reverencing him, loving him, being diligent around the home and having a meek and quiet spirit. Some 'modern' thinking women have a little trouble with a couple of those responsibilities. Honestly, some men have some trouble with their roles, too, though it's not usually a deeply held philosophical aversion to them. Except maybe on the provider issue for some modern men.
If a wife embraces the idea that she should submit to her husband and reverence him, that goes a long way to minimize conflict. If the husband who seeks to please his wife, honor her, and treat her with love like Christ laid down his life for the church, that is going to remove a lot of opportunities for conflict in the marriage.
