INTJ + INFJ ... thoughts?

[Apollonian]

What do you think a friendship (and/or romantic relationship) between an INTJ and INFJ would look like?

http://www.typelogic.com/intj.html
http://www.typelogic.com/infj.html

Since both types share "introverted intuition" as their dominant function, it seems to me that there is great potential for a deep connection between the two types. (Perhaps even a sharing of internal worlds and imaginations).

The major difference, of course, is that INTJ's are thinkers (extroverted Thinking) versus the feeling INFJ's (extroverted Feeling). I have to wonder whether this would cause conflict or provide a strong complement.

Interestingly, this flips deeper down. INTJs are feelers in private (introverted feeling) while INFJs may become contemplative (introverted thinking). So, when a relationship becomes close, I wonder if this would make for an interesting dance between the public and private faces of the two types.

As an INFJ, would you find INTJs too intellectual or cold?
(INTJs are often stereotyped as sarcastic, though I myself abhor sarcasm)

As an INTJ, would INFJs be too boisterously expressive or their emotions too easily hurt?
(INFJs are often stereotyped as bleeding hearts, though I have met several who have a thoughtful insight about otherwise intellectual issues)

I would prefer comments from INTJs or INFJs (from personal experience or insight).

Thoughts and insights are much appreciated.

-Apollonian
INTJ

PS - If you do not agree with the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator, please resist the urge to gripe about it here. The pros and cons of the Myers-Briggs are understood to be moot. Either you understand the benefit of it, or you think it is worthless. This thread is for those of us who see the benefits of the type descriptions and dynamics.

 

[radhead]

There is a website called Socionics that describes the relationship between any 2 (same or different) of the 16 types.

 

[Niels]

I'm an INTP, and I get along well with most other "Introverted iNtuitive" types. I often think it would be nice to marry a woman with a similar temperament.

 

[Margim]

http://www.personalitypage.com/home.html

A great resource. Click on the icons across the top to see how the different types interact in various situations.

 

[Beauty4Ashes]

Yes I have thoughts.

None that make enough sense to be compiled into written words yet though.

 

[RDouglas]

INTJ + INFJ = 2(INJ)+TF

(Algebra I)

For what it's worth, I've never been a big believer that you can classify people so thoroughly under psychological types that you can always predict what will happen in their interactions. I understand the concept. It just seems a little too "Zodiac" for me.

For a fairly balanced treatment on this type of thing though, Tim LaHaye's "How to be happy though married" book is decent (if it's still in print).

 

[Highland Watchman]

Um... Relationships-wise, I have known a few couples that have this combination. In my own experience, I am an INFJ and a lot of my closest friends are actually INTJ... We hang out and joke about stuff all the time.

 

[jameseb]

Yes I have thoughts.

None that make enough sense to be compiled into written words yet though.

And I can attest to the that too...she definitely never makes sense.


The INFP strikes again!

 

[radhead]

Here's what the socionics site says...

Look-a-like relations between psychological ("personality") types

These are relations between equal partners which can be called acquaintances rather than friends. There are no visual obstacles in the development of these relations, partners can talk easily almost about anything. Look-a-like partners do not feel any danger from the other partner. The strong sides of the partners are different in the such a way that almost any conversations between them always fall into the area of the confidence of only one of the partners. Look-a-like partners also have similar problems which makes them feel rather sympathetic towards each other instead of being critical of each other's vulnerabilities.

Understanding between partners is usually good. Collaboration between them may be very fruitful especially if partners feel a mutual attraction. When partners loose their feeling of sympathy for each other through anger or any other reason, they can apply pressure to their partner's vulnerabilities. This can sometimes be really unexpected and unpleasant for both partners.

Arguments in Look-a-like relations are not common practice. The partners usually try to help each other, or at least feel when their partner requires some form of assistance. However, in many cases the help is not effective enough because partners have similar problems. Look-a-like relations have an average degree of comfort. Partners do not have anything against each other but also nothing for which to struggle. These relations can normally bring a feeling of satisfaction from interaction with an equal and not boring partner.

Look-a-like pairs:

ENTp - ESTp
ISFp - INFp
ESFj - ESTj
INTj - INFj
ENFj - ENTj
ISTj - ISFj
ESFp - ENFp
INTp - ISTp

 

[Apollonian]

Please stick to Myers-Briggs. Socionics is a completely different set and INTj/INFj (socionics) is not INTJ/INFJ (Myers-Briggs).

In socionics, the Myers-Briggs INTJ is more like the Socionics INTp rather than INTj.

The functional analysis is the major difference, and since that is what I am focusing on, Socionics will confuse the issue. I'm not looking for theory here. I'm looking for personal experience and insight.

 

[TriptychR]

I mean absolutely no disrespect to anyone who is into the M-B tests, because I used to be heavy into them too, but sometimes I wonder if this sort of thing is focused on too much for one's own good. It almost seems, well... cultish.

 

[radhead]

It's basically like astrology.

Astrology is based on the theory that certain personality aspects are determined at birth. M-B is based on the theory that certain personality aspects are formed in the early childhood years.

 

[Apollonian]

It's basically like astrology.

Astrology is based on the theory that certain personality aspects are determined at birth. M-B is based on the theory that certain personality aspects are formed in the early childhood years.

Seriously, if you all want to gripe about the accuracy or relevance of Myers-Briggs, please make your own thread. If you don't want to discuss my topic, then why are you posting?

*sigh* Perhaps this is not productive and there isn't anyone out there willing to share their experience at the present time. Rare as the two types are, I can't say that I am terribly surprised but then again this thread hasn't been alive very long.

*waiting*

 

[radhead]

Actually, I thought I gave some pretty useful information. You are the one who didn't appreciate it.

You could have just said thanks.

 

[Niels]

It's basically like astrology.

Astrology is based on the theory that certain personality aspects are determined at birth. M-B is based on the theory that certain personality aspects are formed in the early childhood years.

It's nothing like astrology. The MBTI is based on personal preference. Generally, what you like is what you get. Of course, that doesn't keep people from making incorrect assumptions about others based on how they test.

 

[DaughterOFgrace]

It's been many years since I took the test, but I believe I am an ENTJ so I can somewhat relate to the INTJ and INFJ's.

People always say opposites attract, but in my opinion I would love to be with someone of a similar personality to myself as I believe we would have a deeper understanding of what makes the other tick, and therefore be able to better communicate and relate to that person as well as meet their needs. This is simply speculation though as to know for sure I'd have to be able to speak from experience and I'm not married yet.


btw, I don't believe myers briggs is in any way related to astrology or new age sorts of beliefs. It's simply a psychological assessment of the facts relating to one's personality and it's scientifically proven as well.

 

[Beauty4Ashes]

And I can attest to the that too...she definitely never makes sense.


The INFP strikes again!

oooh............its the wannabe leprachan!!!!!

I've missed you!

Too bad you never make sense either

 

[ImperialPhantom]

Every time something becomes popular, people will find some way to make it evil. Remember when that preacher used a sword to slice up Pokemon cards awhile ago?

Like DaughtersofGrace, I am an ENTJ.

 

[Hitch2astar]

Rare, huh? Well you've got one INFJ here. I suppose. The description fints me as I am now neway, minus possibly temporary changes.

But I dont know what to say. Experience... cant really think of much w/ that other type, though they might be all around me and maybe Im just too sleepy rite now. Then again, think you said it's rare. Insight... well I for one am not so into perfectionists, tho I've got a bit of that in me too. Life isnt perfect and its hard business (if not impossible) trying to be perfect in it. Makes it rather difficult for others too, tho they wouldnt mind the benefits when there are any, Im sure. Esp. when they demand perfection not only from themselves but others, esp. in close relationships. Yes, I know that one fully, if I make myself think of someone who did come to mind while I was reading that, and they're in my own family. But since its not a friendship or romantic relationship w/ them, I'd have to think about that more. That's the only bad thing that stood out really, apart from not being good at relationships or sumthin, but then, you've got that stick-to-it-iveness. Might have to read it again.

Cant think of nethin else rite now.

This is a bit cool actually; I liked reading mine. Tho I think some of us carry a different one hidden inside, forgotten, maybe even lost forever.

 

[Periann]

Allright, I've taken this test a couple of times and have scored as an "INFP".

My question is (and I might just be missing the obvious) how do you know which type someone else is to even judge whether they would work together?

My companion type on the link you posted are supposed to be extremely logical and I think that would drive me crazy. I can describe the personality type that I am looking for, and extremely logical doesn't rank high on the list. So I'm sorry about not answering your question very clearly. But to just judge on paper, whether a feeling type would get along with a thinking type is something that could happen, but I don't think I personally could work well with a person like that for a long period of time. I would very likely want to hit the person over the head eventually. I'm more optomistic than realistic, and more lets leave the details fuzzy than fill them all in. So...Im not sure...lol.