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Imago Relationship Therapy
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I had to look it up, but it sounds like the popular method that most therapists use (mirror what the other said, validate it, empathize with them)....I just didn't know the name for it.
IMAGO > About Imago Therapy > What is Imago
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AM, are you thinking about this kind of therapy?
I knew a man who went through it, and it saved his marriage. He was so grateful for it that he actually found a teacher who is a master in something similar, and he dedicated one night a week to her instruction. TBH, I think it can be over-done.
I do think it's an important thing to learn, though, because it teaches people emotional intelligence, and Gottman's studies show that men and women who are emotionally intelligent have more successful, happier marriages. I do not think imago in and of itself is enough for that, but it is a good place to start.
I knew a man who went through it, and it saved his marriage. He was so grateful for it that he actually found a teacher who is a master in something similar, and he dedicated one night a week to her instruction. TBH, I think it can be over-done.
I do think it's an important thing to learn, though, because it teaches people emotional intelligence, and Gottman's studies show that men and women who are emotionally intelligent have more successful, happier marriages. I do not think imago in and of itself is enough for that, but it is a good place to start.
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Yes, I am thinking of going through it with my wife. Our communication is very poor and as a result, we have misunderstandings, hurt feelings, and hardly any safety in our marriage. The Imago can help with that and help us gain better perspective on each other, I think. Like you said, it can give us emotional intelligence.
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I have little knowledge aside from my friend, but imo, it looks like a great place to start, for sure. One word of encouragement, though. Don't just go through the motions - really put yourself into it, really try to put yourself into each others' shoes and feel what each other is feeling. Anyone can parrot the other, but it takes energy to really hear with your heart. So...I have a tip for you two, just because I care about your marriage....when she talks to you and you reflect back to her, hold one of her hands in both of your hands (fully engulf her hand) and hold it as though you are holding her heart because that is what she is doing - she is sharing her heart. See if she will do the same for you when you talk and share your heart.
All the best with Imago! Let us all know how it goes.
All the best with Imago! Let us all know how it goes.
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