How to stop someone from coming over

[FaithT]

I think the man does

Oh, no…

 

[RileyG]

I think the man does

You are an adult woman. You have a right to tell him no and go away. Call the police if they won’t leave you alone.

 

[RileyG]

A muslim is coming over and you want him to go away. Blare some liturgy music and burn some Qurans outside the door.

Sounds good to me! Also, don’t forget to fry up some bacon

 

[prodromos]

A muslim is coming over and you want him to go away. Blare some liturgy music and burn some Qurans outside the door.

I'm not sure I would recommend the latter unless she desires martyrdom.

 

[prodromos]

Unfortunately, Moslem men will often target Christian women. All's good until after the wedding where the pressure to convert to Islam will be constant.

 

[Lady Bug]

I'm not sure I would recommend the latter unless she desires martyrdom.

No kidding; they'll burn my house down with the fire available.

Unfortunately, Moslem men will often target Christian women. All's good until after the wedding where the pressure to convert to Islam will be constant.

I wish I could swear here but F the notion of even a wedding. I can't even look at a Muslim man without antipathy.

 

[FaithT]

I'm not sure I would recommend the latter unless she desires martyrdom.

That’s along the lines of what I wanted to say.

 

[FaithT]

No kidding; they'll burn my house down with the fire available.

I wish I could swear here but F the notion of even a wedding. I can't even look at a Muslim man without antipathy.

Many years ago our daughter had a classmate for a brief time whose mother was American. I don’t know what religion she was, but her father was from….somewhere…… Iran, maybe, and he was Muslim. They eventually divorced. IIRC he refused to give the girl back to her mother.

 

[RileyG]

Continued prayers

 

[chevyontheriver]

One thing I found funny about the quran is that it talks about these "people of the book" in a derogatory fashion, yet the quran is now .. a book. Does that mean that modern muslims are all infidels? Oh my don't say that out loud.

Careful. You are probably not as anonymous as you would like to be.

 

[Lady Bug]

Careful. You are probably not as anonymous as you would like to be.

None of his answers are practical.

 

[Gregory Thompson]

None of his answers are practical.

Thanks for the feedback, the posts are removed.

 

[chevyontheriver]

None of his answers are practical.

He's trying to be humorous. But obviously not practical.

 

[Lady Bug]

He's trying to be humorous. But obviously not practical.

I don't begrudge that. It's just not going to work for mental cases like those relatives

 

[chevyontheriver]

I don't begrudge that. It's just not going to work for mental cases like those relatives

I do think an obvious 'No!' is a good idea, followed if necessary by 'What part of 'no' do you not understand?'

You do have a right to say 'no' to them. You have undoubtedly been polite up to now, but if that doesn't get through to them then a more emphatic ;no' might be needed. You are not their doormat. They need to know that.

 

[Gregory Thompson]

He's trying to be humorous. But obviously not practical.

I guess claiming sexual harassment and getting a restraining order might help.

 

[Lady Bug]

I do think an obvious 'No!' is a good idea, followed if necessary by 'What part of 'no' do you not understand?'

You do have a right to say 'no' to them. You have undoubtedly been polite up to now, but if that doesn't get through to them then a more emphatic ;no' might be needed. You are not their doormat. They need to know that.

FWIW I've had that man's number blocked from the getgo, so I've never actually spoken to him. I did see an attempt by him to call me though. My brother had the brilliant idea of giving him my number without asking me, and was even going to give him my address. My dad has been the one to say No to him so far, and the latter has not been very pleased about it. My dad and him are still sort of keeping in touch, which is making my blood boil. My dad is too concerned with his reputation in the family to stay away from him entirely, and it's making me very angry. My dad did tell him not to come over "until he is home," which makes me want my dad to say in the nursing home indefinitely just so that the relative doesn't come to my home.

What is it about innocent, nonconfrontational people like me who attract drama without my consent?

 

[mourningdove~]

What is it about innocent, nonconfrontational people like me who attract drama without my consent?

When a 'difficult' person knows they are dealing with a nice, and/or naive, person ... I think they know they can push and take advantage of that person, and not get much of a fight from them.

Difficult persons seem to be able to 'spot' vulnerable persons easily.

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[RileyG]

I guess claiming sexual harassment and getting a restraining order might help.

This.