Having God at the centre of your relationship

[Sam the Record Man]

This morning, my youth pastor and I went out for lunch after churhc (it was like 11:00 so still morning) and she had mentioned some advise about keeping God at the centre of my relationship. I've been dating my christian girlfriend for almost a year now, but don't quite understand how to keep God at teh centre of our relationship. What does it mean to you guys?? How do you do it? and what does it look like?

 

[mathias1979]

Good question...my fiance and I are still trying to work at that ourselves. But for starters...frequent prayer together is crucial. Discussion your spiritual life together is also important, letting each other know where you are in your spiritual walk and whether you feel your on a spiritual high or low. Another big one is praying to God about all big decisions you make together (of course, if you've only been dating a year, you may not be making too many big decisions together just yet). Beyond that you just have to make sure the things you are doing together would be pleasing to Christ. Try to keep him in mind as much as possible. Let your love for each other be a reflection of Jesus' love and an example of how we are to love one another. Community service or bible studies never hurt either. Anything that keeps you growing towards Christ while growing stronger together.

-Matt

 

[Pope Gonzo]

My girlfriend and I do our best to regularly pray and study the Bible together(by regularly I mean on a weekly basis, not necessarily a daily basis ). It's obviously something we're still working on, but we try to discuss our spiritual walks and where we have problems and everything. God has been very good to us

 

[rainbowprism]

It basically means not doing anything as a couple that would be unpleasing to God and to grow together in your spirituality! Imagine a triangle....God is at the top and you two are the other bottom points

 

[tractrack-online]

It means keeping God and your service to Him as priority number 1! It's easy to slip into making yourself or your gf the most important thing in your life and in your relationship. Making yourself the most important is a sure way to develop an unstable and disappointing relationship. Making your gf most important is right, as long as you are only speaking of human relationships. To make God the center, both you and your gf need to be seeking His will separately from each other and realizing it together (or realizing that His will is not for you together). Love is blinding and relationships are fragile. Keeping the focus on a never-changing God gives you the foundation for a lifelong relationship.

I have heard it described well as a "love triangle." God is at the top and you and your gf are at the bottom. As you grow closer to God individually you will grow closer together as a couple (draw a triangle and see).

 

[micaela]

I have heard it described well as a "love triangle." God is at the top and you and your gf are at the bottom. As you grow closer to God individually you will grow closer together as a couple (draw a triangle and see).

Great job tractrack - I was just about to write a reply about the so-called divine love triangle. I think it is a great 'graspable' example of how placing God first in each of your lives makes you grow closer to each other with God as the focus.