Hard for guys to ask out girls from their church?

[Labayu]

And unless you're from the Bible belt you can't just ask out random people if you want to date christians!

But I've just been thinking that for lots of guys it's fairly hard to ask girls out who go to their church if it's small-medium sized. Is it a valid excuse or not?

I got thinking about it because I saw a couple photos/videos from a family friends church. Decent looking girl, seems to have a good personality too. I asked my friend/aquantance on the off chance if she was single. His reply was that she was but most of the single guys in the (small, medium- about 20 or 30) church wanted to go out with her. Thing is they live about 3 hours away. I'm prob going to see if I can come up with a way of dating her (ie the least stakerish- prob through the family friend)... I'd like her to say yes, but if it's no? It doesn't really matter, the worst that can happen is my baby-wedding desperate parents might annoy me about it.

But what's keeping the guys from ballsing up and asking her out (coz from the message it seems that def not everyone who likes her has asked, maybe some)? Obviously I and you don't know for sure, but what are some of the typical reasons?

Want the girl to show (lots of) intrest. Don't want to ruin the "friendship". Want to show the girl "respect" by [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse] footing arround the issue and pretending not to be intrested "like that" if she shows the least hesitation? Afraid that the rest of the guys in the church won't like it. Trying but other guys activily sabotage. Hoping they can drift into a realtionship?

What other ones?

And guys, if there is someone you really like at your church then Flipping ask her out. How would you feel if she started dating some random guy who she knows through a friend because he didn't care if she said no? 'Coz I'm fully expecting most of the guys at her church to hate me if we do start dating in any way, let alone seriously

 

[Inkachu]

You want to date a girl based solely on pictures you've seen of her? Am I missing something here?

 

[GQ Chris]

Hey Man, go for it, you only live once. Plus if you don't have the guts to, someone else will.

 

[ido]

If she comes family friend-recommended, then that's a plus. If the other guys didn't ask her out or did and got turned down - not your problem! I think it's awesome that you're willing to put yourself out there despite the risk of possible rejection. More men need to be willing to take a risk. The good things in life (including a good spouse) are worth taking risks.

 

[mina]

if you like her ask her out. My ex, asked me out based on my picture alone. He was friends with some of my friends from college and he noticed a group picture that i was in that was framed and on their wall. The friends were actually the go between and he called me. We lived about 45 min. away. We went out for about a year and a half until he got the hots for a girl that went to his own church . Would have been a sweet and great story, if it had worked out.

 

[Labayu]

You want to marry a girl based solely on pictures you've seen of her? Am I missing something here?

Fixed!

Ok so how many people have gone on blind dates without even seeing what the other person looks like? Or internet dating?

Yeah only pictures and videos, however from the 3 or 4 mutal friends we have I'm hearing she's a really nice girl, I obv think shes fairly hot from the photos/vids I have seen and the other guys in her church think that theres something there...

Depends what you think dating's for? She may be comming over in a month or so for something unrealted and I was already planning on visiting her area on an invitation from someone else at least 2 times this year. If dating is "I love you and want to marry you" then yeah, it's dumb. If it's, "hey, you could be cool, I want to see if I'm right and if I/you would be intrested in taking it further down the line" then what's the biggie? Coffee isn't marriage!

LM

So Long from the Sunshine State

 

[latteda]

Did your friends tell you what they thought the reason might be?

Maybe she is happy being single and the guys there know she isn't interested.

 

[Inkachu]

It's definitely true that every person views the purpose of dating differently. I could understand you saying you wanted to MEET her based on picture alone, but how can you know you want to date her when all you know is what she looks like? That's what threw me off. You might meet her and hang out with her once and decide you never want to see her again. That's all I was thinking.

 

[trOlliJokinen]

Most guys are too scared to ask out girls from churches anyway. Maybe the weird guys are asking her out?

 

[mina]

maybe the guys there don't know how to properly approach her and she's creeped out. Or they just plain won't ask her out. It happens. You won't know if she'll say yes, unless you ask.

 

[GQ Chris]

is she nice and also cute, if so yeah I'll ask her out.

 

[Beauty4Ashes]

I say ask her out. I don't know guys excuses or reason for not asking girls out in church but I have noticed it's rare also and often many guys will like the same girl but no one will have the guts to ask her out.

I think its great that you do have the guts and aren't afraid of her saying no. If more men thought that way, there would be less single guys out there. ......not to mention less single girls.