Guys: If your girlfriend asked you to write her a note or love letter...

[HaigCraylett]

I think love letters are beautiful. I sometimes write my wife letters of affection. I wrote one to my Father before he died too. It meant a lot to him.

Love letters are good - if you mean what you write! x

 

[Luther073082]

honestly?

I would think she's been watching too many disney movies.
Too many hollywood films.
too many soap operas.


but if it means that much to her i'll probably write her one or two.

I agree with this, too many disney movies.

I have no problems expressing my feelings verbally, but writing a love letter seems to me to be nothing more then trying to find 120 different ways of saying "I love you".

 

[somethingBEAUTIFUL]

I agree with this, too many disney movies.

I have no problems expressing my feelings verbally, but writing a love letter seems to me to be nothing more then trying to find 120 different ways of saying "I love you".

Ah, Luther...I am surprised you feel this way! You've helped me a lot over the years with your posts and such. But this time, I don't know...I mean, what's wrong with finding multiple ways to say, "I love you" to your beloved??? Many will treasure notes/letters/cards/napkins/scraps of paper from a loved one.

In fact, ever since my last post on this thread, I have thought very little about my boyfriend writing me anything. However, this past weekend he was in town staying at his mom's house. I was over there last night, and when he went into his room to gather his belongings and suitcase, I quickly jotted on a slip of paper, "Just a note to say I love you and I'll miss you this week. Drive carefully!" Then I folded it and slipped it into his pocket secretly when we were hugging goodbye. His reaction when he found it? He texted me AND called me to say he loved it and gave me props for being so smooth with getting it in his pocket without him realizing anything.

Not once did I even think about this thread though, lol. I just did it to be sweet!

 

[Luther073082]

Ah, Luther...I am surprised you feel this way! You've helped me a lot over the years with your posts and such. But this time, I don't know...I mean, what's wrong with finding multiple ways to say, "I love you" to your beloved??? Many will treasure notes/letters/cards/napkins/scraps of paper from a loved one.

In fact, ever since my last post on this thread, I have thought very little about my boyfriend writing me anything. However, this past weekend he was in town staying at his mom's house. I was over there last night, and when he went into his room to gather his belongings and suitcase, I quickly jotted on a slip of paper, "Just a note to say I love you and I'll miss you this week. Drive carefully!" Then I folded it and slipped it into his pocket secretly when we were hugging goodbye. His reaction when he found it? He texted me AND called me to say he loved it and gave me props for being so smooth with getting it in his pocket without him realizing anything.

Not once did I even think about this thread though, lol. I just did it to be sweet!

That's not what I would consider a love letter though. If leaving you a little note that says I love you is all you want, that's easy enough although it would be a bit contrived when you ask him for it.

But saying that you want love letters is like asking him to write you a poem or something like that. Some dudes are great at that and good for them. But most guys arn't good at that.

There are a lot of ways that people express their love, acts of service, gifts, etc etc. . . you probably know all of the different ways. It's just that the romantic books and movies seem to focus on the love letters and poems thing. And it's great for guys who can do that stuff. But most guys can't and it's rather unrealistic to expect it.

 

[somethingBEAUTIFUL]

That's not what I would consider a love letter though. If leaving you a little note that says I love you is all you want, that's easy enough although it would be a bit contrived when you ask him for it.

But saying that you want love letters is like asking him to write you a poem or something like that. Some dudes are great at that and good for them. But most guys arn't good at that.

There are a lot of ways that people express their love, acts of service, gifts, etc etc. . . you probably know all of the different ways. It's just that the romantic books and movies seem to focus on the love letters and poems thing. And it's great for guys who can do that stuff. But most guys can't and it's rather unrealistic to expect it.

Ok, I understand better now. Thanks for the clarification! And yeah, you're right, a lot of romantic books and movies do seem to focus on love letters and poems.

 

[cleanelvis]

I think you’ll get another one.

I just think if he’s done it before, he’ll do it again. Some people feel insincere when they make romantic gestures that aren’t spontaneously their own.

I think asking about it just adds to the pressure. I’m sure he wants to, maybe he’s just isn’t feeling very creative.

 

[TheApostleJohn]

There's nothing wrong with asking for that. It's good for you to tell each other what you need to feel loved.

 

[Stirleyyy]

every gesture of love i know about and are able to display are because my gf did it first. she got me gifts first, love letters first, etc. Maybe you should start. people usally give how they would like to receive.

 

[BRERDO]

I was never the letter writing or card giving kind of person until I met my girlfriend. She explained to me how good it made her feel when something would show up in the mail or on her doorstep or on the windshield of her car at any random time. I didn't understand why until I started doing it and saw how happy it made her and that in itself made our relationship better.

Sometimes it is not about how you feel about giving a gift but how it makes the person feel when they receive it.

 

[BRERDO]

That's not what I would consider a love letter though. If leaving you a little note that says I love you is all you want, that's easy enough although it would be a bit contrived when you ask him for it.

On the contrary, I completely believe that to be a love letter.

"Just a note to say I love you and I'll miss you this week. Drive carefully!"

somethingBEAUTIFUL, that was a perfect way to show him how much you care and to let him know that a love letter from him does not need to be elaborate and technical and from his response you made him feel good by him reading it. Perhaps that will open the door for him to reply in such a way? If receiving letters and notes and just the small things is how you feel better loved and wanted and needed, do not compromise that. It could make you feel bitter in the long run that you are not receive those things in your relationship. Best of luck.