First Date at Church?

[VMaeLove]

But if you literally have to be swept off your feet then perhaps something like this is better.

Parasailling?
Bungy jumping?

This guy gets it.
Seriously, some people are great at fake first impressions. But in uncomfortable situation, usually it is hard to keep up appearances.
It is easy to lie when at a candle lit dinner.
Not as easy when falling from the sky.

 

[VMaeLove]

I like hiking dates. Let’s see how well he handles physical exertion, bugs, and sore feet. Does he talk or does he play Darude Sandstorm on loop to distract him from the pain? Elevated heart rate is very romantic.

The two of us can go out to eat afterwards too, if he wants. No fashion pressure that way.

If he survives the hiking date, he can graduate to the canoe trip. *laughs evilly* Let’s see if he can survive communicating with me about how to steer a boat, or whether he will end up dead in the water.

I like the way you think.
Start a show like Survivor, but winner gets dinner with you.

 

[TobiaAJoshua]

I've heard that some Christian single ladies, if they meet a man outside of their church....if the guy asks them out...she makes it policy to make their first date at church...as opposed to dinner or coffee or luch.

However, isn't this a little too soon though?

never heard of this kind of thing before. wouldn't she want to meet someone who is already a Christian?

 

[Saucy]

I wouldn't ask someone to go to my church immediately. Since I serve heavily at my church, I would not leave it to go to her church, so there would need to be some time to figure out whether our faith is compatible. I believe the Lord wants me to be a pastor, so I would choose someone who is ready to be a pastor's wife.

 

[bèlla]

I believe the Lord wants me to be a pastor, so I would choose someone who is ready to be a pastor's wife.

I sensed that was the case. May the Lord grant you a kindhearted help meet with a genteel and teachable spirit.

 

[ThisIsMe123]

never heard of this kind of thing before. wouldn't she want to meet someone who is already a Christian?

What made you think he wasn't Christian?

 

[TobiaAJoshua]

What made you think he wasn't Christian?

if that is the case, then it is no big deal.

 

[Niels]

How is the date itself expected to go? Maybe she's looking for somebody to talk with before or after the service. What is a first "date", really? You're trying to get to know each other, and planning a moment where the two of you can talk has that effect. If I find myself having coffee with an interesting woman, I might eventually ask her to go hiking or something along those lines, but if we really click the first date was arguably when we met for coffee.

Perhaps that's what she's trying to re-create. The experience of mixing before or after a service, but she may not have many options at her church. I might suggest going to a local cafe after work as an alternative, but I don't know if that's an option where she lives.

 

[Saucy]

I sensed that was the case. May the Lord grant you a kindhearted help meet with a genteel and teachable spirit.

Thank you!

 

[linux.poet]

I like the way you think.
Start a show like Survivor, but winner gets dinner with you.

If I ever get in a situation where I have a bunch of Christian men competing for my hand, this is probably how I would decide between them. Being a proficient outdoorsman would help my future husband smooth things over with his new in-laws. And besides, we'll have something to talk about at dinner afterwards, instead of straining for awkward rote lines.

If he is less athletically inclined, the Lego store date also has some appeal. Let's see if he can build a Lego set with me without getting angry and making a mess of the pieces. I like the challenge date because guys need something to do. A bored man is either going to give up on me or start trying to make things interesting, possibly in evil ways. If he has something to do, he's less likely to become a problem. Later on, one should ease up and do more talking dates to ensure that he's interested in me instead of the toys, but early on you have to do stuff, otherwise you have no connection and nothing to talk about.

Church? Nah. He's just sitting in the service. That's a good way to ensure that he'll get bored and leave. Save it for later in the relationship.

 

[VMaeLove]

Church? Nah. He's just sitting in the service. That's a good way to ensure that he'll get bored and leave. Save it for later in the relationship.

Also, if things go right or wrong, your head space is inappropriate for Church.

I think in US, dating strangers is more common, I still think it is a bad idea to bring the date to Church or Family until you know them very well.
I experience a Stalker before, it is not good if they know where you go.

 

[tobyw]

I've heard that some Christian single ladies, if they meet a man outside of their church....if the guy asks them out...she makes it policy to make their first date at church...as opposed to dinner or coffee or luch.

However, isn't this a little too soon though?

I don't think so. If something is very important to you and a potential dealbreaker issue, it makes sense to clear those hurdles first. Otherwise, what's the point of dating someone? Where's it going to go?

 

[MehGuy]

I've heard that some Christian single ladies, if they meet a man outside of their church....if the guy asks them out...she makes it policy to make their first date at church...as opposed to dinner or coffee or luch.

However, isn't this a little too soon though?

While not a Christian.. that sounds pretty sweet and wholesome and logical.

 

[ThisIsMe123]

I don't think so. If something is very important to you and a potential dealbreaker issue, it makes sense to clear those hurdles first. Otherwise, what's the point of dating someone? Where's it going to go?

Yeah, but you don't have to go to church first thing out the door. Why not go to dinner, walk or picnic in the park...why does it have to be at church first date? Figured that'd be further down the road.

 

[ThisIsMe123]

Also, if things go right or wrong, your head space is inappropriate for Church.

I think in US, dating strangers is more common, I still think it is a bad idea to bring the date to Church or Family until you know them very well.
I experience a Stalker before, it is not good if they know where you go.

A stalker that you met at church?

 

[VMaeLove]

A stalker that you met at church?

No I was not going to church at that time.
But I learned to keep my date life and personal life as separate. When I meet new people I take it slow, My problem before was moving fast and it felt like losing control of my life.

 

[ThisIsMe123]

But I learned to keep my date life and personal life as separate.

But one's date life is a part of their personal life, there's no keeping that separate. Unless I'm misunderstanding the statement?

 

[bèlla]

Dates are possibilities not guarantees. You don’t open your life to strangers. You observe, test, and bring them in little by little. That’s how it should be done unless you want a problem.

 

[VMaeLove]

But one's date life is a part of their personal life, there's no keeping that separate. Unless I'm misunderstanding the statement?

See Bella's post is what I mean.
Not every one has to do it wrong first.

Dates are possibilities not guarantees. You don’t open your life to strangers. You observe, test, and bring them in little by little. That’s how it should be done unless you want a problem.

 

[shineyourlight]

I actually did have a first date at church and regretted it. It didn't give us any time to talk or get to know each other. I would never do it again.