First Date at Church?

[ThisIsMe123]

I've heard that some Christian single ladies, if they meet a man outside of their church....if the guy asks them out...she makes it policy to make their first date at church...as opposed to dinner or coffee or luch.

However, isn't this a little too soon though?

 

[Zoii]

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[ThisIsMe123]

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Huh?

 

[dqhall]

I've heard that some Christian single ladies, if they meet a man outside of their church....if the guy asks them out...she makes it policy to make their first date at church...as opposed to dinner or coffee or luch.

However, isn't this a little too soon though?

If you want to marry someone who will accompany you to church, that might be a good idea.

 

[Richard.20.12]

I sure wouldn't bring someone you don't know to your own church and I wouldn't go to their church right away. Rather why not explore other churches and see how the other person finds them? Most cities have plenty to choose from. The main thing with Christian dating is to design the activities so you're always in public view. Most people won't attempt to have sex in public (you would assume). So it really helps in the temptation department. And a letch will soon tire of dates where there is no possibility of physical contact. A worthy and useful filter for dating. Rather than ask them questions which intelligent people can always answer satisfactorily, watch their reactions to a multitude of things, especially things that would irritate, aggravate or anger most people. We all want to be on our best behaviour in the beginning of a relationship though so don't expect much insight into someone for a while. Likewise it might be unwise to jump to conclusions as well in the beginning. Just keep it platonic with hands off so your brain is the one that is thinking.

 

[Petros2015]

Rather than ask them questions which intelligent people can always answer satisfactorily, watch their reactions to a multitude of things, especially things that would irritate, aggravate or anger most people.

lol. Sounds like a wonderful date. I'm going to try this out next time.

 

[ThisIsMe123]

I sure wouldn't bring someone you don't know to your own church and I wouldn't go to their church right away. Rather why not explore other churches and see how the other person finds them? Most cities have plenty to choose from. The main thing with Christian dating is to design the activities so you're always in public view. Most people won't attempt to have sex in public (you would assume). So it really helps in the temptation department. And a letch will soon tire of dates where there is no possibility of physical contact. A worthy and useful filter for dating. Rather than ask them questions which intelligent people can always answer satisfactorily, watch their reactions to a multitude of things, especially things that would irritate, aggravate or anger most people. We all want to be on our best behaviour in the beginning of a relationship though so don't expect much insight into someone for a while. Likewise it might be unwise to jump to conclusions as well in the beginning. Just keep it platonic with hands off so your brain is the one that is thinking.

Right, I know this guy to a certain extent, at least on a professional level. He said he hasn't been to church in a long time, and he was concerned about how religious she is compared to him.

Although he did say he'd have no problem going to church with her....but that's just going to church, we're talking about how he is beyond just attending services.

 

[VMaeLove]

Dating and that is the last thing on my mind at Church. As well as a First Date at Church is strange to me. I believe the time and place is meant for something more important.

If I was to date a man, I would hope for something exciting. I tried dinner dating and Theatre, and that stuff was never for me.
I need to be literally swept off my feet.
And I think more women are feeling that way.

 

[Pavel Mosko]

I've heard that some Christian single ladies, if they meet a man outside of their church....if the guy asks them out...she makes it policy to make their first date at church...as opposed to dinner or coffee or luch.

However, isn't this a little too soon though?

lol I think this idea is awesome!

Truth be told, I once had a crush on an Orthodox Christian girl who just happened to be the daughter of a priest and I actually began to check out that Faith as a way of seeing if a relationship with her would be viable and also as well a way to discretely court her initially. I probably should also mention, I was a part time seminary student at the time (nondenominational Charismatic Protestant), and she was a coworker. Anyway it seems to me that God ordained that experience as a way of leading and teaching me, however did not get the girl...


Anyway, for folks who are serious about finding a good Christian mate that is compatible with their faith as far as not being unequally yoked, and want to avoid the many other problems of dating this is a great approach!

 

[bèlla]

I’ve never done it but I can see the appeal. Especially when you’re part of a tight knit community. You’d have an opportunity to worship and fellowship together and that’s a good starting point.

We’ll never run out of meals, events or fun things to do. But character and faith are usually make or break and the deciding factors in my connections.

We needn’t be well acquainted to attend church together. Nor is it the lone activity for the day. I’d be happy to grab a meal afterwards.

 

[DragonFox91]

I’ve never heard this. I don’t know any single girls who go to church.

Anyways, no I wouldn’t want that for a first date, but it s/b part of the relationship once there’s one going for sure.

 

[Pavel Mosko]

I’ve never heard this. I don’t know any single girls who go to church.

Anyways, no I wouldn’t want that for a first date, but it s/b part of the relationship once there’s one going for sure.

Maybe my memory is failing here..... but aren't you the guy who has posted 2, or 3 threads talking about that their are no godly women out there? And if so, wouldn't this actually be the cure for that?


But my apologies if I misidentified your avatar for somebody else with something similar ...

 

[DragonFox91]

Maybe my memory is failing here..... but aren't you the guy who has posted 2, or 3 threads talking about that their are no godly women out there? And if so, wouldn't this actually be the cure for that?


But my apologies if I misidentified your avatar for somebody else with something similar ...

Yes, it would be a cure.
I don't know about 'no godly' but definitely very little & certainly none at churches I've attended.

 

[bèlla]

Huh?

translation… what the

 

[Vinter]

Dating and that is the last thing on my mind at Church. As well as a First Date at Church is strange to me. I believe the time and place is meant for something more important.

If I was to date a man, I would hope for something exciting. I tried dinner dating and Theatre, and that stuff was never for me.
I need to be literally swept off my feet.
And I think more women are feeling that way.

Personally theatre or cinema is never a good idea, you can't talk with your date and don't get to know the person.

If a dinner date would be too boring for my date I would be cool with trying out

Indoor rockwall climbing

Kayaking

Ice skating

I have never tried any of the above, but I think it could be fun.

But if you literally have to be swept off your feet then perhaps something like this is better.

Parasailling?

Bungy jumping?

Personally I am not much for flying through the air one way or the other, so in that case I think a trip to the church is better suited for me.

If I met a girl that wanted me to go to chuch I would be cool with it. I don't go to church myself so I think it would be a good oppotunity for me. If me and the woman could go out after church, because church alone would be church. church is not a place to date. But church would be a good place to start, and could be used as a conversation starter for the date afterwards.

 

[com7fy8]

I've heard that some Christian single ladies, if they meet a man outside of their church....if the guy asks them out...she makes it policy to make their first date at church...as opposed to dinner or coffee or luch.

However, isn't this a little too soon though?

If a lady obviously is a good Christian example who helps me grow in Jesus and how to relate in love, of course I would want to meet her people who have helped her to become how she is. They would be more maturely like Jesus is, than she would; so of course I would want to meet people who are more like Jesus than she and I are. And they could help me, too

I would be very interested in if she has been able to get into sharing with a group of mature Christian people who share as God's family. Because this would help to support and feed our relationship. And God has us relating as His family, including with much more mature people and one another and ones who moreso need our help. Marriage is not an isolation thing only or mainly with someone I prefer and hope to use away from others. But our loving is with one another and others who also are members of Jesus.

And so, while we are developing with each other, this matures with the help of ones more mature than we are.

 

[linux.poet]

Eh, while I definitely think that I would want to go to his church eventually, I would first want to know whether that is a place worth going. I also wouldn’t want to introduce an abuser to my church, so I would want to pick a different date location first.

If I was to date a man, I would hope for something exciting. I tried dinner dating and Theatre, and that stuff was never for me.
I need to be literally swept off my feet.

I like hiking dates. Let’s see how well he handles physical exertion, bugs, and sore feet. Does he talk or does he play Darude Sandstorm on loop to distract him from the pain? Elevated heart rate is very romantic.

The two of us can go out to eat afterwards too, if he wants. No fashion pressure that way.

If he survives the hiking date, he can graduate to the canoe trip. *laughs evilly* Let’s see if he can survive communicating with me about how to steer a boat, or whether he will end up dead in the water.

 

[Sketcher]

I've heard that some Christian single ladies, if they meet a man outside of their church....if the guy asks them out...she makes it policy to make their first date at church...as opposed to dinner or coffee or luch.

However, isn't this a little too soon though?

I dunno about the first date, but I can see the appeal of having a church date early.

• You can discuss what they liked and didn't like about it over lunch afterward
• You can use that to declare to your friends that you're seeing somebody
• You do want to establish that the two of you can enjoy worshiping at the same place together, which is important for long-range plans
• You want your trusted friends to vet your date

Problem is, there's not much vetting that can be done 15 mins before/after the service. And if you're already into the relationship, you're not going to take any warnings from trusted friends well at all, nor will their opinion of the service be a deal-breaker to you.

If a lady insisted on that for the first date, I'd go but I'd be wary. If she needs to bring me before her church friends on the first date, I'm thinking this could be an overcorrection for a rotten past, and when the past is rotten, some of the rot may still be there for me to deal with. Or perhaps the church is cult-like, needing to approve me before she may take it further.

 

[ThisIsMe123]

Dating and that is the last thing on my mind at Church. As well as a First Date at Church is strange to me. I believe the time and place is meant for something more important.

Right, the first time around, I dunno, seems kind of a way to force religion down one's throat right away. Like rather cultish in a sense. I mean, what if you go to a different church and you're satisfied with going to that one?

Best just to kind of ease into this kind of thing.

 

[Petros2015]

I took a girl to an Escape Room one time but she got away