I have a long history of exhibitionism, eg, modelling nude for art classes, posing nude for photographers, hanging out at nude beaches, etc. What is the root cause of my sexual deviance? What is the prescription I need for healing? What happened in my childhood to create this sin that I have?
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18 views and no replies. Kind of ironic considering the nature of this post. 
Jesus is the prescription you need for healing. Him and a good Christian counsellor that you feel comfortable revealing your feelings to. It could take months until you get to the root of the problem.
Only you and Jesus can get to the root of your problem, though if I were a betting woman, I'd bet that you were definitely seeking attention through these practices.
God bless you brother. I hope you take the steps necessary to bring you some peace.
Jesus is the prescription you need for healing. Him and a good Christian counsellor that you feel comfortable revealing your feelings to. It could take months until you get to the root of the problem.
Only you and Jesus can get to the root of your problem, though if I were a betting woman, I'd bet that you were definitely seeking attention through these practices.
God bless you brother. I hope you take the steps necessary to bring you some peace.
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Marmosa none of the activities you listed are exhibitionst acts. God has created our bodies and some people's bodies are so beautiful that they are appropriate subjects for artistic expression.It is very common for professional art schools to employ nude models for the training of their students.As far as nude beaches go,you're likely to run into sightseers who come to the beach just for lust.In fact yesterday a rather large tourist boat literally sank when everyone rushed to one side to gawk at a nude beach.So you should confine your nude sunbathing to a completely private patio or if necessary,a sun lamp in your home.There are also problems with nude photography because the pictures can be sold and re-sold a number of times and possibly end up being used for pornography in spite of what the photographer may tell you.
Your behavior does not rise to the level of sexual deviance;the fact that you think it does may be your real problem.Your description of your activities which really are not sins at all,is filled with self-condemnation.If you have a very low self-esteem you may be rather drastic ally trying to gain approval from others.If this is the case,then you need to find a job that will fill you with self-confidence in a more socially acceptable manner.Most jobs don't do that at all,but if you look for a Christian service position with a kind supervisor,your problem may be solved.There is a slight possibility that your need for naked acceptance springs from sexual molestation when you were a child but this is unlikely.Your behavior is not "out of line" enough to assume that.Most likely you just were not given enough love and approval by your parents when you were growing up.
You should not put yourself down by thinking that you are evil or sick which is not the case at all.In fact many very normal women with beautiful bodies engage in the activites you do.But the two basic problems are that you probably are causing some men to engage in sexual lust when they see you,and secondly your unusual ways of gaining approval won't work when you become older and your beauty begins to fade.If you find a good job serving God by helping others ,this should give you the approval you crave.The gratification you receive from that type of occupation should solve your need for appreciation problem
Your behavior does not rise to the level of sexual deviance;the fact that you think it does may be your real problem.Your description of your activities which really are not sins at all,is filled with self-condemnation.If you have a very low self-esteem you may be rather drastic ally trying to gain approval from others.If this is the case,then you need to find a job that will fill you with self-confidence in a more socially acceptable manner.Most jobs don't do that at all,but if you look for a Christian service position with a kind supervisor,your problem may be solved.There is a slight possibility that your need for naked acceptance springs from sexual molestation when you were a child but this is unlikely.Your behavior is not "out of line" enough to assume that.Most likely you just were not given enough love and approval by your parents when you were growing up.
You should not put yourself down by thinking that you are evil or sick which is not the case at all.In fact many very normal women with beautiful bodies engage in the activites you do.But the two basic problems are that you probably are causing some men to engage in sexual lust when they see you,and secondly your unusual ways of gaining approval won't work when you become older and your beauty begins to fade.If you find a good job serving God by helping others ,this should give you the approval you crave.The gratification you receive from that type of occupation should solve your need for appreciation problem
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I agree with Pastor Franks answer. If you were posing for pornographic photos then I would be concerned. To take Pastor Franks statement that the problem is really why you feel this way a step further I have to ask why do you continue to do something you think is wrong? Whether it is wrong or right is not the real crux of the matter. It is that you feel it is wrong and you still do it.
Romans 2:14-15 For when the Gentiles, which have not the law, do by nature the things contained in the law, these, having not the law, are a law unto themselves: Which shew the work of the law written in their hearts, their conscience also bearing witness, and [their] thoughts the mean while accusing or else excusing one another
Those things in your heart that you feel wrong are a law unto yourself. Whether or not they are right or wrong in the Lords eyes. We know that all things are lawful to us.
1 Corinthians 10:23 All things are lawful for me, but all things are not expedient: all things are lawful for me, but all things edify not.
So, because you believe them to be wrong and you do them is the problem. On the other hand if you only believe they are wrong because your religion says so and you feel in your heart that it isnt wrong then the problem is how to reconcile your religions beliefs with your own. Im not a big fan of religion and so I dont think my advice on this would be helpful to you except to say it is a matter between you and God alone and not religion.
Both Pastor Frank and New Creation gave you some good advice on steps to take to correct your problem and I need not add anything more.
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