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Dimentia Stinks

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Dimentia with sunsetting with your spouse stinks, only in the early stages right now so general health is good, but knowing what is going on in reality at night and watching it slip from them is heartbreaking. I really am not looking foward to the later stages.
 

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They say that medication does help some people, to some extent. Both of my grandmothers had it real bad for their last few years of life, so I do feel for you. God bless.
 
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I took care of my mom through 10 years of Alzheimer's, experiencing it worsen. Takes a lot of patience and understanding and prayer. God be with you.
 
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One thing I'm thankful is that for the most part, during the morning / afternoon hours She's fairly normal, minor memory issues, but nothing major.

Working on getting her on a Cardio program (Doctors recommendation) To improve blood flow in the brain to slow this thing down and prayerfully prevent further degradation.
 
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One thing I'm thankful is that for the most part, during the morning / afternoon hours She's fairly normal, minor memory issues, but nothing major.
It was the same with mom. First half of the day was usually better.
Working on getting her on a Cardio program (Doctors recommendation) To improve blood flow in the brain to slow this thing down and prayerfully prevent further degradation.
That's good. I did a lot of research back in the day. You might be doing that, too. The science shows that physical exercise, and just activity of any kind is really, really important. Very good for general mood also.
 
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I feel for you. What I regret with my grandma, I didn't treasure every moment and appreciate the time I had with her. I was just worried about her and was all gloomy trying to find the cure. Enjoy the time you have and make the best of it. I'm sorry. Make sure you take time for yourself too.
 
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Got more testing done yesterday, looking more & more like Alzheimer's disease.
Given the condition, around stage 3/4 (symptoms from both categories)
:heart: I'm so sorry. Praying for your precious wife, and you too (((hug)))
 
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Still stinks.
Last night she's crying as I won't take her home. (We're at home)
Anxiety triggers the fear response, so it's fight or flight, and "Home" is a safe place. Mornings are normally good though. Last week had a rough one though, woke up about 2am, stark fear in her eyes as she's looking at me, didn't recognise who I was. Few hours of talking calmed her down.
Some times I feel so broken that I can't take this burdon off her, so have to hold up the strong front for her.
Two totally different people when the anxity triggers the worst.

And Is I learn more, I fear what is to come as this monstrosity progresses.
I dodn't want to loose her, but this slow slipping away sucks.
 
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Dimentia with sunsetting with your spouse stinks, only in the early stages right now so general health is good, but knowing what is going on in reality at night and watching it slip from them is heartbreaking. I really am not looking foward to the later stages.
It is better not to speak about the problem but speak God’s promises over your life.
 
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pgp_protector,
I am so sorry for what you are going through. I cannot say I know it from the side of a spouse, but my grandmother died of alzhiemer's, my father from dimentia and my mother has one of them (she is in a nursing home) and it is heart wrenching to loose them this way. If you need a shoulder to cry on to talk to or complain, I am here.

Sincerely,
David
 
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There are a few therapies, which they could try out, that help improve cognitive function. I'm sure their psychiatrist can suggest what's best suited for them. You could even do things like playing their favourite music, movies & watching some family videos, including going through some photo albums together, reading & having a go at puzzles, to stimulate brain activity. You could even, engage with them, in their favourite hobbies such as gardening, cooking & the like.

Making the best out of your marriage is important, like spending time together & being there always. Some people with dementia, even in its advanced stage/s, will not forget everyone, especially where their loved ones are concerned. Many, never seem to forget their loved ones thankfully..
 
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I miss my wife, the woman in front of me is slowly vanishing. Daily delusions, and now weekly accusations of me having a girlfriend. 1/2 the time she'll be upset that the other people left without saying goodbuy, or ask me where (insert my name) is. She still smiles at tjmes and I try to keep her happy, but thats no easy task.

I will care for her tell mg dying breath, but I HATE this condition. It's so flustrating when she starts looping and can't be redirected, and I know it's only going to get worse.

I so need a drink, but can't even have one as I have to always be ready for whats next.

I don't want to know whats next. :(
 
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