Where did I say that “God decides to predestine what we will do”? That’s a Calvinist statement, I never said anything to that effect.
It's not a Calvinist statement either. God needn't decide to predestine anything. He is not like us, needing to gather information to make a decision. Not only that, when he predestines, that is what he does. He doesn't consider this and weigh that option against this other one here, etc etc. God speaks all things into fact. When God predestines something he speaks it into fact, he decrees it, he intimately foreknows it. When God foreknows something, it is in every way an active, not a passive, verb.
Why Jesus died for the sins of all yet God has only bestowed His grace upon so few?
I decided to quote that from the near the bottom of your post, because it keeps popping up in our arguments. God did not "died for the sins of all" in your use of (i.e. your meaning for) that phrase. Get me? The question is then bogus. If I can't accept the premise, why ask for my answer?
So if God is choosing according to His foreknowledge of what He will do then how do these verses line up with that?
“But I have this against you, that you tolerate the woman Jezebel, who calls herself a prophetess, and she teaches and leads My bond-servants astray so that they commit acts of immorality and eat things sacrificed to idols. I gave her time to repent, and she does not want to repent of her immorality.”
Revelation 2:20-21 NASB1995
Jesus gave Jezebel time to repent yet God did not enable her to do so?
“Or do you think lightly of the riches of His kindness and tolerance and patience, not knowing that the kindness of God leads you to repentance? But because of your stubbornness and unrepentant heart you are storing up wrath for yourself in the day of wrath and revelation of the righteous judgment of God,”
Romans 2:4-5 NASB1995
Here Paul clearly states that God has allowed these people to repent and they still refuse to comply.
God’s kindness and patience towards the unrepentant is emphasized repeatedly throughout the scriptures, how would this kindness and patience be plausible or even genuine if He has predestined them to condemnation? If we are chosen according to His foreknowledge of what He would do then how would it even be possible that He is showing kindness and patience towards the unrepentant and why would He even do so if it was His plan to condemn them in the first place?
You keep doing this too, as if it brings a new thought to light. The fact you cannot see how something is so does not mean it is not so, particularly when Scripture says it is so. Try to get this: God is not only intimately involved in all fact, but above it and outside it; if you must, think of this whole temporal existence as an envelope within the larger will of God, or of a play he wrote that in which we are willing players. Obviously, that is not the whole fact of the matter, but hopefully it helps you adjust to the fact that God is not like us. That what we consider reality is but a vapor.
It's hard enough for me to understand how anything besides God even CAN exist, but that what God has created is able to turn against the Creator is outrageous! It is enormous! And God has already dealt with it. But even within this temporal realm which God holds in the palm of his hand, there is pain and suffering on God's part, all focused on SIN and Calvary. The transgression against God is real. Yet God doesn't just stop there, passing judgement and doing away with it on the spot. We perhaps do not see it dealt with yet, because God puts up with it temporally, using it for his purposes to accomplish during this temporal passage what he intends for the end of man. In such cases as you brought up, he gives them every opportunity to repent, and they refused, continuing to indulge in their sin. He puts up with it for a while, though it builds up pain upon pain, because it is a testimony to his power that he is able to do so, and a testimony to his justice against the noise of all who by their own measure claim unfairness on his part.
Calvinism doesn't say anything is done automatically, woodenly, mechanically, "stimulus - response". That is someone else's 'takeaway' from what Calvinism does say.
God chose to condemn them according to His foreknowledge of Him refusing to allow them to repent, then showed patience giving them time to repent knowing that they would be incapable of complying? That’s not showing kindness or patience towards the unrepentant by predestining them to condemnation. That’s refuted by Paul’s statements in
Romans 2:4-5 and Jesus’ statements in
Revelation 2:20-21. Paul said that God’s patience and kindness is leading them to repentance not preventing them from repentance. You’re saying that God’s foreknowledge of what He would do completely ignores these people by not lifting a finger to help them which is partly true because they are not seeking Him. They’ve hardened their hearts against Him and have chosen to indulge in sin rather than accepting His offer to repent and be saved but that isn’t God’s fault or His doing that has caused this. One question Calvinists have yet to and is why God would choose to bestow grace on some and not all? Why Jesus died for the sins of all yet God has only bestowed His grace upon so few? If we are all as unworthy as the rest then why only bestow grace on some and not all? I’ve never seen a Calvinist that could provide any sort of reasonable response to this question.
You say,
"One question Calvinists have yet to and is why God would choose to bestow grace on some and not all?" I assume there you mean "
...yet to answer is why God..." I don't know if you have failed to see the many times this has been answered or if you are just unsatisfied with the answers you see. Romans 9 describes it well enough, and you refuse it, shrugging it off like water off a duck's back. I described it above, in why God puts up with those to whom he has not given them the will to love him. You may as well ask why he created them at all. And while you are at it, ask why God created at all. This is no experiment to see what will happen. God is not subject to chance. God causes all things.
Also, the answer has been repeatedly given you, that God has a "particular creation", the Body of Christ, The Bride of Christ, The Dwelling Place of God, The Sons of God that will be revealed when we see him as he is. And for this all creation groans. This is no haphazard aggregation of random parts. And what God takes the members through during their temporal life is what God does to conform them into the image of his son. You should THANK him that he does what he does to the rest, out whom you have been saved, because it changes you to know and to see that he does this.