30 Day Sex Challenge

I think it's a great idea. My marriage is best when we're having sex at least once a day. I don't know if that's a cause or an effect, but I think the challenge sounds like a good thing. Why not have sex everyday? It's better than watching TV, and most people find time to do that everyday.

1 in 3 marraiges in the US is plontic (The definition of plontic in this case is having sex 10 or less times a year)

Martial satifaction drops like a brick if the rate of sex drops below once a month.

For all the thread about chaste marriages and other weird stuff I've seen on this fourm the truth is the a lot of the divroce rate in this country is based on the fact that there just isn't a lot of sex going on in marriages.

(At the moment we, as Americans, are having less sex in marriage than our grandparents did in the 1950's)

At least the evangelicals are TRYING something.

What the Chruch done to help improve the sex lives of its married members in the past 40 years ?

I'm game.

Whose in this thread right now ?

Me, Mikey and shel.

Put sex in the title and we're like lemmings walking of a cliff

Oh wait. The article says I have to have sex with my husband. Nevermind I’m out.

stephenc said:

This is a real good post, a real good point. A "challenge" of 30-days might seem a bit, well, artificial to some; but CC points out well what we're up against!

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Most priests have no training in the dynamics of marriage or in the management of a long term sexual relationship.

From my experience most priest seem to think we're all out here doing it like bunnys

I really don't think your average parish priest is any help at all in this area and I honestly beleive no one above the renk of parish preist cares much beyond the married laity staying married and having a dozen kids.

Meanwhile, we could really us a little help but what do we get ?

NFP and TOTB.

To great ideas but hardly erotic in nature.

Veritas said:

What you fail to understand is that usually there's something else going on in the marriage if sex isn't. Couples who have healthy marriages are already having sufficient sex (I realize that is relative since everyday is too much for some and too little for others)
I say work on the problems in the relationship and the rest will fall into place.

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You've accused me of making broad brush statments the make this one look like a 6 ton snow plow swath by comparision.

I'd be happy to join this guy's church and participate in his challenge. My only condition is that he must provide me with a woman to have sex with.

Maybe I should write to him. It probably stands a better chance of success than http://datejohnnow.com does.

Yeah- I'm with MissS if I gotta have sex everyday for 30 days I want it to be with someone I'm crazy about...that precludes my husband...he makes me crazy...but 30 days...well that is like a total of like an hour spent together over the month-maybe that extra 60 minutes of time will tranform our marriage... oh wait- he's actually got give a crap about trying to help me make myself happy and participate a little in that...so maybe that extra hour will just makes us realise the freaking Grand Canyon between us.

I think they should turn it into a contest, maybe like one of those kissing things were they give away a car. Just with shagging instead of kissing.

This is part of a review of a book "the Sex Staved Marriage" the review is written by a women, but I daresay that the same sentiment could be applied to men as well:


Although I have an amused tolerance for books like The Total Woman, I am not entirely incapable of good, old-fashioned feminist rage. The notion that even educated middle-class America women had to put out in order to get a damn refrigerator- even that they might “yearn” for one- just steams me. However, I would not advise against using sex fore more subtle marital adjustments, of a type described in The Sex-Starved Marriage. Davis reminds women that one of the more effective ways to get a husband to be more considerate and helpful is to seduce him. She counsels a group of female clients who complain of angry, critical husbands to “pay more attention to their physical relationship with their husbands,” to “be sexier, more affectionate, attentive, responsive, and passionate.” Darned if the old bag of tricks doesn’t work like a charm- the ladies arrive at the next therapy session giggling and thrilled with the new powers. To many contemporary women, however, the notion that sex might have any function other than personal fulfillment (and the occasional bit of carefully scheduled baby making) is a violation of the very tenets of the sexual revolution that so deeply shaped their attitudes on such matters. Under these conditions, pity the poor married man hoping to get a bit of comfort from the wife at the day’s end. He must somehow seduce a woman who is economically independent of him, bone tired, philosophically disinclined to have sex unless she is jolly well in the mood, numbingly familiar with his every sexual maneuver, and still doing a slow burn over his failure to wipe down the countertops and fold the dish towel after cooking the kid’s dinner. He can barely be blamed for opting instead to check his e-mail, catch a few minutes of SportsCenter, and call it a night.

We are, in fact, too overworked, too tired, too full of our own expectations and just too bored to keep it going without a little help.

And the big V says if we we just had happy marriages this would be fixed.

Well, duh

Fish and Bread said:

I'd be happy to join this guy's church and participate in his challenge. My only condition is that he must provide me with a woman to have sex with.

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Craig's list has a section for this sort of thing, pretty funny stuff too.

Thinking about this though; isn't there gonna be a natural week's break?

YOu know tho' CC--a woman likeme is just f'ed...she has a husband who is seduce proof. If I try he gets annoyed and angry...there are even very strict "rules" about when and how I am allowed to kiss him.

Obviously these thing weren't en force when we met and two months later were preggers---but they are my reality now....and ain't nothing that I can do about--nothing at all....

Thinking about this though; isn't there gonna be a natural week's break?

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No.

OnTheWay said:

Craig's list has a section for this sort of thing, pretty funny stuff too.

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Oh, take it from me, most of those "casual incounter" ads are written by men who are goofing on the readers.



not that I'd have first hand knowledge