Must a Christian married couple read the Bible together?

[Seleene6]

All I seem to hear is that the husband and wife must read the Bible together if they're going to have a successful marriage. When we read the Bible together it seems to drive us apart.

We seem to both have different interpretations of what we read and it turns into an argument that ends up into world war. It seems as though we can never agree when we read together. It always turns out bad.

I'm not saying our marriage is perfect, but without the added stress of reading the Bible together it's less arguments that happen overall. Our marriage seems better off not reading the Bible together.

So must a Christian married couple read the Bible together in order to have a good marriage?

 

[Barricade24]

I've never head that saying before but I don't think a couple has to read the Bible together. It is probably more important that they read the Bible in general. I don't think it matters if they do it together or apart.

 

[Bella Vita]

I think that learning the gospel together is very important as well as praying together.

My husband and I Read Real Marriage by Mark and Grace Driscoll and it helped our marriage so much. It talks all about how to communicate better how to have prayer and God in your marriage more just everything you could ever want to ask about marriage it is there. If you can find the time to read this book and do the study questions together I really suggest it.

Here are the sermon videos they are free and you can read the chapters, and watch the videos together or just watch the videos.
Search results for “real marriage” | Mars Hill Church

I hope this will help you two it helped us so much good luck =]

 

[BFine]

Me and my husband do those bible devotions for couples at the end of
the day.

The devotional books we buy have a year's worth of bible devotions in them and
the scripture verses to go along with it.
Either one of us finds the scripture verses in the bible and read them aloud.

There's no debating -- it's a time for focusing on the Lord and "us"
worshiping the Lord together in unity.
I have no idea why so many would want to turn such a special time into a battle of
I'm right and you're wrong.

The whole focus is to honor God first and subsequently one another.

When there's a "power" struggle going on during bible devotions-- the odds
are high that's not the only time that happens....sadly, I have seen a lot of Christian
marriages where one spouse wants to "dominate" the marriage-- and this leads to
many marital woes and sadly, to failed marriages.

 

[JCFantasy23]

I don't see that they have to read the bible together...I think they should celebrate God together and grow together as Christians, but the way to do this would differ for the couple.

 

[ChrisHolland619]

I've never ever seen this mentioned in the Bible one time, so I don't know where you're getting it.

It's true that two Christian people in a marriage must be founded on Christ and the Word of God before having a successful marriage, and yes, I think daily devotions together is beneficial, but you also must have a PERSONAL relationship with Christ alone first, which means personal study time.

 

[Eloy]

The saying goes: "The family that PRAYS TOGETHER STAYS TOGETHER." It could be that each of you are getting a different definition from the passages, just as one word may have more than one definition, so likewise one verse may have more than one definition. That is nothing to argue about. If a word or passage speaks one thing to you, and the same word or passage speaks a different thing to your husband, it may be that both of you ar 100% right, it only means that each one of you received some thing different fromwhat you read. Try both of you holding hands and praying to the Lord Iesous to speak to each of you through his word, before you both read his word. Remember, it HIS word to you, it is not YOUR words NOR YOUR HUSBANDS words, but GOD'S words authored from himself to each of you. Amen? Amen.

 

[Jeffwhosoever]

Been married almost 25 years. We worship together, do studies together, but we read mostly independently.

 

[Ark100]

All I seem to hear is that the husband and wife must read the Bible together if they're going to have a successful marriage. When we read the Bible together it seems to drive us apart.

I dont see why it should be 'compulsory' or a 'must' to read it together in order to have a successful marriage. You can always read individually, and it it makes you feel closer, then you can always read together, but a must? I don't think so.

There is more to reading the Bible than just picking it up and reading it. Whether together, or separately its more important to pray for understanding, enlightenment and the Holy Spirit to speak to both of you through it.

We seem to both have different interpretations of what we read and it turns into an argument that ends up into world war. It seems as though we can never agree when we read together. It always turns out bad.

Do you two pray before you read? I think its very important to pray and INVITE the Holy Spirit into your midst and into the very words of Christ before and after you read your Bible. I dont think its compulsory to read together, and I really dont think there is anything to fight about in the word of God.

When the Holy Spirit interpreted to us, then we will know its the truth and not be deceived by the enemy. Maybe say an example of what you two fight or disagree about?

I'm not saying our marriage is perfect, but without the added stress of reading the Bible together it's less arguments that happen overall. Our marriage seems better off not reading the Bible together.

Then read separately and in the meantime. PRAY to God to help you. Prayer is key in every situation and problems. Prayer solves so may things. God hearkens to prayers of the righteous.

So must a Christian married couple read the Bible together in order to have a good marriage?

NO. its not compulsory to read together, I think it truly does draws a couple closer to God and sharing what you read together might be very good idea, but as said, I dont think its a must.

but whilst growing up, my family (parents and siblings) have always done everything together. We never missed 6am morning prayers at home. We all read the Bible, sing praise and Worships, discuss the bible and pray together till I left home, and they still do till now.

I am grateful to my parents (mostly my mom) for the love of God instilled in me since I was little. Even though I rebelled quite often, God still got me.

I agree with the poster who says family who do these things together always stay together most of the time. Wherever 2 or more are gathered in the name of God, He is there in their midst.

I suggest you pray and always invite the Holy Spirit into your lives and Bible times at all times.

 

[Girder of Loins]

I don't think you need to read the Bible together, but I would find it important to agree on the same theological concepts. Then, you become more of a team and can both support the others' walk with Christ. But that's just me.

 

[Goodbook]

Always pray before you read His Word.
Also may I ask what version of the Bible are you reading??? I mean God's Word is 'quick and powerful'...but some versions are just 'living and active'. You don't want to be reading a fake Bible that waters down and corrupts His Word.

 

[Seleene6]

Always pray before you read His Word.
Also may I ask what version of the Bible are you reading??? I mean God's Word is 'quick and powerful'...but some versions are just 'living and active'. You don't want to be reading a fake Bible that waters down and corrupts His Word.

We read the ESV.

 

[Goodbook]

hmm maybe try the KJV. From what I've read the ESV was modified so that the language was 'gender-neutral' whatever that means and that might be the cause of the arguments. When we read the Bible there's not meant to be any arguments, after all it's God's Word to us.

Also keep praying, the Holy Spirit will lead you to the right Bible. And as Jesus is the author and finisher of our faith ask Him for help in understanding.

 

[iambren]

I always felt uncomfortable doing it; I don't know why. The way BFine describes it depicts an intimate husband-wife activity that would draw them together. So I see the value of it.

 

[Seleene6]

hmm maybe try the KJV. From what I've read the ESV was modified so that the language was 'gender-neutral' whatever that means and that might be the cause of the arguments. When we read the Bible there's not meant to be any arguments, after all it's God's Word to us.

Also keep praying, the Holy Spirit will lead you to the right Bible. And as Jesus is the author and finisher of our faith ask Him for help in understanding.

I have asked for the Holy Spirit to lead me the right Bible. The ESV is that Bible as I was lead to it through prayer.

My wife is unable to read the KJV because her cognitive ability has decreased with the progression of multiple sclerosis. The KJV confuses her quite a bit because it doesn't flow well.

I have come to the conclusion that we're just not able to read the Bible together and maybe some time down the road months or maybe even years we will be able to do so.

 

[CounselorForChrist]

I don't think you have to read it together, but at the same time I think its good to so you can mature and learn together. My mom and dad often read it separately since my dad is learning disabled and it takes him awhile to read.

 

[Goodbook]

hmm, is the ESV confusing for her as well?
I just wonder what you mean by getting into arguments when you read it. If she can't read, but can listen to you reading out loud, I don't understand what you could be arguing about..both of you are christians I'm presuming...and not just reading because it's a christian thing to do but because you both love God and want to spend time getting to know Him.

Are you starting right from Genesis, or are you reading the Gospels first?

 

[Seleene6]

hmm, is the ESV confusing for her as well?
I just wonder what you mean by getting into arguments when you read it. If she can't read, but can listen to you reading out loud, I don't understand what you could be arguing about..both of you are christians I'm presuming...and not just reading because it's a christian thing to do but because you both love God and want to spend time getting to know Him.

Are you starting right from Genesis, or are you reading the Gospels first?

She can read the ESV because there is no archaic English in it. It's a bit more modern with it's language and she doesn't get distracted because as I said earlier, it flows better.

When I read alone I read from front to back and have done so completely once already in a year. With my wife we started in Matthew, but never made it out.

I have already made up my mind that we'll read seperately for the time being. It's much better this way and keeps us from arguing.

 

[DreamingLikeSarah0423]

We try to read our Bible together daily before bed and reflect on those that need prayer that we've come across during the day. Then we read a devotion and try to include our daughter; she has ASD and is non-verbal but she understands what we say. I enjoy and look forward to that special time of day and we argue about wordly things but never our Bible readings, when we both disagree with what's being said, then we know it's not a TRUTH Bible so we have our Bible version that's one of the oldest texts available and it's not a KJV version written by scholars of the era and very difficult to understand for many. Many of those scholars involved weren't Christians but simply translators and that makes a HUGE difference in how one interprets original God written texts.

In our home we need to do more personal study over together time, we're the opposite issue, hmm.