I don’t think sex is a chore, but I feel like it sometimes.
Is it possible that my wife is having an emotional affair? The problem is not the lack of sex, but the lack of interest with it. She has always been this way, but it is really beginning to affect me after 13 years of marriage. Is it wrong for a husband to decide to stop approach his spouse for sex because she never approaches him? Kind of like a punishment. Is sex a chore when the only time a couple has sex is when the husband initiates things? I’m fine with being the man and taking charge, but I get tired of pampering her and making sure all of her needs are met. There are no benefits to such on this side of the grave in my view, at least not in my house. I’m trying to be sensitive and patient with her, but my patience is very thin at this point because we can’t talk about it anymore due to it always turns into an argument.
I support her fully, always trying to be better, but my needs fall by the wayside. The things she does for the kids, she does for me, there is nothing exclusive that she does specifically for me. Is this selfish? I think it may be, but that's how I feel. She knows how I feel about it, and she knows how bad it affects me, but she still does nothing about it. IDK
What a terrible place to ask this question. But I have no true friend or group of people I trust – Church folk are the worst. I’d rather get advice from strangers who do not know me.