I don't think it's an issue to brush off lightly. Either this sort of abuse is happening a lot and not largely a minority OR the Christian Evangelical movement has a huge PR problem or maybe even both. When inequality and injustice is practically written in to an organization's doctrine, it's going to naturally have these sorts of issues because the human condition encourages abuse of power.
I think it's a question of degree. I came into the church on the more evangelical end of Anglicanism (hardly the most marginal, cult-like group around), and found this kind of teaching there. Not to the extreme degree I've seen elsewhere, but certainly to a degree I would consider profoundly harmful.
Unfortunately, in my experience, evangelicalism as a movement seems to have backed itself into a corner where coming out forcefully for the full equality of women would be seen to be denying some characteristics of what it means to be evangelical (or "Biblical").
Note: that's just my observation based on the communities and people I've known and interactions I've had. If someone can show me a truly healthy, vibrant, completely egalitarian evangelicalism which has no discomfort about that, I will be thrilled to discover that I am wrong!
I'm a firm believer that as rules become more onerous, the more bad fruit you get, both in quality and quantity. Therefore, it's not honest to say a conservative church that has women in certain ministry roles, and that allows women to have any secular job that a man can have, and that has a strong policy in place to protect women from sexual abuse, is in any way comparable with the cult that she described. I'd need to see some actual congruence of belief and practice between the two that directly results in the oppression of women before I would accept what you are saying here.
I have to agree with bekkilyn here. It is comparable. The difference is of degree and not of kind. There is an underlying refusal to treat women as fully human, equally created, gifted and called, with all the dignity and agency of men.
Since that is the case, how does being denied a position that calls for such self-sacrifice by one's own church qualify as oppression?
Each of us is uniquely created, gifted and called by God. For the church to refuse to recognise what God has wrought in his child, to refuse to allow the exercise of those gifts and the fulfilling of that vocation, is oppressive.
I don't know whether it's easy to explain this to someone who doesn't have a strong sense of vocation, but when you know - know in the depths of your being - that God has called you to do something, and you're told that you may not
because you're a woman, or even when you have limitations placed on doing that because you're a woman, it's... it's soul destroying.