My Dad passed in April.

[LadyOfMystery]

Hi All,
I never ever thought I'd have to post in this area.

In March, my Dad had a heart attack while out and about running errands and thankfully someone called the EMS. He at the hospital could remember his name but nothing about happened at first. Mom and I called the last place he had been at doing errands, and found out about it all. The hospital didn't even call us!

He spent a few weeks at one hospital and a few more weeks at a second hospital. In total he had about 3 different severe heart attacks. They had done a lot of damage. The first two he had, he didn't even realize he had had them. He was suppose to have surgery and then rehab. When they felt like he was strong enough he had a mapping done. In recovery he had a reaction to the dye and they couldn't revive him.

He passed on April, 2nd of this year. Our worlds collapsed after this.

My Mom lost her husband of 30 years, and I lost my wonderful Dad. I was always his little girl.

There is still a lot going on, still things needing to be done, and my mom and I just feel helpless a lot of the times.

We aren't a member of a Church currently, and there's no family helping us. Occasionally someone will help with groceries, but nothing too big.

I'm not even real sure why I made this post. Im not sure if this forum is just to get your feelings out or for prayer request. So I'm doing both.

 

[David4223]

I'm sorry you're going through this. My inbox is always open if you need a listening ear

 

[jacks]

You and you're mom are going through a difficult time. There is no easy answer, but death is a part of life and there is a lot of support out there. (Both secular and religious.) I would recommend looking at some books on grieving and remember it will be different for you and your mom. Also if you feel you need added support there are many good grief counselors. (When my parents died the hospital hooked me up with one.)
I'll pray that both you and your mom find peace. Remember the Lord is always with you.

 

[LadyOfMystery]

I'm sorry you're going through this. My inbox is always open if you need a listening ear

Thank you, David. I really appreciate that.

You and you're mom are going through a difficult time. There is no easy answer, but death is a part of life and there is a lot of support out there. (Both secular and religious.) I would recommend looking at some books on grieving and remember it will be different for you and your mom. Also if you feel you need added support there are many good grief counselors. (When my parents died the hospital hooked me up with one.)
I'll pray that both you and your mom find peace. Remember the Lord is always with you.

Thank you for the link, jacks. I really appreciate your advice. Mom has said a time or two before that she really would like to go to a grief counselor and maybe it would be good for the both of us.

 

[dogs4thewin]

I loss my own father in March of this year after a 4.5 year long battle with colon cancer. I miss him a LOT. If you feel you need help I would go to google and type in something like grief support groups in whatever city. Be awear though that SOME groups only will take people who lost their loved one to a particular cause cancer or suicide, for example. Many, however, like the one I attend is at a cancer support center, but feel that pain is pain and will take people who have lost a loved one to ANY cause.

I am sorry for your loss and will pray, but know that you are NOT alone.

 

[GraceDriven]

I think the most healing thing is to be able to talk about him and tell stories of what you remember about him. My dad had some crazy sayings. He has been gone more than half of my life and occasionally the right instance will pop up and I will hear his words.

 

[Sunflower232]

I'm so very sorry to hear this. Prayers and hugs.

 

[David4223]

Still thinking of you during this difficult time.

 

[kat1990]

I can understand what your going though. I lost my mom this year as well in January . Grief is never easy to go though. You and your mom are in my thoughts are prayers. I'm not sure what advice to give you but I can tell you'll make it though . Its going to be a hard road but remember you here among friends .