I've come to notice a very odd double standard operating in the perceptions of people regarding homosexuality...
Why is it that when I ask why some people have a problem with homosexuality, one of the recurring themes is "I don't want to be hit on by someone of the same sex". In fact, I think it has always been a male saying "I don't want to be hit on by a guy", but it is possible there are some women out there who feel as strongly about being hit on by a woman. Sometime this is expressed in terms of utter disgust, or even violence, "if some guy hit on my, I'd smash him!", as though the violence is a perfectly reasonable response to what is, essentially, a compliment. We aren't talking about forcing yourself on an unwilling partner here, we're just talking about someone complimenting you on your eyes and asking you out on a date, right?
So why is it, that when I, a homosexual, am asked out by a straight guy, I don't feel the same desire to smash his face in? I've also known some homosexual men asked out by straight women, some incredibly directly, and they too, report no wish to beat anyone with a steel pipe. The most facinating thing, I have found, is that in forums and discussions such as those here, we can get such behaviour from the same person! In other threads, I have, within relatively few posts, seen people saying their automatic response to being hit on by a guy would be to stomp his face, and then, compliment my photo, and say I should try being hetero for a night, they'd be will ing to show me how its done.
So why is that? Why is it reasonable for a hetero hit on by a homosexual to get violent, rather than politely decline, yet homosexuals hit on by heterosexuals treat it like any other unwanted advance, usually by politely declining and forgetting about it.
Anyone?
Why is it that when I ask why some people have a problem with homosexuality, one of the recurring themes is "I don't want to be hit on by someone of the same sex". In fact, I think it has always been a male saying "I don't want to be hit on by a guy", but it is possible there are some women out there who feel as strongly about being hit on by a woman. Sometime this is expressed in terms of utter disgust, or even violence, "if some guy hit on my, I'd smash him!", as though the violence is a perfectly reasonable response to what is, essentially, a compliment. We aren't talking about forcing yourself on an unwilling partner here, we're just talking about someone complimenting you on your eyes and asking you out on a date, right?
So why is it, that when I, a homosexual, am asked out by a straight guy, I don't feel the same desire to smash his face in? I've also known some homosexual men asked out by straight women, some incredibly directly, and they too, report no wish to beat anyone with a steel pipe. The most facinating thing, I have found, is that in forums and discussions such as those here, we can get such behaviour from the same person! In other threads, I have, within relatively few posts, seen people saying their automatic response to being hit on by a guy would be to stomp his face, and then, compliment my photo, and say I should try being hetero for a night, they'd be will ing to show me how its done.
So why is that? Why is it reasonable for a hetero hit on by a homosexual to get violent, rather than politely decline, yet homosexuals hit on by heterosexuals treat it like any other unwanted advance, usually by politely declining and forgetting about it.
Anyone?