Thanks a lot, much wisdom, but still, I've tried all of that. Retreats, babysitters, weekends away, we have done it all. I just want her to be interested more, take action. I do things for her all the time without looking for any payback or sexual rewards. None the less, it would be nice to get rewarded for making sure that she is not overwhelmed. The fact is, daily she is less and less desirable to me, and we are more like roomates. It's not like we have a bad marriage, it's just something I want, that is very simple, that she wont commit to. Whenever we had issues, and I was the problem, I fixed those things as quickly as I could. It's not fair to me. Not at all