I try to be decent with everyone online and off. I’ve been getting hints that there is gossip going about behind the scenes through PM’s. Seriously, why do people do such things especially when they know nothing about fellow posters? I remember once being contacted asking if I was having an affair with a fellow poster that made it his mission to make me miserable on the board. What makes people do these things? Especially on the internet? It seems really pathological to me but I have always ignored it even when I knew they were involved. I’m just curious if anyone else has experienced this and have any thoughts as to why people do such strange things. This is the first time I have asked for thoughts on this topic but seeing as it seems to go through cycles, I wanted hear others opinions or experiences. I just find it so odd.
Church people - especially church women in particular, gossip.
I've honestly never seen anything like it in my life until church... Lol. I mean, it's a major sin in today's church culture.
What I personally do is completely ignore gossip, about anyone for any reason.
If someone is in front of me and starts talking whatever about whomever I shut people down immediately. I simply don't participate.
To shut people down I just point out that this is gossiping about someone and I don't do that because it's sinful.
Who cares what people think or say beyond that. That's just honest. I don't care what people think to a fairly large degree.
Not caring, and not participating in gossip, whether about yourself or others is actually insulating from the gossips because if you don't participate and don't get upset then it's really not fun, so they often just go pick on others.
Other than that, sometimes either the way people post or the way people do whatever online might make me think something about them.
For instance, your posting might lead me to the conclusion that your a Catholic, but maybe there were a few posts that didn't fit this picture so i might message you and outright ask if you are Catholic...
That's different than gossip, it's just asking a stupid question because maybe I like your posting and want to know more about you...
That's not talking about you, though the conclusion may have been wrong, there's no harm no foul in asking questions... Regardless of the stupidity factor.
But, that's probably just my own personality coming through. It's probably somehow connected to the mom thing women get... Lol