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There was another discussion elsewhere that was occuring on the issue of marriage/divorce which I thought was interesting. For when it comes to issues pertaining to perserverance/faith, I've often heard it where women will stay in relationships believing "God'll change him--even if he harms me" when it comes to domestic violence....or for that matter, a spouse cheating on another either with pornagraphy, emotional adultery or physical adultery via sleeping around---with the spouse saying "I'm going to stick it out and believe for the Lord to come through...".....and even further, going into a marriage after having messed up in purity but seeking to be honorable in staying with the individual (as well as the child, should the woman get pregnant)....and in fact, Creflo Dollar discussed the issue in-depth before on the last one, as seen here in Creflo Dollar - The Obligation of Marriage / Reviving Sanctification Part 1
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"Creflo Dollar - Steps 2 Managing Life Choosing a Mate Pt 6b" ( YouTube - Creflo Dollar - Steps 2 Managing Life Choosing a Mate Pt 6 ).......
YouTube - Creflo Dollar - Steps 2 Managing Life Choosing a Mate Pt 6a
YouTube - Creflo Dollar - Steps 2 Managing Life Choosing a Mate Pt 6b
And of course, Joyce Myers on the issue of Respect within a Marriage, as seen in Respect In Marriage Pt. 1
And indeed, many times God does get a hold on the heart of the person who is in deep sin in a marriage/turn them around for his glory. The spouses who stayed knew that their prayers/refusal to see the mate be abandoned were apart of what made the difference---as the Word makes clear that even God hopes.
However, many times where it didn't happen---with destruction following. And on the issue, I was curious to those of you in WOF (as well as outside of it) whether or not you'd think it a matter of having faith/trust in God to remain in a relationship where there's destructive habits occuring..
If any of the things mentioned were occuring in the lives of your friends/family, would it be a matter of trusting the Lord to stay in it/endure through prayer---or would it be a matter of being faithless to walk away?
Of course, in going into the issue, there are some basic things to consider...
God is love 1 John 4:7-9 / 1 John 4---and on the issue of what love is, as Faith is completely about divine trust/focus centered on the Person of the Lord--- (1 John 3:2 ), it's more than rational (IMHO) to say that God is also the essence of HOPE and FAITH, as love is also those things as well by nature:
The very definition of love is involving hoping....and with that established, it'd seem that God ALWAYS TRUSTS and ALWAYS HOPES---just as much as He is not proud and does not delight in evil alongside all of the other characteristics of Love. The Divine Trinity, IMHO, cannot be without Faith and Trust if the nature of Love is to be held intact completely...for He sees the end result of us even when we're messed up/still chooses to encourage us/call us what we're gonna be. He still chooses to go into hopeless situations and bring hope. He still chooses mercy and invests. God is as much the Essence of Faith/Trust as He is Love--as the 2 earlier traits are nothing more but outworkings of LOVE.
But on the same token, plenty of times where God's love was clearly TESTED/rejected...and it did seem as if God often chose to bail out on what He intended to originally do when it seemed His people were unfaithful to Him....as seen in the many instances where adultery and prostitution are applied to Israel, Babylon, etc. Some instances even showed the Lord calling upon men to even divorce their wives due to issues of them not being Pure Jews, as seen in Ezra 9-10---and for other examples of God seeming to show not enduring with His people.
Jeremiah 3:1-10
Jeremiah 5:1-6
Jeremiah 5:7-13
Jeremiah 7:8-11
Jeremiah 9:2-3
Jeremiah 13:22-27
Ezekiel 23
Ezekiel
Hosea 1:2
Hosea 3:1-3
Hosea 7:11-13
Hosea 4:10-12
Hosea 7:4,
Hosea 6-7
Hosea 2:2-3,
Hosea 5-7
Hosea 2:8-10
Hosea 13
Hosea 2:14-17
Hosea 19-20
Hosea 23
And likewise, as the standard for marriage is that divorce/walking away is allowed when others lose faith, I do wonder at times how it is the case that people getting a divorce from their spouses and leaving are often shunned by other believers in all camps for not "having enough faith/endurance to MAKE IT WORK....". Many WOF Circles where it was a matter of being "godly" if one chose to remain in a marriage that seemed to be extremely damaging...and if they wanted out, there was no outlet...and yet, for others, it seemed as if they stayed in--with their faith paying off.
What are your thoughts? Do you think that it's a matter of "faith" to remain within a marriage that's doing poorly? Or would it be one of wisdom to walk away? If any of you have had similar situations, what did you do? Would love to hear sometime...
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There was another discussion elsewhere that was occuring on the issue of marriage/divorce which I thought was interesting. For when it comes to issues pertaining to perserverance/faith, I've often heard it where women will stay in relationships believing "God'll change him--even if he harms me" when it comes to domestic violence....or for that matter, a spouse cheating on another either with pornagraphy, emotional adultery or physical adultery via sleeping around---with the spouse saying "I'm going to stick it out and believe for the Lord to come through...".....and even further, going into a marriage after having messed up in purity but seeking to be honorable in staying with the individual (as well as the child, should the woman get pregnant)....and in fact, Creflo Dollar discussed the issue in-depth before on the last one, as seen here in Creflo Dollar - The Obligation of Marriage / Reviving Sanctification Part 1
....
"Creflo Dollar - Steps 2 Managing Life Choosing a Mate Pt 6b" ( YouTube - Creflo Dollar - Steps 2 Managing Life Choosing a Mate Pt 6 ).......
YouTube - Creflo Dollar - Steps 2 Managing Life Choosing a Mate Pt 6a
YouTube - Creflo Dollar - Steps 2 Managing Life Choosing a Mate Pt 6b
And of course, Joyce Myers on the issue of Respect within a Marriage, as seen in Respect In Marriage Pt. 1
And indeed, many times God does get a hold on the heart of the person who is in deep sin in a marriage/turn them around for his glory. The spouses who stayed knew that their prayers/refusal to see the mate be abandoned were apart of what made the difference---as the Word makes clear that even God hopes.
However, many times where it didn't happen---with destruction following. And on the issue, I was curious to those of you in WOF (as well as outside of it) whether or not you'd think it a matter of having faith/trust in God to remain in a relationship where there's destructive habits occuring..
If any of the things mentioned were occuring in the lives of your friends/family, would it be a matter of trusting the Lord to stay in it/endure through prayer---or would it be a matter of being faithless to walk away?
Of course, in going into the issue, there are some basic things to consider...
God is love 1 John 4:7-9 / 1 John 4---and on the issue of what love is, as Faith is completely about divine trust/focus centered on the Person of the Lord--- (1 John 3:2 ), it's more than rational (IMHO) to say that God is also the essence of HOPE and FAITH, as love is also those things as well by nature:
1 Corinthians 13:14Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
1 Corinthians 13:13
And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.
1 Corinthians 13:12-13 (in Context) 1 Corinthians 13
And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.
1 Corinthians 13:12-13 (in Context) 1 Corinthians 13
But on the same token, plenty of times where God's love was clearly TESTED/rejected...and it did seem as if God often chose to bail out on what He intended to originally do when it seemed His people were unfaithful to Him....as seen in the many instances where adultery and prostitution are applied to Israel, Babylon, etc. Some instances even showed the Lord calling upon men to even divorce their wives due to issues of them not being Pure Jews, as seen in Ezra 9-10---and for other examples of God seeming to show not enduring with His people.
Jeremiah 3:1-10
Jeremiah 5:1-6
Jeremiah 5:7-13
Jeremiah 7:8-11
Jeremiah 9:2-3
Jeremiah 13:22-27
Ezekiel 23
Ezekiel
Hosea 1:2
Hosea 3:1-3
Hosea 7:11-13
Hosea 4:10-12
Hosea 7:4,
Hosea 6-7
Hosea 2:2-3,
Hosea 5-7
Hosea 2:8-10
Hosea 13
Hosea 2:14-17
Hosea 19-20
Hosea 23
Isaiah 50:1
[ Israel's Sin and the Servant's Obedience ] This is what the LORD says: "Where is your mother's certificate of divorce with which I sent her away? Or to which of my creditors did I sell you? Because of your sins you were sold; because of your transgressions your mother was sent away.
Isaiah 50
[ Israel's Sin and the Servant's Obedience ] This is what the LORD says: "Where is your mother's certificate of divorce with which I sent her away? Or to which of my creditors did I sell you? Because of your sins you were sold; because of your transgressions your mother was sent away.
Isaiah 50
Jeremiah 3:8
I gave faithless Israel her certificate of divorce and sent her away because of all her adulteries. Yet I saw that her unfaithful sister Judah had no fear; she also went out and committed adultery.
Jeremiah 3
I gave faithless Israel her certificate of divorce and sent her away because of all her adulteries. Yet I saw that her unfaithful sister Judah had no fear; she also went out and committed adultery.
Jeremiah 3
Matthew 5:30-32 / Matthew 5
Divorce
31"It has been said, 'Anyone who divorces his wife must give her a certificate of divorce.'[a] 32But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, causes her to become an adulteress, and anyone who marries the divorced woman commits adultery.
Malachi 2:16
"I hate divorce," says the LORD God of Israel, "and I hate a man's covering himself with violence as well as with his garment," says the LORD Almighty. So guard yourself in your spirit, and do not break faith.
Malachi 2:15-17 /Malachi 2
Divorce
31"It has been said, 'Anyone who divorces his wife must give her a certificate of divorce.'[a] 32But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, causes her to become an adulteress, and anyone who marries the divorced woman commits adultery.
Malachi 2:16
"I hate divorce," says the LORD God of Israel, "and I hate a man's covering himself with violence as well as with his garment," says the LORD Almighty. So guard yourself in your spirit, and do not break faith.
Malachi 2:15-17 /Malachi 2
Matthew 19:4
Divorce
1When Jesus had finished saying these things, he left Galilee and went into the region of Judea to the other side of the Jordan. 2Large crowds followed him, and he healed them there. 3Some Pharisees came to him to test him. They asked, "Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any and every reason?"
4"Haven't you read," he replied, "that at the beginning the Creator 'made them male and female,'[a] 5and said, 'For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh'[b]? 6So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate."
7"Why then," they asked, "did Moses command that a man give his wife a certificate of divorce and send her away?"
8Jesus replied, "Moses permitted you to divorce your wives because your hearts were hard. But it was not this way from the beginning.
9I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, and marries another woman commits adultery."
10The disciples said to him, "If this is the situation between a husband and wife, it is better not to marry."
11Jesus replied, "Not everyone can accept this word, but only those to whom it has been given. 12For some are eunuchs because they were born that way; others were made that way by men; and others have renounced marriage[c]because of the kingdom of heaven. The one who can accept this should accept it."
Divorce
1When Jesus had finished saying these things, he left Galilee and went into the region of Judea to the other side of the Jordan. 2Large crowds followed him, and he healed them there. 3Some Pharisees came to him to test him. They asked, "Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any and every reason?"
4"Haven't you read," he replied, "that at the beginning the Creator 'made them male and female,'[a] 5and said, 'For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh'[b]? 6So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate."
7"Why then," they asked, "did Moses command that a man give his wife a certificate of divorce and send her away?"
8Jesus replied, "Moses permitted you to divorce your wives because your hearts were hard. But it was not this way from the beginning.
9I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, and marries another woman commits adultery."
10The disciples said to him, "If this is the situation between a husband and wife, it is better not to marry."
11Jesus replied, "Not everyone can accept this word, but only those to whom it has been given. 12For some are eunuchs because they were born that way; others were made that way by men; and others have renounced marriage[c]because of the kingdom of heaven. The one who can accept this should accept it."
1 Corinthians 7:38
To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband. 11But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife. 12To the rest I say this (I, not the Lord): If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her. 13And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him. 14For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy.
15But if the unbeliever leaves, let him do so. A believing man or woman is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace. 16How do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or, how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?
To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband. 11But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife. 12To the rest I say this (I, not the Lord): If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her. 13And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him. 14For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy.
15But if the unbeliever leaves, let him do so. A believing man or woman is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace. 16How do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or, how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?
What are your thoughts? Do you think that it's a matter of "faith" to remain within a marriage that's doing poorly? Or would it be one of wisdom to walk away? If any of you have had similar situations, what did you do? Would love to hear sometime...
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