Hi everyone. Just thought I'd introduce myself. My husband and I are both 25. We stopped preventing about 16 months ago, and got more active with ttc last May 2010. Obviously no pregnancy.
I'm the type that needs to know what's going on with my body, so I often test from 8 days past ovulation onto when I get my period. There were some instances where I'd get a very faintly positive, followed by negative, and then my period. I don't know if they're faulty tests, or something was trying to happen, but didn't quite take. I've always had problems with short luteal phases, and somewhat irregular cycles. I often bleed lightly--this cycle for a week straight--during ovulation.
I did see an OBGYN a couple months ago, and she basically blew me off, said it sounds like I could be conceiving, but they're not sticking, but since I can conceive, it's a good sign, and to come back in 6 more months if I'm not pregnant. And she told me to stop exercising, and even took alarm to the fact that with my job, I'm on my feet for 8 hours at a time.
I have the number to the specialist in my area, who can do the testing and treatment. The thing is, my insurance covers nothing. My husband's insurance (he just started a new job) doesn't kick in until October. They won't just give me clomid--they want to monitor me a lot, which means thousands of $$ per cycle (not sure what yet, I'm in the process of checking this out).
The emotional/spiritual process of ttc has been the worst for me. I see SO many women getting pg and having babies. I just found out on fb my husband's cousin, who is so mean to people and obviously not Christian, is expecting her 2nd. A friend had a baby girl yesterday. My husband's other cousin is having a baby shower she wants me to go to (but I won't). I can't take it. It's everywhere! I don't know if I want to scream in anger or cry. I've gone through so many struggles in my life, from childhood abuse, to bulimia, to depression--is God going to allow something to be easy for me? All I want is a beautiful child I can raise in the Lord. But He's not allowing me to have a child, and my faith is waning fast. I find myself angry at Him a lot. I'm angry at women that can conceive easily. I find myself cutting off people that are pg or have young children--it's just way too emotionally painful for me. I don't want to be a hermit, but I see happy families everywhere! It hurts me so much.
The worst is that God not only won't give me a child, but He won't even give me answers! I just want a ballpark answer of when. Silence. I even went off the deep end and tried to contact a psychic--God closed that door to me by not allowing me to get through. I hate to be like this, but I'm so tempted to go through sinful channels to find answers, since God won't give me any.
It's just not fair! And I see happy families everywhere! It just rubs salt in my wound. And the worst is the uncertainty. When? How long? If? What if it's just not in God's plan? I cannot accept that. When I think of that, I become so depressed. I literally just lie around some days.
Please pray that I conceive soon, or at least find out answers. I would do anything for a child, but feel every door is being closed for me now. I can't conceive, yet can't afford to pay the thousands of $$ each cycle for testing and treatment. And I have no access to answers. And I just cannot see my life having purpose without children.
Please help.