- May 29, 2017
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- Country
- New Zealand
- Faith
- Pentecostal
- Marital Status
- Single
I met a guy through umpiring and he's not Christian, but some reason I feel drawn to him and can't get him off my mind. I know that he likes me (a lot, as he's told me and I can see) but there are three problems:
1. He's not Christian and I always said I wouldn't date a non-believer.
Also dating always ends in either a marriage or a breakup, so I dont want to date someone I wouldn't consider marrying and I wouldn't consider marrying someone who isn't Christian. Why am I doubting this now?
2. I'm 14 (15 in a month) and my parents always said nobody in our family could date before the age of 16. While I feel that I am more mature than my two older sisters were at my age and people constantly tell me that I'm incredibly mature/wise, especially for my - which I doubt to be honest because if I am, why can't I stop liking this guy - but that is still the rule and there's no way I'll go behind my parents backs.
3. Personally I'd like to get to know God better before I date - something my friend and I thought of was "you'll never find fulfilment in an earthly relationship until you find fulfilment in God, and only then can you truly love a man because only then will God be at the center of your relationship" and that pretty much sums it up for me.
I honestly dont know what to do, normally when I find myself infatuated with someone I dont think is good for me I can just sort of "unlike" them fairly quickly, but for some reason I can't get him out of my head (outside of when I'm studying the Bible and praying and stuff, at which point he tends to all but vanish unless I'm actually praying for him).
The worst thing is he knows that I like him, and he knows that I wouldn't properly date someone who is Christian and that I'm not aloud to date til I'm 16 and I dont want to go behind my parents' back on that, and when he found that all out he said his thoughts at that point were basically just "what the f***" (but he abbreviated it to an acronym.
I wish I never started liking him. Honestly I wish I never met him. But now that I have, what do I do?
Also I really want to get him along to youth group, but I'm also scared that he'll pretend to be Christian just to get me and even if I dont end up dating him, it'd be incredible if he could end up actually being saved. I know God put me in his life for a reason but I dont know what that reason is - if it's simply to show him God's love and try help him find it for himself, or something more than that? I'm also scared of me liking him but not dating him because of my religion putting him off Christianity because he thinks it's all just a load of rules.
I think I should talk to my mum about it but I'm kind of scared of what she'll think of me, too. I'd really appreciate your advice!!
1. He's not Christian and I always said I wouldn't date a non-believer.
Also dating always ends in either a marriage or a breakup, so I dont want to date someone I wouldn't consider marrying and I wouldn't consider marrying someone who isn't Christian. Why am I doubting this now?
2. I'm 14 (15 in a month) and my parents always said nobody in our family could date before the age of 16. While I feel that I am more mature than my two older sisters were at my age and people constantly tell me that I'm incredibly mature/wise, especially for my - which I doubt to be honest because if I am, why can't I stop liking this guy - but that is still the rule and there's no way I'll go behind my parents backs.
3. Personally I'd like to get to know God better before I date - something my friend and I thought of was "you'll never find fulfilment in an earthly relationship until you find fulfilment in God, and only then can you truly love a man because only then will God be at the center of your relationship" and that pretty much sums it up for me.
I honestly dont know what to do, normally when I find myself infatuated with someone I dont think is good for me I can just sort of "unlike" them fairly quickly, but for some reason I can't get him out of my head (outside of when I'm studying the Bible and praying and stuff, at which point he tends to all but vanish unless I'm actually praying for him).
The worst thing is he knows that I like him, and he knows that I wouldn't properly date someone who is Christian and that I'm not aloud to date til I'm 16 and I dont want to go behind my parents' back on that, and when he found that all out he said his thoughts at that point were basically just "what the f***" (but he abbreviated it to an acronym.
I wish I never started liking him. Honestly I wish I never met him. But now that I have, what do I do?
Also I really want to get him along to youth group, but I'm also scared that he'll pretend to be Christian just to get me and even if I dont end up dating him, it'd be incredible if he could end up actually being saved. I know God put me in his life for a reason but I dont know what that reason is - if it's simply to show him God's love and try help him find it for himself, or something more than that? I'm also scared of me liking him but not dating him because of my religion putting him off Christianity because he thinks it's all just a load of rules.
I think I should talk to my mum about it but I'm kind of scared of what she'll think of me, too. I'd really appreciate your advice!!