I am a young adult with no children, but I wonder if you have a child with a disability, what was your reaction and how did you cope with your child having a disability?
We have adopted a child with disability because the mother rejected her child because of her disabilities and we didn't think she deserved that.
Nowadays 99 percent of babies with disabilities are aborted so it looks like most people don't like having a child with disabilities but honestly most people don't know what a blessing such a child can be. The world is a better place because of them.
We found however that a child with disabilities has special love on offer for those who care for them. We have learned to love this child as our own and wouldn't dream getting rid of her. Our four natural children have also always been happy to have her in the family and she is greatly loved by them.
We found that to have a child with disabilities requires extra work and extra parenting skills but is highly rewarded relationship wise.
This looks like a misunderstanding. According to Wikipedia, "Statistics today conclude that 90 percent of fetuses that are diagnosed with Down syndrome via fetal genetic testing are aborted. However, only 2-3 percent of women agree to completing genetic testing, CVS or amniocentesis, the current tests for chromosomal abnormalities. When taking this into account, it is believed that approximately 50 percent of fetuses with Down Syndrome are aborted."Nowadays 99 percent of babies with disabilities are aborted
That sounds wonderful.
May I ask how old is your adopted child and what kind of disability she has?
I understand that most people may prefer to have a healthy baby without a disability and I don't see anything wrong with wanting a healthy baby, however I do not think it is reasonable to abort a child because of a potential disability (I personally believe that abortion is wrong anyway). Whether or not a child has a disability, he or she is still a child made in God's image.
This looks like a misunderstanding. According to Wikipedia, "Statistics today conclude that 90 percent of fetuses that are diagnosed with Down syndrome via fetal genetic testing are aborted. However, only 2-3 percent of women agree to completing genetic testing, CVS or amniocentesis, the current tests for chromosomal abnormalities. When taking this into account, it is believed that approximately 50 percent of fetuses with Down Syndrome are aborted."
The big difference is that only a few people in the US opt for full genetic testing. Is it possible that this is standard in Australia? There are definite differences between countries. In Iceland almost no one is being born with Downs now.Its true the abortion rate is not quite 99 percent i used that figure to stress my point not to state a scientific fact. However the figure isn't to far off from reality. i'm from Western Australia the abortion rate is 93 percent here, it is near genocide and i'm deeply saddened by it.
I am a young adult with no children, but I wonder if you have a child with a disability, what was your reaction and how did you cope with your child having a disability?
The big difference is that only a few people in the US opt for full genetic testing. Is it possible that this is standard in Australia?
It's a journey, and a long one which unfolds over years. My daughter has autism, and so for us there was a gradual process of realising that things for her weren't quite right, of investigation (it took about eight months of tests to get a diagnosis, and that's quick for a young child), of getting a diagnosis and then working out what that meant for who she is, what support she needs, and how our lives would change. We're about four years post-diagnosis now and that is still unfolding for us.
There's grief, of course, but there's also all the joy that usually comes with parenting and watching a young person thrive (for what thriving looks like for them). It's complicated.
I don't know if that helps answer your question?
In Australia most women opt for the standard ultrasounds which tend to be the first point of screening for Downs' syndrome. Full genetic testing might be done to confirm ultrasound results.
If you don’t mind me asking, how old is your daughter and how old was she when she got the diagnosis? How does her autism impact her (in terms of social-communication skills, verbal communication skills (e.g. whether or not she can speak and to what extent), sensory processing needs et cetera)? What were the issues/traits you noticed that lead you to seek a diagnosis?
It is a joy to raise my son. Despite him being physically disabled we love him. I have learned a lot from him. And he is now 3 years old already.Our son is 24 now - and we knew he was autistic from the age of 2 or 3. He's severely autistic and has no language and only uses 2 or 3 hand signs. Not being able to communicate makes life difficult for him at times.
People say the usual "I don't know how you cope" things but it's never been anything other than a joy! I usually tell people that many people keep a large boisterous dog around the house that breaks things and makes all manner of mess, and don't have anything but love for the creature. I hope people understand the metaphor. But it's a bit like that.
We've honestly never cried or been upset. I can understand that people might go through grief and loss but it's never come our way and we're thankful for that.
As he has grown up slowly, we've had the benefit of all the firsts, and little steps for the last 20 years. He amazes us every day, has the greatest cheeky laugh and sense of mischief.
If anyone ends up in the same fortunate position as us with a special autistic person coming into their life and ever need any hints and tips or just want to talk to someone who will not be shocked or in the slightest bit judgemental - Please feel free to knock me up.
J.
It is a joy to raise my son. Despite him being physically disabled we love him. I have learned a lot from him. And he is now 3 years old already.
This is so true! I often wish I had not wasted a month in 2016 mourning for my son who was unborn at the time. I cannot go back and tell myself “things will be fine” however so I will settle for reassuring new parents.
It was right after his diagnosis day and I was slowly coming to accept he had a disability God could not fix. That was hard. But the lesson I have learned is that God is always by your side even in times of crisis.