I need support, advice, and prayer from my brothers and sisters in Christ. Life has driven me to my knees and I don't know where to go from here. [bless and do not curse] I'm at a loss as to what to do right now.
I'm supposed to be getting married on the 26th of this month, but while things are supposed to be wonderful and happy, everything about life is taking a dramatic turn for the worst. The most noticible being family relations. My fiancée has decided that once the wedding is over, she never wants a relationship with my mother ever and refuses to ever communicate with her again. This isn't unfounded as I can't say I blame her, but I still can't help but be depressed about it. My mother is impatient, passive aggressive, and controlling. She was raised in the church like myself, but doesn't seem to walk in the light. That or her view of what it means to be a Christian is skewed. Gossip is her fortay. Even about private family matters. Her employees at work know just about all my dirty little secrets (save the ones that would make her look like a "bad mother"). She passively shuns me when I "act up" and pushes me to share information with her that I dont feel comfortable sharing with anyone but my fiancee. She has taken credit for the wedding on multiple occasions and boasts about how none of it would have happened if it wasn't for her and my father being well known in the church (on that topic, they are so well known -in church and in the city- that I am referred to as "Joe and Kara's oldest son", not "Josh"). [bless and do not curse]
My fiancée is another issue. I'm not exactly sure what to say to be honest. She was raised in tbs church as well, but not the same way as myself. During the time we have been together she has maybe gone to service with me maybe a dozen times. Just recently she informed me that service bores her and she can never pay attention, though our current church she has no trouble paying attention. The only problem is that my parents go there too. She is so adamant about cutting communication with my mother that she refuses to go to the same church regardless of the circumstances. This scares me that we will never find one in the area that she enjoys. Honestly, I could care less what church I go to, as long a I can hear God's Word and be uplifted and nothing thats cannonically questionable is going on. I work a very irregular schedule and am unable to attend every so often. 90% of the time she won't go without me. When she does, we're late. In fact, we have maybe been on time twice since being together. It's always the same reason too: she won't get up when the alarm goes off. This is just one of many problems that have been popping up over the last few months. I keep wondering is this a sign, or is satan putting doubt in my mind. If anyone feels like listening and helping further just shoot me a PM. I'd love an encouraging shoulder to lean on right now.
I'm supposed to be getting married on the 26th of this month, but while things are supposed to be wonderful and happy, everything about life is taking a dramatic turn for the worst. The most noticible being family relations. My fiancée has decided that once the wedding is over, she never wants a relationship with my mother ever and refuses to ever communicate with her again. This isn't unfounded as I can't say I blame her, but I still can't help but be depressed about it. My mother is impatient, passive aggressive, and controlling. She was raised in the church like myself, but doesn't seem to walk in the light. That or her view of what it means to be a Christian is skewed. Gossip is her fortay. Even about private family matters. Her employees at work know just about all my dirty little secrets (save the ones that would make her look like a "bad mother"). She passively shuns me when I "act up" and pushes me to share information with her that I dont feel comfortable sharing with anyone but my fiancee. She has taken credit for the wedding on multiple occasions and boasts about how none of it would have happened if it wasn't for her and my father being well known in the church (on that topic, they are so well known -in church and in the city- that I am referred to as "Joe and Kara's oldest son", not "Josh"). [bless and do not curse]
My fiancée is another issue. I'm not exactly sure what to say to be honest. She was raised in tbs church as well, but not the same way as myself. During the time we have been together she has maybe gone to service with me maybe a dozen times. Just recently she informed me that service bores her and she can never pay attention, though our current church she has no trouble paying attention. The only problem is that my parents go there too. She is so adamant about cutting communication with my mother that she refuses to go to the same church regardless of the circumstances. This scares me that we will never find one in the area that she enjoys. Honestly, I could care less what church I go to, as long a I can hear God's Word and be uplifted and nothing thats cannonically questionable is going on. I work a very irregular schedule and am unable to attend every so often. 90% of the time she won't go without me. When she does, we're late. In fact, we have maybe been on time twice since being together. It's always the same reason too: she won't get up when the alarm goes off. This is just one of many problems that have been popping up over the last few months. I keep wondering is this a sign, or is satan putting doubt in my mind. If anyone feels like listening and helping further just shoot me a PM. I'd love an encouraging shoulder to lean on right now.
