I hate to go into a backstory, but to better understand how I feel, it is necessary.
So there's this girl, and I've basically had a very, very large crush on her since 8th grade. When I first met her, I loved the way she stood out from the other girls: she never talked bad about anybody, she didn't cuss, she was sweet, funny, and smart— the smartest in the class. As time has gone on though, she's really started to blend in with all the other girls; she's grown attached to the secular lifestyle and ideology. This really hurts me. I'm not a judgemental person, I treat everybody the same and I never condemn anybody based on the way they act or the things they do, but it really hurts me to see such an amazing girl just lose her individuality like that. Not only this, but lately she's really been treating me like crap: she ignores me, gets mad at me for simple stuff, and talks bad about me, and I can't think of anything I've done wrong to her! Like I seriously make it part of my life to build her up and make her feel special, not so she will like me, but so she doesn't feel the need to look to others to feel loved.
This girl, however, is just a reason why I'm distressed. I'm really not looking for a relationship right now at all; I'm only 17 and I plan on going into the military when I graduate anyways, but I feel like my efforts in finding an attractive, cool, Christian girl when I get back will be futile. Every girl I know (with the exception of one friend) is always talking about all the stuff they've done with guys, or about all the crazy stuff they want to do in college, or all the money they want to make and stuff they want, and it's all going to gain them nothing. Just a couple more examples: I wore a PORN KILLS LOVE shirt to school one day, knowing I'd receive nothing but flack for it, but also knowing my life is not my own and there is a will much higher than mine. I was nervous, though, when I found that I hardly had any guys making fun of me, it was primarily girls (note: I still get joked on today, yet I do not regret it). Second example: I just got back from a family gathering and I sat with all my girl cousins (all of whom are younger than me) and heard the entire time about doing stuff with guys, and seeing Porn clips some of this even came from an 11 year old!
Now I know I'm not perfect— I have the same lustful, lazy, and selfish tendencies as many others my age, but I want nothing more than to live out God's plan for my life, I just feel like I'm going to have to do it alone. Any advice?
So there's this girl, and I've basically had a very, very large crush on her since 8th grade. When I first met her, I loved the way she stood out from the other girls: she never talked bad about anybody, she didn't cuss, she was sweet, funny, and smart— the smartest in the class. As time has gone on though, she's really started to blend in with all the other girls; she's grown attached to the secular lifestyle and ideology. This really hurts me. I'm not a judgemental person, I treat everybody the same and I never condemn anybody based on the way they act or the things they do, but it really hurts me to see such an amazing girl just lose her individuality like that. Not only this, but lately she's really been treating me like crap: she ignores me, gets mad at me for simple stuff, and talks bad about me, and I can't think of anything I've done wrong to her! Like I seriously make it part of my life to build her up and make her feel special, not so she will like me, but so she doesn't feel the need to look to others to feel loved.
This girl, however, is just a reason why I'm distressed. I'm really not looking for a relationship right now at all; I'm only 17 and I plan on going into the military when I graduate anyways, but I feel like my efforts in finding an attractive, cool, Christian girl when I get back will be futile. Every girl I know (with the exception of one friend) is always talking about all the stuff they've done with guys, or about all the crazy stuff they want to do in college, or all the money they want to make and stuff they want, and it's all going to gain them nothing. Just a couple more examples: I wore a PORN KILLS LOVE shirt to school one day, knowing I'd receive nothing but flack for it, but also knowing my life is not my own and there is a will much higher than mine. I was nervous, though, when I found that I hardly had any guys making fun of me, it was primarily girls (note: I still get joked on today, yet I do not regret it). Second example: I just got back from a family gathering and I sat with all my girl cousins (all of whom are younger than me) and heard the entire time about doing stuff with guys, and seeing Porn clips some of this even came from an 11 year old!
Now I know I'm not perfect— I have the same lustful, lazy, and selfish tendencies as many others my age, but I want nothing more than to live out God's plan for my life, I just feel like I'm going to have to do it alone. Any advice?