So, you never tried out the PCA?
I did, but not in my hometown. My family, on my dad's side (in the D.C./Maryland/Virginia area) are PCA, so I attend when I am there, but only as a guest (and it has been a LONG time since my last visit, sadly).
There was only one PCA church nearby when I was leaving the PCUSA, but it was still way on the other side of town (there are several close by now), so I accepted my friend's invitation to check out his Free Church and I fell in love with it and its members, and I have stayed there ever since.
I considered an OPC church (that is VERY close to home actually), but I loved my friends, the fellowship and the teaching at my present E-Free so much that I decided to continue on there (this was a difficult decision because the preaching/teaching/fellowship was also VERY good at the OPC church .. they have an evening service that I am able to attend .. AND, theirs is a far more traditional worship service than my Free Church's is (particularly in regard to the music, with choir/organ and even an orchestra at times, such that there is an emphasis on the great hymns of the faith, etc., ... and on the creeds, catechisms and confessions too, which are recognized as being VERY important, unlike the Free Church, which only has a Statement of Faith, sadly).
So, is the EV free church pretty conservative? I mean in terms of who can be a pastor, abortion, homosexuality, etc.? And are there many Reformed believers there?
Yes, to all of that
I would have never remained if it was not.
The biggest controversy that we've faced is that of Open Theism, principally due to one of our seminary professors, Dr. Clark Pinnock (who jumped off the Calvinist ship that he was on and boarded the one bound for the turbulent waters of Open Theism
). It was a HUGE deal for a few months at the denominational level (with all kinds of intense meetings and news releases, etc.), but it is now officially considered to be that which it has always been, heresy.
I still can't believe that Clark Pinnock was not only involved with Open Theism but ended up being one of its principal proponents (because Calvinist to Open Theist is QUITE a jump
). Dr. Pinnock died about 10 years ago of Alzheimer's Disease, so he would have come down with the disease at the same time that he was beginning to consider Open Theism (the thought that Alzheimer's Disease was behind all of it is just conjecture on my part, just to be clear).
How did you become a Calvinist?
When I began taking a deeper look into Arminianism, I didn't like some of the things I saw (as more and more things just didn't seem to add up for me), so I was looking for something else. When we moved to the PCUSA church, they had a bookstore, which included many of Dr. Sproul's books, and it was there that I found his little purple book called,
Chosen By God. It was that book that, far and away, began my walk down the road toward Calvinism, because I found many/most of the answers that I was looking for in it, the answers that Arminianism was not able to answer for me.
I grew up attending various denominations, including Charismatic (not my choice - my dad's), Plymouth Brethren, and Southern Baptist. Though I grew up in church, I didn't truly get saved until I was around 30, too. John MacArthur was instrumental in my conversion. Later, I learned about Calvinism through Spurgeon and then Sproul. Since that time, I have attended Reformed non-denominational, Reformed Baptist, and PCA churches.
It sounds like you have had a very interesting spiritual upbringing and life as well
I am VERY glad that the first ingredient in agape is "patience" ..
1 Corinthians 13:4, because I would have never been saved had the Lord been anything else but that with me
Talk to you soon, I hope
--David