I recently watched a really great sermon from John MacArthur on understanding God's will. He backs
everything up with scripture references, and has a very calm but straightforward way of speaking which is easy to listen to and understand. It was really helpful for me in a sort of foundation way, like if you can grasp and practice this basic foundation, everything else falls into place, from choosing a spouse to using any spiritual gifts to making a career choice and beyond.
My basic notes from the sermon were (again he provides scripture references for all of this):
God's Will
1. That you be saved (delivered from sin, death and judgement via repenting) - That you embrace Christ and follow His teachings
2. That you be spirit-filled - Don't use substances - Don't wallow in negative or selfish energy - Be controlled by the Holy Spirit and nothing else (signs are feelings of reverence, gratitude, humility towards God and Christ)
3. That you be sanctified (separated from sin) - That you stay away from sexual sin - Don't take advantage of other people for any reason - etc
4. That you be submissive (humility) to God, then one another / to husband and to institutions/government (civil disobedience towards unGodly commands with acceptance of government punishment)
5. That you suffer when necessary in order to do what is right (God uses suffering and our weaknesses to perfect us)
6. That you be grateful in everything and give thanks in prayer
Conclusion from Psalm 37, "Delight thyself also in the Lord: and he shall give thee the desires of thine heart. Commit thy way unto the Lord; trust also in him; and he shall bring it to pass." In essence first master following God's will, and then He will plant desires in your heart that are His will, and then you just do them (and automatically check all desires with God's will based on scripture, which you will have already mastered doing down to a default, so that it all just comes together).
Here is the sermon video:
As far as #3 being sanctified, I searched for a list of all sins mentioned in the scriptures and found this page:
A Bible study on Sin (Part-6A)
From this page I composed a list of goals by inverting the described sins:
- Obey, respect, glorify and trust in God, Jesus and the Holy Spirit - exclusively above all else
- Be baptized, Keep the Sabbath holy, take Communion
- Do not harm others directly, indirectly or by influence - spiritually, physically, emotionally, socially, financially
- Be compassionate, patient and respectful towards other - spiritually, physically, emotionally, socially, financially
- Embrace humility and modesty - spiritually, intellectually, aesthetically
- Let go of anger, fear, jealousy, shame, pride
- Endure hardship contently and without complaint; allow hardship to assist in spiritual growth
- Take only what is needed; say only what is important
- Uphold integrity, both actively and passively, both in action and in word
So for the "sanctification" part of the list for God's will, I use these goals on a card to read daily when focusing on what I am trying to work on.
So I figure if I dedicate my best effort to working on these things and improve over time, then over time it should become more of an automatic, smooth process of doing what God wants in my life without having to hurt my brain (lol) trying to 'figure out' what to do in every situation or with every topic.