Do you have a boyfriend?

[Oliveira1997]

.

 

[ChristianGirl5]

Nope, never have had one yet

 

[LamarHourglass]

Why do you two think that it's hard to find a mate for yourselves? (yes, I know that the thread is old, my response is more for new people that read this thread) Honestly, I think it's easier for women than it is for men.

 

[MotherFirefly]

Why do you two think that it's hard to find a mate for yourselves? (yes, I know that the thread is old, my response is more for new people that read this thread) Honestly, I think it's easier for women than it is for men.

What, exactly, makes it so much 'easier' for women?

 

[LamarHourglass]

What, exactly, makes it so much 'easier' for women?

From my understanding most men don't readily reject women. Most men don't expect a woman to take care of them (ex. have a job, home, security, etc.), they just simply want a partner. For women it's the other way around, no woman wants a bum, so most men (those that are serious about relationships) don't try until they are in the perfect position financially.

 

[MotherFirefly]

From my understanding most men don't readily reject women. Most men don't expect a woman to take care of them (ex. have a job, home, security, etc.), they just simply want a partner. For women it's the other way around, no woman wants a bum, so most men (those that are serious about relationships) don't try until they are in the perfect position financially.

Just because you're not a bum, doesn't mean you are wirth the time and heartache of a relationship.

I also don't believe the fact that one wink and a dude is all over you, means it is 'easy' for women to find a partner. One worth anything, anyway.

 

[LamarHourglass]

Just because you're not a bum, doesn't mean you are wirth the time and heartache of a relationship.

I also don't believe the fact that one wink and a dude is all over you, means it is 'easy' for women to find a partner. One worth anything, anyway.

I never said that people that aren't a bum are worth it, I said that even if the guy in question is great, his financial situation would be called into question, because honestly what woman wants to raise children with a man that can't provide?

Whether or not the man in question is "A" material isn't really relevant in this discussion, because it's impossible to really know without dating him to begin with. The premise here is simply obtaining a partner, and many men are willing as long as they know that they have a shot, so a simple "wink" is merely an invitation. Now whoever accepts the invite could be good or bad.

 

[MotherFirefly]

I never said that people that aren't a bum are worth it, I said that even if the guy in question is great, his financial situation would be called into question, because honestly what woman wants to raise children with a man that can't provide?

Whether or not the man in question is "A" material isn't really relevant in this discussion, because it's impossible to really know without dating him to begin with. The premise here is simply obtaining a partner, and many men are willing as long as they know that they have a shot, so a simple "wink" is merely an invitation. Now whoever accepts the invite could be good or bad.

I understand what you were saying, but I fail to realize how this means it is 'easy' for the women.
Most of the time when I hear men say that it is 'more difficult for them', it means they don't actually get the fact that it is up to them to initiate.
Most women aren't going to just come knocking.
I know for myself, and many other ladies I know, if a guy is interested, just talk to me. I'll never have a problem returning the courtesy. I'm not too keen on being on the starting end of conversations with random men, however.

At the end of the day, though, we are all equally sifting through a pile of garbage to find a half way shiny coin.

 

[LamarHourglass]

I understand what you were saying, but I fail to realize how this means it is 'easy' for the women.
Most of the time when I hear men say that it is 'more difficult for them', it means they don't actually get the fact that it is up to them to initiate.
Most women aren't going to just come knocking.
I know for myself, and many other ladies I know, if a guy is interested, just talk to me. I'll never have a problem returning the courtesy. I'm not too keen on being on the starting end of conversations with random men, however.

At the end of the day, though, we are all equally sifting through a pile of garbage to find a half way shiny coin.

This is exactly what I mean though.

 

[MotherFirefly]

This is exactly what I mean though.

Oh? Guess I misunderstood what you were saying, than. I apologize.

*backs away slowly*

 

[LamarHourglass]

Oh? Guess I misunderstood what you were saying, than. I apologize.

*backs away slowly*

ok..

 

[Eannie Soul]

No, I have never had a boyfriend.
I believe that girls wanna have fun as in travel around the world and experience the friendly cultural people across the globe.
Its so hard to get one because they are double-minded people.

 

[MayMcFlurry]

No, but I did have one last year. Lasted about eight months. That was my only real relationship.

I have met a nice man online though that I'm attracted to, but not sure it could become anything. For one we live in totally different countries.

 

[Ayu415]

I am in a relationship but I doubt it'll last long since we both have different faiths

 

[Cimorene]

Yes!

 

[Saricharity]

Yes (fiancé actually)

 

[Cimorene]

I am in a relationship but I doubt it'll last long since we both have different faiths

It doesn't have to last forever to still be special right now.