I'm not a spouse of a missionary but would like to hear from those that are. I'm currently dating a guy who is being called overseas to missions. He has had this strong calling his whole life and is very eager to go as soon as he is able, although it will be a few years yet. I haven't felt a calling towards missions in the same country he does, but I also haven't felt a calling anywhere period. I always imagined I'd just be involved in my church and do short term medical missions. I did also consider turning one of my passions into a ministry before I met my boyfriend. He is also passionate about it and it is one of the ways he hopes to minister to the people in the country he is called to. So you could say our life plans do line up, but not the country.
Obviously I love him very much and I really want to be there to support and encourage him while he's serving where God has called him. I'm just worried about whether or not that's a good enough reason to move to another country in the long run. I very much want to be with him and so I hope that since I want to serve God wherever I am and support him in serving God is good reason to move. However, leaving my home country would be really scary and hard, especially since I will no longer be able to do what I went to college for.
My question is if it is a bad idea to continue to date and consider marrying someone who has such a strong calling when I do not. I definitely want to be involved in ministry, but if my boyfriend was never in the picture I'd be very happy to stay in my home country and do ministry here. In a few years when the "honeymoon phase" wears off would I end up being more of a hindrance than a supportive wife from the stress of being in a country where I do not speak (yet) the language and am away from my family and friends?
Obviously I love him very much and I really want to be there to support and encourage him while he's serving where God has called him. I'm just worried about whether or not that's a good enough reason to move to another country in the long run. I very much want to be with him and so I hope that since I want to serve God wherever I am and support him in serving God is good reason to move. However, leaving my home country would be really scary and hard, especially since I will no longer be able to do what I went to college for.
My question is if it is a bad idea to continue to date and consider marrying someone who has such a strong calling when I do not. I definitely want to be involved in ministry, but if my boyfriend was never in the picture I'd be very happy to stay in my home country and do ministry here. In a few years when the "honeymoon phase" wears off would I end up being more of a hindrance than a supportive wife from the stress of being in a country where I do not speak (yet) the language and am away from my family and friends?