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... good one ... (slinking outta here).Yes, but Christ is perfect and the church is sinful. Are husbands perfect and wives sinful?
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... good one ... (slinking outta here).Yes, but Christ is perfect and the church is sinful. Are husbands perfect and wives sinful?
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I always have the last word, which is "Yes dear."
Excellent, excellent comment.I dont care how any of you handle the issue of submission.....thats just my opinion.
Its like debating the temperature at which you like your coffee
Excellent, excellent comment.
Husbands are told to love their wives and wives to submit ... and both to respect each other.
As love is something that flows naturally, so is submission and respect.
All this is a matter of changing own philosophy, confessing to God and praying He "fixes" it.
And He DOES.
None of it can be forced.
Thanks,
In Christ,
Ed
Gotta get my dictionary ... ... but I got the "psycho" part though ...The rest , beyond my own life and sphere, seems to me so much a portmanteau of "psychology" or "psychoanalysis" and "babble", a form of prose using jargon, buzzwords and highly esoteric language derivations to give an impression of plausibility through mystification, misdirection, and obfuscation, almost the means by which people talk about themselves without revealing anything
As love is something that flows naturally, so is submission and respect.
All this is a matter of changing own philosophy, confessing to God and praying He "fixes" it.
And He DOES.
None of it can be forced.
Thanks,
In Christ,
Ed
I dont care how any of you handle the issue of submission.....thats just my opinion.
Its like debating the temperature at which you like your coffee
Heh, that's pretty much what I said on page two post #17 of this said same thread. And then another poster agreed with that sentiment a page or two later. So there's three of us in agreement on that at least.
I like to make my coffee extra strong so I can ice it down to a little warmer than luke warm.
You say effort I say repentance (confession) to our Lord.Not so sure I agree with the flows naturally part. It takes consious effort to express love and to show respect. It also sometimes takes effort to receive them. That's where I think a lot of marriages go sideways. The participants expect that love and respect and all manner of other things just happen naturally but the reality is that not only do we have to be intentional about expressing them, we have to be intentional about looking for our spouse expressing them, even if it's not necessarily in the way that we receive them.
You say effort I say repentance (confession) to our Lord.
Cannot fake love, ... the same way cannot fake submission and/or respect
Our Lord really knows how to fix stuff like that. Long run, of course.
Marriage is a process ... otherwise "for better for worse, for sickness and health" part makes no sense.
In Christ,
Ed
Not so sure I agree with the flows naturally part. It takes consious effort to express love and to show respect. It also sometimes takes effort to receive them. That's where I think a lot of marriages go sideways. The participants expect that love and respect and all manner of other things just happen naturally but the reality is that not only do we have to be intentional about expressing them, we have to be intentional about looking for our spouse expressing them, even if it's not necessarily in the way that we receive them.
You say effort I say repentance (confession) to our Lord.
Cannot fake love, ... the same way cannot fake submission and/or respect
Our Lord really knows how to fix stuff like that. Long run, of course.
Marriage is a process ... otherwise "for better for worse, for sickness and health" part makes no sense.
In Christ,
Ed
To me....when I hear the word, "effort".....it sounds like "strain" or as if it's our ability--our work. IMO......it's more the direction Ed was leaning.....that loving in a Christ-like way is about surrendering to HIM. Forsaking our selfish ways, our way of thinking.....and to follow His lead. The Bible tells us that if we "abide in Him, He will abide in us" and that when we are "in HIM".....our love is evidence of that relationship. It's not our "effort" but what we surrender to. Just wanted to point out that distinction.Oh I wasn't suggesting faking it in any sense. I was just saying that it takes specific intentional effort to a) express it, and especially in a way that your spouse receives b) receive it, especially when it's not expressed in the way that you most prefer to receive it.
... this follows naturally after a true confession.Oh I wasn't suggesting faking it in any sense. I was just saying that it takes specific intentional effort to a) express it, and especially in a way that your spouse receives b) receive it, especially when it's not expressed in the way that you most prefer to receive it.
Even with Christ, even with being fully surrendered to Him, it's still "work" in a sense. I know that runs counter to the overly romantic notions that many have about marriage and love but it's true. Sure in being surrendered to Christ, putting aside self becomes a lot easier, no argument there. But the daily actions of expressing love and respect don't "just happen." It's always going to require intentional effort by us. Work if you will. Again, the idea that love is work runs counter to many romantic notions we have, but love being work doesn't make it mean anything less, in fact it makes it mean more. And besides, it doesn't really matter does it? I mean is there really a difference between a husband meeting a need in his wife because he's so madly in love that he can't imagine doing anything else, which is the romanticized version, or him doing it as an act of will because he knows it's the right thing to do, as long as he's not complaining about it? She's still getting the need met either way and he's still doing what God expects.To me....when I hear the word, "effort".....it sounds like "strain" or as if it's our ability--our work. IMO......it's more the direction Ed was leaning.....that loving in a Christ-like way is about surrendering to HIM. Forsaking our selfish ways, our way of thinking.....and to follow His lead. The Bible tells us that if we "abide in Him, He will abide in us" and that when we are "in HIM".....our love is evidence of that relationship. It's not our "effort" but what we surrender to. Just wanted to point out that distinction.
I'm not talking about "romance" or being "madly in love". I'm talking about what the Bible says about how, "they will know we are Christians by our love." That's God's love flowing through us......without any interference on our behalf. It's seeing others through "God's lens" not ours. Surrendering to what God's course of action is.....not our own understanding. To make it about "work" DOES matter.....IMO, because that seems to be about our ability & less about God.Even with Christ, even with being fully surrendered to Him, it's still "work" in a sense. I know that runs counter to the overly romantic notions that many have about marriage and love but it's true. Sure in being surrendered to Christ, putting aside self becomes a lot easier, no argument there. But the daily actions of expressing love and respect don't "just happen." It's always going to require intentional effort by us. Work if you will. Again, the idea that love is work runs counter to many romantic notions we have, but love being work doesn't make it mean anything less, in fact it makes it mean more. And besides, it doesn't really matter does it? I mean is there really a difference between a husband meeting a need in his wife because he's so madly in love that he can't imagine doing anything else, which is the romanticized version, or him doing it as an act of will because he knows it's the right thing to do, as long as he's not complaining about it? She's still getting the need met either way and he's still doing what God expects.
True confession produces true desire.I disagree. The desire to may become more natural, more automatic, but the actual daily doing of it will always require effort on our part.
Right, we discuss.Ed, I'm not so sure we really disagree all that much on this point. All I'm saying is that "flows naturally" plays into and reinforces the overly romanticized notion that if one is really truly in love, marriage doesn't require effort. Or to put is the other way that if effort is required, then something is wrong.