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What are your age requirements for dates/potential spouses? What's the oldest and youngest you'd date, and why?
I tend to gravitate towards guys who are slightly older, but wouldn't exclude someone my own age or even a year or two younger who I had a genuine interest in. I've primarily gone to all-girls schools since the 4th grade, so I've obviously never dated a boy from my own school. I've met the guys I've gone out with through social events, youth group at church, tennis, surfing, and my brothers, and haven't always known their age at the time I befriended them. My first serious boyfriend was three years older and we were happily together for more than a year. We're both September babies, but I'm amongst the youngest in my class, and he's amongst the oldest in his. We're just two grades apart. I absolutely loved being with him and felt like the age difference was an asset in many ways. We just had more in common. The major drawback was that when he graduated and moved across country for college we knew it would be virtually impossible to maintain a long distance relationship. We did try for several months, but finally decided to break up as friends. I cried a sea of tears and then moved forward. I started dating another guy I met through surfing who is also three years older, but he goes to a local university I'm interested in attending so we don't have to deal with time differences or long distances. We took a class together this summer and were with each other every day. He sometimes gets a little flak for dating a high school girl, but once his friends have gotten to know me they're more accepting. I do think dating is going to be simpler when I'm in college.
I wouldn't date a guy who is more than three years older at this point in my life because there are too many potential complications that could arise. Guys over 20 who date teens tend to be labeled as predators, as perverts, as exploiters, even if they aren't at all. I also think that it's more challenging when one person in the relationship is a legal adult living outside his parents house, with all the privileges that go along with that, and the other is a minor who still has a curfew and other considerations. College parties crank up at 10 and my curfew is at midnight. I probably wouldn't date a guy who was more than two years younger because it's doubtful we'd have as much common ground.
Once I'm out of college I'd probably be willing to date someone of a different age range.
What are your age requirements for dates/potential spouses? What's the oldest and youngest you'd date, and why?
Something I agree with.Younger teen boys seem to not take their relationship with Christ seriously.
A word of advice: Be extra sweet and supportive of him. I'm sure he misses you, too... and he ALSO misses his parents, his best friend, his sister, his neighbors, etc. Moving away from home is tough and he probably needs a lot of support and gentleness.Interesting question.
My boyfriend is 18 and has just left for his first year of college...yes, I am so sad
My current GF is 18 (I'm 16, almost 17) I'd say that 2 or 3 years older than me is as high as I'll go. I would probably only date a girl that is a year younger than me.What are your age requirements for dates/potential spouses? What's the oldest and youngest you'd date, and why?
It hit me like a ton of bricks today . Spent most of day in tears.
My sister's boyfriend is here and I have felt like a third wheel.
I texted him for a bit but he is so busy finding his way around and getting ready for classes on Tuesday. I wish I started school on Tuesday but we are off until Sept 8th.