"nor as being lords over those entrusted to you, but being examples to the flock." (1 Peter 5:3)
So, God does not want me to try to lord myself over anyone.
This includes not trying to use any person. But love and care about every person.
Lording it over others can include using charm and lying and arguing in order to control people for what I want.
If I just control someone to do something I think God wants, this can be not good for the person if he or she is not doing the thing in the character and love of Jesus. So, I need to be an example of how God has us becoming and loving, so the grace of this can be spreading to people while they do things with us and for us.
