So far , and long may it continue , it's working
Soli Deo Gloria.... And since I seem to have jumped in (by invitation) I will TRY to abide by that.
From MY personal, fallible, often silly perspective....
1. Isn't this what all the forums are for? About? Only "orthodox" Christians may post..... they can't challenge the Nicene Creed..... they must be RESPECTFUL above all.... they cannot "flame" any other poster.....
2. It SEEMS that the rubric here is all posting just agree to play nice. AND that seems to be working! And hey, I agree - run with that! In some ways, I think that should be the case everywhere at CF. I've been a voice for moderation that is largely from fellow posters than from Staff, that it be helpful rather than punitive in nature, and that it be as transparent as possible. On the other hand, it's sometimes easier to prevent problems than deal with them. There's something to be said for uber-clear and consistent definitions and guidelines.
3. Like many here, I've been posting WAY TOO MUCH at forums like this since I was 12 years old. Thousands and thousands of posts, at probably a dozen or so similar sites. Been on staff at a few of them. In MY personal, fallible opinion, PART of the "problem" is that often, these are not academic discussions. They are often about things people feel VERY passionate, very zealous about. Issues that go to the very core of their heart, their being, life. It's HARD to be "objective" or "academic" or "theoretical" and things get...... personal. People come to defend not some point in their Catechism, but a point on which their LIFE rests. "I disagree" can - emotionally - be twisted into some threatening attack. I think it's largely unavoidable for some. I LIVE in a world of unbelievers and in my very old age have become BOTH solid/sure/certain AND a bit accepting that most will disagree with the very center of my life, the very thing I literally would die for. I've been told that, as a Christian, I suffer from a serious physiological disease, etc. Doesn't effect me at all (ANYMORE). But it took me awhile (wasn't "there" when I began posting at CF). My point: Some will twist "I disagree" or "I believe that's wrong" into something offensive or hurtful or threatening..... and then..... well, you know what happens: it all just takes on a life all it's own, feeding on itself.
4. Communication is TWO-WAY. I think two things are important: Being careful how things are said AND being careful not to take offense, even when things could have been worded better. I think it's important to not ass-ume. It takes TWO: the poster AND the reader. We are far too apt the point the finger at the poster (the other!) and evade the reader (ME!). No one MAKES anyone feel or do anything..... we need to own up to our part. It often wise to start by looking in the mirror.
If I post here - and do so inappropriately - I ask that you remember, I'm not perfect. And I'm actually a pretty nice guy. Humble and amazingly good looking, too. NO hurtful thing is EVER - EVER intended. Talk to me.... ask questions....... perhaps I can clarify (or just word things better). AND, yup, I return the favor. Very rarely "reporting" anything or anyone, very rarely taking offense. Forgiveness. Patience. The issues we discuss are, at times, passionate things..... something things we'd die for. And folks, we're going to be spending ETERNITY with each other - best not get off on a bad foot.... I try to NEVER forget that.
SORRY!!!!
Pax
- Josiah
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