I'll be 29 in July and would eventually like to marry. But I am worried that no man will want me because I have a disability. And my disability isn't something noticeable. Most of the things I struggle with are due to premature birth: difficulty with math and other developmental disabilities, as well as fatigue and a lung disease. Looking at me you'd have no clue I have a disability. Right now, fatigue is proving to be a big issue for me.
Even though I am high functioning, I'll never be able to live fully independently. I can't drive so I'll have to live in a place with a good transportation system. I can't pay my own bills, take care of my own medical records, although I can schedule my own doctor's appointments.
In a few years I'll be living in a place that helps other people with disabilities with independent living skills like money, getting a job, etc.
I am on SSI. And should I ever marry, I will lose my SSI and will go on my husband's insurance. I am worried that I would just be a burden because I can't do some of the things a wife can do. I am worried that he would resent me for something I have no control over.
This has been making really upset lately.
But, I firmly believe God has shown me that He does have someone for me.
For those with physical illnesses/disabilities, were you worried about finding someone? If you eventually married, how did you tell your spouse about your disability and how did you help him understand it?
Even though I am high functioning, I'll never be able to live fully independently. I can't drive so I'll have to live in a place with a good transportation system. I can't pay my own bills, take care of my own medical records, although I can schedule my own doctor's appointments.
In a few years I'll be living in a place that helps other people with disabilities with independent living skills like money, getting a job, etc.
I am on SSI. And should I ever marry, I will lose my SSI and will go on my husband's insurance. I am worried that I would just be a burden because I can't do some of the things a wife can do. I am worried that he would resent me for something I have no control over.
This has been making really upset lately.
But, I firmly believe God has shown me that He does have someone for me.
For those with physical illnesses/disabilities, were you worried about finding someone? If you eventually married, how did you tell your spouse about your disability and how did you help him understand it?