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Originally posted by nyj
Do I have to put up with this crap on every friggin board I go to? Dang, I may as well just hang out on Former Catholics For Christ and put up with the taunts of "pedophile by association".
You know, I don't know why people sexually abuse children, maybe it's genetic, maybe it's because they were abused as well, maybe they have an urge they feel they cannot control. Who knows?
Is the Church aware of what happened? Yes.
Is the Church trying to rectify the situation, from what I have read... yes.
So... what exactly is your point, and why do you even friggin care? All I know is, it's been proven time and again that this is not a Catholic problem, it is a human problem. Why people continually drop the flaming paper bag full of dog doo-doo on the Catholic doorstep though is beyond me. Guess the tree growing out of their eye hasn't completely blinded them yet.
Originally posted by JeTmAn
It could certainly be taken that way, but look at my original post. I never disparaged the Catholic church in any way. All I mentioned was the facts with what's going on right now. I took this to the Catholic forum because Catholics ought to know this issue best and I want to know what they think about it. If this was in the interfaith forum, you KNOW Protestants (of which I am one) would be jumping all over the Catholic church, and that's not what I want.
And you're not honestly implying that the media is trying to grill Catholics, are you? I think that suggestion would be paranoid at best.
This is being reported because it's a VERY big deal. A cardinal is implicated.
Originally posted by JeTmAn
It is especially interesting to me that priests are most often (it seems) involved with little boys. Why is that, and what is it that allows this kind of conduct to occur so often in the first place? [/B]
Originally posted by Spurious
Friend JeTmAn, I will accept your honest naivete for what it appears to be. However, consider that this forum is clearly designated in the forum list as one for "Catholics to discuss current issues with other Catholics." Consequently, your opening the door, stepping in, and asking "so why is it that Catholic priests have this problem?" (paraphrase) is tantamount to, oh, I don't know, walking into an Arabic Muslim family's home, sitting down on the sofa and asking, "so why is it that Arab men are violent murderers?" or, let's see, walking into a white Anglo-American Protestant home and saying, "so why is it that WASPs think the work ethic is more important than anything else?" or, okay, how about walking into an urban black or latino family, sitting down on their sofa and asking, "so why is it that your fathers have problems with reponsibility?"
Pretty rude, would you say not?
More significantly, your wording of the question evidences a generalization that Wolseley and others have painstakingly tried to point out. The presuppositions built into your question render it, quite honestly, unanswerable as stated.
Why do you read my behavior as paranoid? Do you think that I see a plot in the media against Catholics? Would you think I see that or would be sensitive towards such a plot because I am one and it is my religious affiliation that is being attacked?
I think the media is simply selling what sells best to the target marget.
Sex.
If this was Matthew Shepard's week, it would be fundamentalists or evangelicals being roasted.
Still, the main reason for the roast is that sex sells newspapers.
So do political scandals.
How much print do Child and Family Services foster home child abuse scandals get?
Granted that I haven't been spending the last 68 hours reading the press on this issue, but I would hasard that you are in error of fact as to this point. I have seen no articles to the effect that a Cardinal is incriminated in a child sex offender case.
The reason a Cardinal is implicated is because there is a significant change of procedure occuring withing the American Catholic church. So I would be entirely surprised if a Cardinal was not involved. He is the one with administrative authority here, and it is right that he take the heat.
Originally posted by JeTmAn
Firstly, your assumption that an internet forum is the same as private residence is quite erroneous. The internet is supposed to be a place of learning and discussion, not a haven from outside thought. The Catholic forum here is for Catholic issues, and that's what I want to discuss.
Secondly, any researcher knows that when gathering information, you go to the primary source.
It would be an ordinary thing to have a discussion with someone who's lived in the Middle East, Arab or not, about why so many people in that area of the world seem to hate America.
I haven't made any blanket statements like "all Catholic priests are molesters", and I wouldn't say something like "all Arab men are murderers" in another discussion. You're trying to see implications that are nonexistent.
We're rational beings, and if everyone is levelheaded enough we should be able to discuss issues like this.
Thirdly, yes it's true that the media loves sex, but that's not why it's covering this issue. The issue is being covered because for the first time (to my knowledge) someone with as much authority as a cardinal has admitted to knowlege of the priests' activities involving molestation. Considering that the Pope is drawn from the pool of cardinals (that is correct, is it not?), this is a significant development.
Well, it's obvious that this thread will get nowhere. It probably fared better than it would have in the interfaith forum, though.
Consider the sheer numbers of priests in the Church. Consider also that while the Church tries to be discerning in the matter of true vocations, she is not omniscient.The Church has no ability to cull unsuspected offenders from the ranks of postulants for the priesthood. And lastly, consider that while most priests have a true calling, in the cases of sexual offenders the perceived power and opportunity of a Catholic priest may be the only reason they were drawn to the Church. Many sexual predators choose positions or jobs where they will have easy access to and availability of victims.
No, friend JeTmAn, you completely and now obstinately misunderstand the purpose of this forum.
Read the stated purpose of the forum.
The internet is not ruled by you, and certainly those who have graciously allowed this thread to remain in the inappropriate forum are aware of their power to remove it and you from it.
So now you are saying that Wolseley, nyj and I are pedophiles?
If you were indeed a researcher you would know a couple of things. First, the way you frame your question determines your results. Slanted, prejudicial questions will produce slanted, prejudicial results. Second, you would look to reliable sources of authority for explanations including appropriate statistical samplings so that you can say with reasonable assurance that the grounds for your question do exist.
Key point here: I don't see a great deal of background research on your part as to the proportionality of pediophilia in the Catholic priesthood with respect to the priesthood as a whole, and I don't see any research on your part into studies done showing that there are proportionally more pediophiles in the Catholic priesthood than elsewhere.
And, if you were a researcher, I don't think you would accept the credibility of any of the posters here unless they had a PhD in Sociology or Pyschology and the respect of their peers in the field.
Yes, I suppose that is why I have seen so many in-depth interviews on the news and on other television in the days after 911 asking Arab Americans living in America to explain the situation.
No, friend, it's just that you have fallen prey to a form of prejudice that is not as easy to see in oneself as broad-brush blanket statements. It is prejudice nonetheless. You start from the presumption that "there is a pedophile priest problem" and "it's a Catholic problem." And these assumptions were required by your audience to be accepted before we could proceed further.
I know that it is hard to get one's mind around this when one is not on the receiving end, but this is prejudice by definition.
Dear friend, this statement is also prejudice of a different form. You are dictating a state of mind of your audience that depends on them coming over to your position. Certainly it is possible for rational, third-person observers to remain level-headed. But you are talking as a third-person observer to people who are feeling a tear going down the middle of their body, a tear that you share with the universe by mentioning your religious affiliation. Frankly, your expectation that your interlocutors remain levelheaded is both arrogant and unsympathetic. I said this is a different form of prejudice. What you are doing, by asserting that everyone come over to your third-person perspective and 'stop getting emotional and defensive' is your power and authority. Now, generally it is the dominant power group that invokes this power in this manner. But it is only a way of perpetuating the prejudice.
I ask you quite sincerely to research this question further. To my knowledge, the answer to that question would have to be no. Off the cuff, I can think of Cardinals in the seventeenth century, but their names are escaping me.
No, because on the interfaith forum it would have been appropriately posed without imposition upon the gracious people in this forum.