Hi friends,
First time posting and just looking for some friendly support and advice.
First of all, I’m not separated from my husband and I don’t want to be. I love him endlessly. He is a hard worker, makes me laugh constantly, is a great dad, and his faith is so foundational to him. He is 100% faithful to me, does not control or manipulate me, and is very supportive of my work, family and friends.
We met 3 years ago. While I’ve been a Christian my whole life, my husband only came to Christ about 7 years ago. It was a revelation in his life for sure and he was instantly delivered of many of the things that were part of his old life - casual inappropriate content use, weed use, drinking to excess on weekends, those kinds of things.
However, one thing he has admitted is that he hasn’t been delivered of his tongue. And if he gets really angry about something, he will use it, especially the F word. In moments when he’s been really incensed, I’ve been told to F off, go F myself, and once even to shut the F up. He is always apologetic afterwards and doesn’t make excuses for his language. It doesn’t happen often, but it hasn’t stopped happening either. We’ve been married for 2 years.
I know this is verbal abuse. He knows it is verbal abuse. Neither of us are okay with it. But I also am deeply committed to him and I want this marriage to succeed. Especially when every other aspect of our marriage is solid. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
First time posting and just looking for some friendly support and advice.
First of all, I’m not separated from my husband and I don’t want to be. I love him endlessly. He is a hard worker, makes me laugh constantly, is a great dad, and his faith is so foundational to him. He is 100% faithful to me, does not control or manipulate me, and is very supportive of my work, family and friends.
We met 3 years ago. While I’ve been a Christian my whole life, my husband only came to Christ about 7 years ago. It was a revelation in his life for sure and he was instantly delivered of many of the things that were part of his old life - casual inappropriate content use, weed use, drinking to excess on weekends, those kinds of things.
However, one thing he has admitted is that he hasn’t been delivered of his tongue. And if he gets really angry about something, he will use it, especially the F word. In moments when he’s been really incensed, I’ve been told to F off, go F myself, and once even to shut the F up. He is always apologetic afterwards and doesn’t make excuses for his language. It doesn’t happen often, but it hasn’t stopped happening either. We’ve been married for 2 years.
I know this is verbal abuse. He knows it is verbal abuse. Neither of us are okay with it. But I also am deeply committed to him and I want this marriage to succeed. Especially when every other aspect of our marriage is solid. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.