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Hey folks, I'm just curious if anyone in here is currently in a long-distance engagement, or maybe just "graduated" from one to marriage? If so, I'm curious how it played out and what kinds of things helped you cope with the distance and reduce the inevitable strain on the relationship?
My fiancee and I got engaged in March and we're getting married October 2, 2021. We met through Catholic Match in June, 2020 (and before you say we're moving too fast, we're both in our mid-thirties and have lived quite a bit of life thus far, so we know what we're looking for) and did ultra-long-distance for about six months: I'm from California and she's from Long Island. We spent the first few months getting to know each other and decided to go for it and officially court back in October. The Lord's fingerprints were all over everything as about two months in he opened up a job opportunity for me in Washington DC, which brought me about 2,000 miles closer to her. A couple months after relocating, I proposed and now that the initial excitement has seemed to wear off a bit, we're continuing to discern our vocation until June at which point we'll actually begin planning the wedding.
Sorry for the long-winded backstory. I'm just curious if there's anyone here currently living out a long-distance engagement as well? How far apart are you? How often do you see each other? How long do you plan to be engaged for?
I think it's been a bit harder for me than her, first because I'm the one who relocated. So I left behind everything I knew to start this next chapter. Second, she has twin teenagers that require a lot of her attention so she doesn't have the downtime I do to ruminate and overthink things. We try to see each other every other week, but finances being what they are, those trips add up...so we're trying to cut back to save for the wedding and thereafter. In the meantime I try to stay connected by sending her occasional flowers, or having a coffee delivered to her, and (not so much lately but typically) participate in a group rosary Zoom call with some friends every night.
Does anyone have anymore suggestions to stay connected from afar? Curious what thoughts are out there.
Peace!
My fiancee and I got engaged in March and we're getting married October 2, 2021. We met through Catholic Match in June, 2020 (and before you say we're moving too fast, we're both in our mid-thirties and have lived quite a bit of life thus far, so we know what we're looking for) and did ultra-long-distance for about six months: I'm from California and she's from Long Island. We spent the first few months getting to know each other and decided to go for it and officially court back in October. The Lord's fingerprints were all over everything as about two months in he opened up a job opportunity for me in Washington DC, which brought me about 2,000 miles closer to her. A couple months after relocating, I proposed and now that the initial excitement has seemed to wear off a bit, we're continuing to discern our vocation until June at which point we'll actually begin planning the wedding.
Sorry for the long-winded backstory. I'm just curious if there's anyone here currently living out a long-distance engagement as well? How far apart are you? How often do you see each other? How long do you plan to be engaged for?
I think it's been a bit harder for me than her, first because I'm the one who relocated. So I left behind everything I knew to start this next chapter. Second, she has twin teenagers that require a lot of her attention so she doesn't have the downtime I do to ruminate and overthink things. We try to see each other every other week, but finances being what they are, those trips add up...so we're trying to cut back to save for the wedding and thereafter. In the meantime I try to stay connected by sending her occasional flowers, or having a coffee delivered to her, and (not so much lately but typically) participate in a group rosary Zoom call with some friends every night.
Does anyone have anymore suggestions to stay connected from afar? Curious what thoughts are out there.
Peace!