stevevw
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But how do we determine the belief underpins abuse and violence before its enacted. How do we know that belief will lead to abuse and violence or not. If the content of the belief itself is what are measuring how can we determine whether that content will cultivate abuse and violence before it turns into abusive and violent controlling behaviour.Yes; but my point is that the only useful thing for that purpose is the content of the beliefs. Not whether or not they are rational.
That seems like an arbitrary determination. If judgements are subjective then that is not a good basis as its more or less using subjective beliefs to measure subjective beliefs.Untrue. We can identify the beliefs which underpin abuse without needing to make any judgement about their rationality or otherwise.
But that same hierarchy on its own may be a green flag, a positive and healthy setup for society. You can't automatically say that they are a red flag. Thats like saying marriage is a red flag for abuse, business partnership or any relationship is a red flag for abuse.No; but we can say that belief in hierarchies is one of a cluster of beliefs which underpin abuse. On its own it might only be a red flag; along with acceptance of violence, dynamics of control and rigid roles, that would be much more of a concern.
So therefore you are identifying particular patterns of thinking and beliefs that abusers have for which non abusers don't have right. In doing so we are also identifying these patterns as unjustified because they are destructful based on the facts that abuse causes harm.Well, no. That's not really the point. We can look at the pattern; if many abusers all give justifications along the same lines, and we do not observe those beliefs in those who do not abuse, we start to see where the beliefs which underpin abuse are.
Therefore we can say these patterns of thinking and beliefs are irrational and unreal to hold, to engage in compared to non abusers and we should find ways to discourage such patterns of thinking and beliefs by helping abusers to change their cognitions, beliefs and attitudes to more positive ones like non abusers.
We can't say a pattern of thinking and belief is unjustified unless we can have a rational basis to compare with ie (x) thinking and belief patterns are normal and healthy parenting compared to (y) thinking patterns and beliefs are unhealthy and destructive parenting. Which then has to be based on objective facts and not belief itself. That can only happen with some clinical or objective determination.
So in doing this research do we find certain thinking patterns and mindsets that abusers and violent people have in common. Are there certain profiles we can develop on which type of coignitions and psychological states would be more open and supceptible to holding such beliefs.Well, yes. We do the research with known abusers, so that we can then apply what we know to others.
Why not. If they are by definition engaging in abusive behaviour and we can objectively say so then if they truely believe that their behaviour is good for the child, good for themselves and the world then we can prove that their thinking and beliefs are unreal. Just the same as if someone said that eating rat poison is good for you.Actually, what I was trying to say is that you cannot automatically characterise them as irrational.
If they truely believe that rat posion is good for you when its factually not then there is something wrong with their mindset. The world they have created in their head that says that eating rat poison of destroying their child is healthy is unreal in light of the clear objective fact its not.
This will be the case for every abuser or every person that thinks and believes such counter factual ideas. That is the basis we use to try and eliminate this type of thinking and beliefs out of society.
And I have been saying over and over that when it comes to human wellbeing and health like every other objective measure of health and wellbeing we have scientific, rational and objective facts, data that shows that this thinking and behaviour is destructive to human wellbeing and health.I have been saying, over and over, that "rational" is not the same as right, and "irrational" is not the same as wrong.
On that basis if someone claims that their destructive beliefs and behaviours are healthy and good for a child or any persons wellbeing and health we can confidently say that this is an unreal and irrational conclusion and behaviour. Just like we can say sticking a needle in your arm with dugs is self destructive or eating too much fatty foods is destructive for your health.
But how do you tell it underpins abuse when that belief has yet to be identified as underpinning abuse before it has been acted out. Like with any new beliefs people may hold today that may underpin abuse.Not at all. We only need to demonstrate that particular beliefs underpin abuse.
The other problem is that even when we identify beliefs that underpin abuse we still don't change them and even promote them because of belief itself.
Because these issues are about how we should be as parents, individuals and order society its often one ideological belief against another. How do we work out which belief is best and will not lead to abuse when people will believe in abusive ideas and are blind to seeing that they are destructful.
I'm not talking about obvious ones we now know due to the abuse they underpin. I am talking about identifying future beliefs, current beliefs and attitudes in society that may be underpinning and cultivating abuse and violence in the future.We have that evidence. That work has been done. We know what those beliefs and attitudes are. This is very well established.
We need some factual basis that identifes the type of mindset and patterns in cognition itself and not based on subjective judgements. Because those subjective judgements may themselves be beliefs underpinning abuse in the future.
Why would a parental belief scale not measure parent beliefs about abuse. As you said there are certain patterns of thinking and believing that abusers have than non abusers don't have. I suggest it is their differences that we can identify which determine the thinking and beliefs behind abuse for which these scales measure.But they are not measuring likelihood to abuse. Because abuse is not driven by what they are measuring.
So is there any different cognitions or psyche associated with this cluster of beliefs that is different to non abusers as well.Yes, but not in the way that you are claiming. Only in that an abuser holds a cluster of beliefs that non-abusers do not.
Why is it not up for discussion. Isn't it related. Doesn't it contribute to cultivating abuse and violence generally. If oppressive systems create downtrodden communities and downtrodden communities have the highest rates of abuse and violence it makes sense that reducing downtrodden communities will lead to reductions in abuse and violence.Systemic oppression is an issue, but it is not what we are discussing in this thread.
But I think these discussions are the very thing that brings the understanding of what drives abuse in households. We can focus on the immediate issue of abuse happening in households but thats always playing catchup in that we are responding after the abuse.I think, though, that it takes away our focus from the immediate problem. Sure, we can talk about ideologies of power and control and hierarchy more generally, but we don't even have a basic shared understanding of these as the problem which drive the very particular problem of abuse in the household. We need to build that first.
To prevent abuse happening in the first place we need to clarify exactly which ideas and beliefs upstream lead to abuse in households. Like I said the upstream belief that say allowing people to be downtrodden in society as acceptible or promoting violence in the media may be part of why abuse and violence is cultivated.
No sense picking out certain beliefs as bad when at the same time allowing other beliefs that will undermine any work on trying to change peoples beliefs and behaviour. It send a mixed and conflicting message. We have to be consistent and unified.
That seems a strange way to determine abuse. It seems experimental like lab rats. We will try an untested experiment that may harm people but when it does we will know that its not good. In the mean time the harm done is just an unfortunate side effect of our testing methods.We could relax the restriction and see if harm results. No harm; no need for the restriction.
I suggest we can do better than that and by using other testing methods like identifying the types of cognitions that always lead to irrational beliefs of some sort is better. At least we have a identifiable pattern to use as a basis.
We can then use other factors to build a better identification of high risk mindsets and behaviours upstream that will lead to abusive and violent behaviour. We can predict such behaviour in society and put preventative measures in place which will not only prevent abusive and violent behaviour but other destructive and anti social behaviour.
Oh thats right we already do that and it works. Its called the etiological appraoch to social health and wellbeing. But you seem to think abuse is somehow immune to this approach when it works for every other abusive and destructive behaviour.
Scam, manipulations coersion they are all employed to sucker people in. Manipulation markets, pressurising doctors, offering incentives to push one treatment over others is a form of coersion. Its just using legal but unethical manipulations that are available within the same system.A scam is not a good thing, but it is not the same as coercion.
The end result is people are not given free choice as to what may be best but their free choice is being limited to certain options pushed by a system that may not care about what is best for you bit what is best for them. Most people are ignorant to this and just go along like sheep thinking the system has their best interests when it doesn't.
Free choice is only as good as the choices you are given. Like in politics we have a free choice to vote for whichever party we want. But that is useless when all choices are no good.
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