- Jun 17, 2020
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Hello Everyone, I'm looking for advise and encouragement about my marriage. I don't really know where to start. I'm married for 6 years , me and my husband are both christians and have a difficult marriage. I struggle so much that I just want to get out of this marriage, my husband also struggles very much and we just are trying to survive. In short, I have a lot of shortcomings. Coming from a 'dysfunctional' family and that caused many issues even into my marriage. Like, for example I have been stopped from developing myself. My dad was unable to be a husband to my mom and father for his children. (he is not a christian) And my mother (she was a christian) sheltered me too much and I was fine with that. I'm working on all my shortcomings though it takes time. And I need time to heal from the hurts of my past, but my husband is not patient with that. We had many conflicts over this. Even from the beginning of our marriage. We are working on it and even I asked many advises from some christians around us. And they said God hates divorce and all marriages have conflicts. They gave us books, prayed. Things did get better between me and my husband. But whenever we have a conflict, it is too much for my husband. Whether it is 1 conflict a month or 1 per week. And after a conflict he needs major time to recover... He is exhausted and seem a bit depressed. I don't blame him for that. I hate conflicts too. And now I'm getting depressed. I'm regretting my marriage more and more, seeking ways to get out of it. My husband is 12 years older than me and I'm starting to regret that even more. The hard thing is I never even knew I came short so much until after I got married. Even I talked with my mom whether it was fine to marry him, considering the age difference. She was totally for it and she even thought I would be crazy not to marry him, when she was still alive. My husband he is a stronger christian than I am and he has done a lot for me. But he has also hurted me and blamed me for many things. I blamed him too, I hurted him too, so I'm not any better. He is doing his best to be patient, I respect him for that, but I just feel more and more difficult about all of this. Like, this was all a big mistake. Should I just leave?
I really need advise on this. Thank you in advance.
I really need advise on this. Thank you in advance.