Serving Zion
Seek First His Kingdom & Righteousness
I am always inclined to ask for both sides of the story before making judgements, because his behaviour in the first family and his eventual ejection from it doesn't necessarily mean that he is the one in error (as I mentioned before, that majority opinion isn't necessarily a gauge of quality of opinion .. keep in mind that the world ejected Jesus Christ and they keep doing so to His kind - Isaiah 57:1, Matthew 23:34-35) .. so the question is what came first - the chicken or the egg?He's my step-dad.
I don't personally think the hatred and resentment comes from envy. It's something he's grown accustomed to because of what he went through with his previous family. He has countless problems with his siblings, relatives, children, and friends and I'm beginning to think he was the main cause of every single one of those issues because of who he is as a person. When it's 40 verses 1 person, I think we can all guess who the bad one is. If his previous family got rid of him like yesterday's garbage, then it explains a lot about him. He's constantly bad mouthing them, yet never tells us what he did to deserve it...
I will speak to everyone today and get everyone up to speed with these conversations and what to do next. Thank you for the response.
.. since he is expressing that he feels he was treated with injustice, it's obviously a type of cry for help, and when that happens, it can only happen for so long until the answer comes and a person is either healed, or descends into denial in order to continue. So you would have to really sound him out and see whether he has had that opportunity before being able to judge him as being wrong rather than afflicted. I know that there are more physicians who do harm than those who are able to help a suffering man these days (consider Job's story and the three "helpers").
Besides this, I know that some people are beyond helping, and they need to first reach the end of their course for calamity to bring about a change of heart. So I'd be inclined to ask why is he your step-father? .. is your mother having the same problems with him, and if so, then when did it begin being a problem for her? When you say that the whole family is being bothered by it, it implies that there is some entitlement of those ones to expect better conditions.. whereas if your mother and he are content together and the rest of the family is of an age of independence, then righteous judgement might come upon you for whatever consequence befalls him after your actions to eject him (consider whether it could possibly trigger suicide). The Torah of God really is that complex, so far as the spiritual impact of the actions we take.
It's good food for thought in general, because you can't always go ahead and do whatever you think is right without considering the rights of the others whom you are acting against (eg: Mark 10:9, Luke 17:1-2). He is obviously going through a struggle that is proving too much for him to handle alone, and as a family you do have some responsibility to Christ in His redemptive work (Galatians 6:1-2) - and the question is then whether he is willing to cooperate, which is further complicated given the relationship of a commonly implied generational authority (and, that is exactly the nature of the struggle when wrestling a beast).
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