Hello! I am looking for some advice/suggestions. Here is some background information:
My husband and I would be considered to be of the quiverfull mindset. (We do not yet have any children though.) We are not using any type of birth control and we believe that the possibility and timing of any child is in God's hands.
When people ask if we are "trying" to have children, we briefly explain our conviction and then if further explanation is needed, we simply say, "We are not "trying", but we are not preventing it either. It is in God's hands." People usually get the point then.
However, I have an acquaintance who consistently asks me, each time I speak with her, whether or not my husband and I are still "trying." She is a married Christian woman, but is on BC and believes children should be planned. She has tried to argue with me in the past that the decision to be quiverfull is irresponsible, so I know what she thinks about my husband's and my conviction. I do not agree with her, but I respect her enough not to argue about it.
When she asks me if we are still "trying" I politely tell her that we are leaving it up to the Lord and aren't preventing anything. (Like I have told her many times before.) She just doesn't seem to want to leave the topic alone, even when I try to change the subject. I am tired of her asking. Our minds are NOT going to change. Honestly, I have started to avoid her in recent months because of her constant questioning and condescending tone. It is not pleasant conversing with someone when you keep getting questioned over and over about something that is not going to change.
Anyway, do you have any suggestions on what I should do or say? Am I wrong to let this friendship fizzle out? We don't really have anything in common and never really have. We're just old acquaintances from middle school who have kept in touch over the years.
Thank you in advance for any advice or suggestions you have. Have a wonderful day!
My husband and I would be considered to be of the quiverfull mindset. (We do not yet have any children though.) We are not using any type of birth control and we believe that the possibility and timing of any child is in God's hands.
When people ask if we are "trying" to have children, we briefly explain our conviction and then if further explanation is needed, we simply say, "We are not "trying", but we are not preventing it either. It is in God's hands." People usually get the point then.
However, I have an acquaintance who consistently asks me, each time I speak with her, whether or not my husband and I are still "trying." She is a married Christian woman, but is on BC and believes children should be planned. She has tried to argue with me in the past that the decision to be quiverfull is irresponsible, so I know what she thinks about my husband's and my conviction. I do not agree with her, but I respect her enough not to argue about it.
When she asks me if we are still "trying" I politely tell her that we are leaving it up to the Lord and aren't preventing anything. (Like I have told her many times before.) She just doesn't seem to want to leave the topic alone, even when I try to change the subject. I am tired of her asking. Our minds are NOT going to change. Honestly, I have started to avoid her in recent months because of her constant questioning and condescending tone. It is not pleasant conversing with someone when you keep getting questioned over and over about something that is not going to change.
Anyway, do you have any suggestions on what I should do or say? Am I wrong to let this friendship fizzle out? We don't really have anything in common and never really have. We're just old acquaintances from middle school who have kept in touch over the years.
Thank you in advance for any advice or suggestions you have. Have a wonderful day!