may be a crazy question

[dogs4thewin]

but I am 23 and lost my boi father two days ago after two rounds of stupid colon cancer. Is it normal as a ( granted young adult) to really want him back; even though I KNOW he is gone like I know the sky is blue?

 

[PegasusOnFire]

completely normal. My Grandmother passed 1.5 years ago and I still catch myself getting ready to call her about a recipe or to complain to her about my mom or sister.

 

[dogs4thewin]

When will the "is he really gone" go away?

 

[PegasusOnFire]

When will the "is he really gone" go away?

I don't know, it is different for each person. Just have to take it one day at a time. praying for you.

 

[dogs4thewin]

bad day pain will not go away.

 

[1watchman]

Try thinking of some good times before the passing, and be glad for those experiences, and some things you learned and appreciate from your father. One can be thankful for the contributions made by those who have now moved on. God says "there is a time to be born and a time to die" and we need to be able to let go and hold the memories. We too will pass on one day. Look up and pray for strength and leading, and God's will.

 

[dogs4thewin]

Try thinking of some good times before the passing, and be glad for those experiences, and some things you learned and appreciate from your father. One can be thankful for the contributions made by those who have now moved on. God says "there is a time to be born and a time to die" and we need to be able to let go and hold the memories. We too will pass on one day. Look up and pray for strength and leading, and God's will.

see that is the thing when it comes to my OWN mortality I have accepted it better than most my age. Have even made decisions on issues such as DNR order and treatments that I will die before accepting. When it comes to OTHERS mortality I tend to fail to do so.