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@ diana092086:
Do you think this is so because you are too full of yourself? What room is there in you for God?
Wouldn't that be a work of my own to "make room" for God?
You aren't a puppet. Or a robot. You are response-able - responsible - for the choices you make. In any case, I didn't suggest that you make room. I was merely observing the problem you're having with God.
I know all these things. I've tried to ask God/surrender to Him. I know so much. I know all these things that are supposed to happen in the Christian life but without being one. I think I'm deceiving myself.
I don't think you do know "all these things." Or, perhaps, the problem is that, while knowing them, you don't really understand them.
I'm still afraid that I've learned too much to be genuine and sincere. Jesus says to come to Him with childlike faith - I've way complicated things and wanted to figure everything out before coming to Him. So, I think it's too late for me - as if I know all the things I'm supposed to think, say, do that it's not authentic. I feel like I'm an impostor, an actress, a phony. I'm seeing more and more how horrible I am and have been - like I stated in my original post, I've never felt like my own person. I've always wanted to be like someone else. Never really having any good desires of my own. Looking back on my childhood and growing up, I was shy and insecure. I didn't make friends easily. I didn't love being around tons of people. And I thought of this today and it's really, really awful - I bonded with and became best friends with someone who "got me," someone who was shy like me, someone I could vent to and complain to about others. We bonded over making fun of others, being critical, negative. At the time, I didn't think that was abnormal. I didn't see how evil that was and now I do. I think that's just who I am and I can't change myself. And I think that if I go to God now that it's not sincere. That I'm going to Him to change me because I want to go to heaven and not that I really feel bad I've offended Him. I'm still just concerned about me. I'm rotten through and through.
It's a certainty that you are deceiving yourself in some way. We all are. That's why God is so necessary. He peels off the blinders of self-deception that we cannot recognize we have. And these blinders must come off if we are to walk well with Him.
I know this too. But I don't know how to let Him. I know He chooses some, not all. He draws who He saves. He chooses, then who He chooses responds to Him. I can't choose Him.
Uh oh. I can see now part of your underlying problem: Calvinist/Reformed theology. There are better, more biblically-accurate, more rational, approaches to the doctrines of salvation than Calvinism:
www.soteriology101.com See also "Molinism" at www.reasonablefaith.org
You can and must freely choose God. He does the work of drawing you, convicting you, illuminating your mind to His truth, persuading you to choose Christ, but, in the end, you must choose. As I said, you aren't a robot or puppet. It won't wash, then, to take refuge from your unwillingness to bend your knee to God in the Calvinist idea of Election. It is not God's fault that you are unwilling to yield to Him; it's entirely yours.
Thank you for the resources. I'll have to check them out. Does He do that for everyone though - the drawing, convicting, illuminating truth, persuading to Christ? Because when I've read the Bible, I've just read it and it's been over my head. I always questioned its truth. So, I went outside the Bible to "verify." Some people have said that some people will read the Bible, find it to be true, find God (His sheep? (My sheep hear my voice...?)) while others will read it, do not get it, and do not find God (the goats?) I've never seen the beauty and glory of Christ. I know as facts that I'm a sinner, Christ died for sinners...but it hasn't been personal for me. It's just in my head to where it hasn't really affected me. So when I've seen true believers and their response to God, I wondered what was wrong with me. I know we're supposed to respond in gratitude and love. But that was never my genuine response. Again, I fear it's too late for me because I know I should respond in gratitude and love but it wouldn't be genuine for me knowing that. I think about this too - that if it was just me and the Bible, I wouldn't see or experience God's love. It's when I talk with others, learn from others about how they see and experience God, that I think it's possible to for me to see and experience God in that way too. But then I go on my own again and only see and experience the judgment and wrath. It's like no matter what I do, I can't see His love for me. I don't get it. I feel like I'm immune to it, to the Gospel.
I feel in a way this would be me trying to save myself - trying to focus on Him, dwell on Him and that I'm still without the Holy Spirit.
God has made every one of us to be conformed in some measure and way to that upon which we focus. It's just human nature. Why would God not use this characteristic to His ends in our lives? You will be conformed to your focus. If your focus is upon you, you will remain caught in yourself, growing more and more hardened in who you are. But if you'll turn your eyes upon Christ, as the Bible commands, and keep your focus upon him, human nature being what it is, you will begin to be conformed to him. Is this saving yourself? No. But it is cooperating with God in the transformation He wants to work in you.
So, say I'm not saved, can I still do this? I just feel like I'd be insincere and only operating in my flesh and without the Holy Spirit.
Some people just can't believe. I really wish I could. I know I can't make myself.
Forgive me for being blunt, but this is nonsense. It is so...human of you to try to distance yourself from your responsibility to choose Christ. The fact is, you can't go a day without exercising faith in something: your hairstylist, your doctor, your dentist, the mailman, the cook at your favorite restaurant, the power company, other drivers on the road, and so on. You can believe and you do so all the time. You simply don't want to believe in God. He gets in the way of running your own life as you like, of being your own boss.
Can you make yourself want God? No. But you can certainly appeal to God to change what you desire.
I want heaven (or so I think) but I'm pretty sure I don't want God. I've learned also that God only hears (responds to) the prayer of repentance from sinners. Otherwise, the prayers of sinners are an abomination and He doesn't answer them or respond to them. He only answers prayers of believers and if it's according to His will. So, that's been another hindrance for me (learning too much that it's harming me...no wonder He said come to me with childlike faith) I think He won't hear me or that it's not His will to save me.
I'm still afraid of hell.
And so you should be. This is the eternal destiny of all those who want their own way rather than God's, who want to be their own god. God will give each of them exactly what they want: an existence separate from Him where they can absorb themselves entirely with themselves forever.
I've always asked about their faith and desired that kind of faith for myself - so I tried to learn so much to see if that would help me, but it didn't.
Learning about God cannot make up for knowing Him personally. Knowledge of God is important, but it is not God Himself. But this is what you need. Not more facts about God, but God Himself. The problem is, you want yourself more than you want Him. This only God can change. And He will as you persist in asking Him to do so. You aren't beyond God's power to change - though I think you may want to be.
You're right - I do want myself more than God. With reference to above about the prayers, I fear He won't hear me though. That He knows I want myself more than Him. And He knows better than I do. I think I want heaven and Him but maybe I really don't. I don't want to suffer in hell. I see true believers and would like what they have (I've also learned that no one seeks after God. People may seek after the benefits/comforts but not God Himself) So, I think that's me (another hindrance) and that I don't want God but the benefits.
I just don't think I'm chosen. I don't know what to do anymore. Walk away? - I really don't want to. Kill myself? - I really don't want to. I wish I just had a simple faith in Him and had that relationship. I just feel like I'm forcing something that's not for me.
Well, of course it's not you. You are, left to yourself, only about you. You know enough to know you ought to be different and some part of you seems to want that, so take the small step of asking God to change you. You don't have to have some great, swelling desire to change. A tiny glimmer of interest is enough. But act on that glimmer and press God to do what only He can do in you.
None of us is "chosen" in the Calvinist sense. That's just irrational nonsense. We are elect in Christ. All those who choose him become elect in him. You can't escape being responsible for what you choose. You know the Gospel, you know the truth of God's revelation of Himself in His word, and now you are doubly responsible for what you do with that knowledge.
Killing yourself is not the answer. Yielding to God is. Are you so self-obsessed that you would die rather than submit yourself to your loving, gracious Creator?
You make it sound so appealing - submitting to my loving, gracious Creator. So then I want to (or so I think I do) but maybe I don't understand what it means and don't really want to. I overthink and overanalyze everything. I've confused myself to nth degree with all these things so I'm not even sure what exactly I need to repent of, maybe I'm thinking things are sin and maybe they're not (I'm very OCD, have particular ways of doing things, being organized, etc.) my brain is so messed up. I also know so many things I ought to do and I often do them out of duty/obligation but not that I genuinely want to do them. Example: I'm genuinely not compassionate but "put on" a compassionate attitude but feel so fake since that's not how I genuinely feel.
Like I said earlier, I just feel empty and void too.
This is exactly how you ought to feel without God on the throne of your heart where He should be. When He is not seated there, you are not whole.
I'm not really impressed by much. I feel so hardened. I know how terrible I am - I've asked God to save me so many times.
Are you thinking that when you ask God to save you that somehow you ought to be instantly and forever transformed into an all-perfected saint? God saves sinners. He saves miserable, sin-cursed wretches caught up in all sorts of vile things. And when He does, He then sets about cleaning them up and deepening them in their walk with Him. This is a life-long process of transformation, however; it does not happen instantly. Every child of God comes to love God more and more over time; every child of God comes to trust Him more and more over time; every child of God comes to enjoy God more and more over time; and every child of God learns to die to themselves more and more over time.
Has God saved you? I don't know. Do you exhibit the marks of God's indwelling Spirit?
No, I don't have any evidence that He's in me. That's another thing I've learned. I'm waiting for the fruits of the Spirit but then I'm afraid of deceiving myself - that I'm trying to walk in love, peace, joy but it's just me in my flesh.
Have you ever heard of such a messed up, crazy, disaster of a person as me and that they got better? I feel like I didn't just simply trust God and now I know so much that I'm monitoring what God is doing in my life. I'm so bad. And I didn't realize what I was doing until the last few months and still fear it's too late for me.
I know the facts in my head but have trouble really believing in my heart.
What does "believing in my heart" mean, exactly? Do you think the faith you have as you begin to walk with God is as deep and full as it will ever be? Will your faith not expand as you journey with God? Scripture teaches that it does. So, then, why is a small faith at the start of your walk with God an issue? It's not.
I know the facts in my head but don't know if I believe them for myself is what I mean.
I haven't always believed it - I've questioned and have been skeptical.
So have I. Questioning and healthy skepticism is good. It's part of being a thinking, rational person. Here are some websites that will help answer your questions and challenge your skepticism:
www.crossexamined.org
www.reasonablefaith.org
www.str.org
Maybe I'll never believe. I really want to believe - I want to go to heaven. I don't want to live in fear. I wish I wanted God for God.
And what is supposed to happen as you focus on your lack of faith? Will your faith be encouraged? Will it be helped to grow by your despairing over its weakness? No. Take what little faith you have, what little desire to believe you've got and allow God to build on it. Take whatever small steps toward God that you can. He is not asking you to be a spiritual giant overnight. Like a baby learning to walk, the immature believer needs a lot of support and assistance as s/he learns to stand and gains the strength to walk and run.
Again, I just feel like I know so much that I need to be obeying every little thing that I know. That it's my punishment for running ahead and wanting to be a perfectionist. I overthink everything. I still see God as an angry taskmaster and not a loving Father. So that's how I operate even though I know in my head that's not right. I think I should be this, do that, say this, think that (but it's not sincere) I'm just a mess. My mind is crazy. I think I've been "given over" to my lusts and desires for knowledge and being my own god. My mind is just constantly fixated on this and I'm constantly feeling condemned. I think true believers at least have a balance where they're not constantly obsessing about God and all this stuff. I don't know how to shut off this brain. Quiet it down. And I don't know if I can say enough to get anyone to understand the madness I've gotten myself into. I wish I wasn't this obsessive, overthinking, overanalyzing mess.
And thank you again for your replies and support.
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